Allisonfaye
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I watch Super Nanny. I pride myself on being consistent and firm. My kids are sweet girls. But we are beginning to develop a bit of a discipline problem. A bit of background: My girls are 3.5 and 5. My five year old, Isabella, is basically a sweet girl, but not the most energetic kid in the room (which I totally understand siince I am the same way). My 3 year old is a little sparkplug and has a million times my energy. She gets that from her dad. With Isabella, the biggest problem is getting her to keep moving. She knows what she is supposed to do, she just can''t seem to follow through. She says ''it is not fun to get ready''...but she loves where we are going...preschool, swim lessons, whatever. I tried reward charts (stickers), marble jars, screaming, you name it...I can be screaming in her face and she is moving so slow, I think she is going to go backwards. I know I shouldn''t be screaming. I just don''t know what to do.
My other daughter, Olivia, is the little rule breaker. If you draw a line in the sand, she crosses it EVERY TIME. She thinks it is fun. It wasn''t so bad if she wasn''t tired, but now, even if she is not tired, she breaks the rules. She KNOWS what they are. Don''t throw your cup on the floor. Don''t climb through the rungs on my other daughters footboard (I am afraid she will get choked). But she just goes for it. I take away her books (we read every night). I put her to bed without songs. I tried a marble jar for her. Didn''t work. I admittedly have spanked her. She laughs. I worry that if I don''t get her in line now, she will be in jail by the time she is 16.
Then sometimes, they just egg each other on. Like when I am taking them both home from camp. I know they are stimulated from camp. But they hang on me and roll on the floor and tickle each other. I want to crawl under the rug, I am so embarrassed by their behavior. They aren''t like this everywhere. They can go into a store and behave appropriately. They seem to have difficulty with transitioning from one enviornnment to another, which I guess is somewhat common.
I am at my wits end and I feel like I am a terrible mom. My husband is supportive and he is firm with them, too. I notice that when HE puts Olivia in the corner, she tends to stay, but when I do it, she gets out over and over. I tend to think that they know the mom is the soft place to land so they can only be so fearful of her. Also, a mans voice is deeper and maybe a little scarier?
HELP!
My other daughter, Olivia, is the little rule breaker. If you draw a line in the sand, she crosses it EVERY TIME. She thinks it is fun. It wasn''t so bad if she wasn''t tired, but now, even if she is not tired, she breaks the rules. She KNOWS what they are. Don''t throw your cup on the floor. Don''t climb through the rungs on my other daughters footboard (I am afraid she will get choked). But she just goes for it. I take away her books (we read every night). I put her to bed without songs. I tried a marble jar for her. Didn''t work. I admittedly have spanked her. She laughs. I worry that if I don''t get her in line now, she will be in jail by the time she is 16.
Then sometimes, they just egg each other on. Like when I am taking them both home from camp. I know they are stimulated from camp. But they hang on me and roll on the floor and tickle each other. I want to crawl under the rug, I am so embarrassed by their behavior. They aren''t like this everywhere. They can go into a store and behave appropriately. They seem to have difficulty with transitioning from one enviornnment to another, which I guess is somewhat common.
I am at my wits end and I feel like I am a terrible mom. My husband is supportive and he is firm with them, too. I notice that when HE puts Olivia in the corner, she tends to stay, but when I do it, she gets out over and over. I tend to think that they know the mom is the soft place to land so they can only be so fearful of her. Also, a mans voice is deeper and maybe a little scarier?
HELP!