larussel03
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ETA: some background: FI and I live in a 2 story dog friendly apartment complex on the first floor. We just moved in a little over a month ago.
So, tonight FI was taking our newish (2 year old adopted a month ago) dog out, and our neighbor happened to be coming in. He started a conversation with FI with "oh, do you live in apartment ###?, well just so you know, your dog has woken me up barking at night and early in the morning".
OK, I have heard her bark at night and early in the morning maybe 2 or 3 (honestly maximum 3) times since we got her (we just adopted her a month ago from the humane society) during the night when people would be sleeping...obvi b/c she woke us up, but she hasnt in at least a week or two, since she's now settling in and has decided to sleep in the living room (which is right next to our bedroom).
FI just said, "OK, we'll see what we can do" and then as he started to leave the man said "oh, and, when you leave, she scratches at the door for an hour". That kind of makes me mad b/c I know that she scratches for like a minute, but then once we're gone she doesnt (I have waited in earshot on many occasion and snuck back to peep in our windows and seen her walking around fine).
OK, I know apartment walls are thin...I mean really I can hear people walking around above me all the time all through the night. I have no idea what they're doing (honestly sometimes sounds like they're jumping on a trampoline or something!) but I wouldn't complain b/c that's just how it is in an apartment.
I mean, of course, I'm not there when FI and I are both gone, so she may scratch, but we just got her, she was abandoned, and she may have some separation anxiety and it'll take a little time to completely work out. He then concluded with saying "the walls are thinner than you think".
The scratching at the door, I really can't do anything about...she doesnt do any damage at all to the door, so I doubt she really scratches for an HOUR at a time (there is literally not a scratch left on the door...I think she scratches only for a min or two when we leave her alone). I've left and sat far away where I could still hear (by the font door) and she tends to stop after a minute or two...then when I come home she does not scratch, even though she hears me approaching and at that point is at the door.
Now I'm concerned that he may complain to the landlord, even though he didnt say if he would--we are allowed to have dogs, but the "pet occupancy" lease says that the "pet shall not be allowed to run at large, or disturb neighbors".
During the day she barks from time to time, but I'd think no more than any other dog her size (she's a medium sized dog, so the gal can bark loudly sometimes).
What can I do??
Should I get one of those collars that sprays them when they bark? That seems mean, but if he complains I may have to...maybe I can keep her out of the bedroom (his apt is adjacent to the wall of our bedroom).
Should I talk to the neighbor? FI thinks that's probably not best, but I dont know?
Should I talk to the landlord, and make clear our situation and for them to advise us if there are any complaints at all immediately so we can get the collar?
Or should I just wait and see if anything happens?
I just really really dont want to have to give up the dog...she was abandoned previously I dont want her to go through it again and we love her so much. I really dont think waht she does is different than any other dog, but if he complains that could possibly cause a problem.
Part of me wants to be defensive and be like "well, you moved into a complex where dogs are allowed," but I dont really feel that's the real issue here, and there are lots of other BIG doggies living around...maybe I'll drop in on one of these dog owners and ask if they've had any experience with this and what they did.
Im just worried and paranoid that he'll complain and cause us grief and possibly cause us to have ultimately give up our dog.
ETA...again: I swear I know how to spell impressed...haha
What should I do???
So, tonight FI was taking our newish (2 year old adopted a month ago) dog out, and our neighbor happened to be coming in. He started a conversation with FI with "oh, do you live in apartment ###?, well just so you know, your dog has woken me up barking at night and early in the morning".
OK, I have heard her bark at night and early in the morning maybe 2 or 3 (honestly maximum 3) times since we got her (we just adopted her a month ago from the humane society) during the night when people would be sleeping...obvi b/c she woke us up, but she hasnt in at least a week or two, since she's now settling in and has decided to sleep in the living room (which is right next to our bedroom).
FI just said, "OK, we'll see what we can do" and then as he started to leave the man said "oh, and, when you leave, she scratches at the door for an hour". That kind of makes me mad b/c I know that she scratches for like a minute, but then once we're gone she doesnt (I have waited in earshot on many occasion and snuck back to peep in our windows and seen her walking around fine).
OK, I know apartment walls are thin...I mean really I can hear people walking around above me all the time all through the night. I have no idea what they're doing (honestly sometimes sounds like they're jumping on a trampoline or something!) but I wouldn't complain b/c that's just how it is in an apartment.
I mean, of course, I'm not there when FI and I are both gone, so she may scratch, but we just got her, she was abandoned, and she may have some separation anxiety and it'll take a little time to completely work out. He then concluded with saying "the walls are thinner than you think".
The scratching at the door, I really can't do anything about...she doesnt do any damage at all to the door, so I doubt she really scratches for an HOUR at a time (there is literally not a scratch left on the door...I think she scratches only for a min or two when we leave her alone). I've left and sat far away where I could still hear (by the font door) and she tends to stop after a minute or two...then when I come home she does not scratch, even though she hears me approaching and at that point is at the door.
Now I'm concerned that he may complain to the landlord, even though he didnt say if he would--we are allowed to have dogs, but the "pet occupancy" lease says that the "pet shall not be allowed to run at large, or disturb neighbors".
During the day she barks from time to time, but I'd think no more than any other dog her size (she's a medium sized dog, so the gal can bark loudly sometimes).
What can I do??
Should I get one of those collars that sprays them when they bark? That seems mean, but if he complains I may have to...maybe I can keep her out of the bedroom (his apt is adjacent to the wall of our bedroom).
Should I talk to the neighbor? FI thinks that's probably not best, but I dont know?
Should I talk to the landlord, and make clear our situation and for them to advise us if there are any complaints at all immediately so we can get the collar?
Or should I just wait and see if anything happens?
I just really really dont want to have to give up the dog...she was abandoned previously I dont want her to go through it again and we love her so much. I really dont think waht she does is different than any other dog, but if he complains that could possibly cause a problem.
Part of me wants to be defensive and be like "well, you moved into a complex where dogs are allowed," but I dont really feel that's the real issue here, and there are lots of other BIG doggies living around...maybe I'll drop in on one of these dog owners and ask if they've had any experience with this and what they did.
Im just worried and paranoid that he'll complain and cause us grief and possibly cause us to have ultimately give up our dog.

ETA...again: I swear I know how to spell impressed...haha
What should I do???