Blenheim
Ideal_Rock
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I''m not completely sure where to start. The only things I had told my fiance about what I wanted in a diamond was that I wanted an ideal cut or very close to it, and that I did not want a princess or marquise (no offense to anyone who has them, they''re just not me). I had shown him some diamonds that PS vendors had listed online, but he just feels that this isn''t one of those purchases that you make online. He went ring shopping under some time pressure, as he had to catch a flight later that day. He first went to BBB, and everything there was out of his price range. He went to J B Robinson (a mall store, owned by the same people who own Kay''s and all of them), and found the ring that he got me. I don''t think they had particularly good cut diamonds there, but he could afford what they had and got me something that he thought I would like. He said that he could have bought an ideal diamond if he had waited a few months to propose, but that he just wanted to marry me and didn''t want to wait any longer to ask me.
When he first proposed, he didn''t remember the cut info and from the little research I did on PS, I kind of doubted that the store he went to would have the best cut diamonds. It is sparkly, and I love the setting, but I feel like I''ve been trying to convince myself that it''s perfect. Well, he found the IGI (not GIA, as I thought he told me) certificate today:
Shape/Cut: Round Brilliant Cut
Measurement: 5.18-5.20 x 3.15 mm
Weight: 0.51 carat
Color: Colorless(F)
Clarity: SI2
Polish/Symmetry: Good/Good
Treatment: None
There was no specific cut information or anything like that. I assume that if they were great, they would have sent it to be graded by a laboratory who graded cut.
My fiance and I were discussing some of the stories on PS about girls being disappointed in their rings a couple of weeks ago, and he specifically told me that he wanted to know if I wasn''t completely happy. Well, after I saw the certificate, I kind of broke down. I asked him some more questions about how he shopped for the ring and what they told him and what he was looking for. I finally told him that while I''m really looking forward to marrying him and elated that he proposed, and I love that he listened to me about the setting, I was having doubts about the diamond. My PS education left me wanting an ideal diamond. While we don''t know much about the cut of this one, I at least want to see how it performs against an ideal diamond.
J got very quiet. He''s still not sure what he''s thinking. He really wants me to be happy (which is why he wanted to know if I''m not 100% in love with it), but he''s a little mad at me and he''s a little mad at himself. He feels like he had one thing to do and he messed it all up. He can''t handle much more diamond talk today, but he told me to go ahead and ask you girls what to do. Maybe I should have posted in Rocky Talky, but I think that we both need emotional advice as much as anything. I''m upset at myself for caring so much and for upsetting him, and he''s upset at himself for not getting it right. He''s taking a nap, and hopefully he''ll have a better idea of what he''s thinking when he gets up.
I looked at J B Robinson''s return policy, and we''re still in the window. Quest, which is in the area, lists on their website a signature ideal F SI2 0.60 carat diamond for a couple hundred less than he paid for the one he got me. They have others in the price range if we want to play around with color and clarity.
I asked if he wanted to look there, just so that we can try to make a more informed decision. He thinks he''s okay with going, but not today. I called Quest to see what their store hours are, not realizing that you have to have an appointment, and I ended up setting up an appointment for tomorrow. I suppose I can cancel it if he decides he doesn''t want to go after all.
Oh, to complicate things, both of us are heading back to rural Virginia on Wednesday.
My mom realized that I was upset, and I told her some of what''s been going on. She thinks that I should pick my battles, that this shouldn''t be one of them, and wishes that I could take it back.
I''m not quite sure what kind of advice I''m asking for here, since it''s too late to ask whether I should talk to him, how to handle it, etc. What other steps should we try to take? Generally, how should we both handle this? Any emotional advice?
When he first proposed, he didn''t remember the cut info and from the little research I did on PS, I kind of doubted that the store he went to would have the best cut diamonds. It is sparkly, and I love the setting, but I feel like I''ve been trying to convince myself that it''s perfect. Well, he found the IGI (not GIA, as I thought he told me) certificate today:
Shape/Cut: Round Brilliant Cut
Measurement: 5.18-5.20 x 3.15 mm
Weight: 0.51 carat
Color: Colorless(F)
Clarity: SI2
Polish/Symmetry: Good/Good
Treatment: None
There was no specific cut information or anything like that. I assume that if they were great, they would have sent it to be graded by a laboratory who graded cut.
My fiance and I were discussing some of the stories on PS about girls being disappointed in their rings a couple of weeks ago, and he specifically told me that he wanted to know if I wasn''t completely happy. Well, after I saw the certificate, I kind of broke down. I asked him some more questions about how he shopped for the ring and what they told him and what he was looking for. I finally told him that while I''m really looking forward to marrying him and elated that he proposed, and I love that he listened to me about the setting, I was having doubts about the diamond. My PS education left me wanting an ideal diamond. While we don''t know much about the cut of this one, I at least want to see how it performs against an ideal diamond.
J got very quiet. He''s still not sure what he''s thinking. He really wants me to be happy (which is why he wanted to know if I''m not 100% in love with it), but he''s a little mad at me and he''s a little mad at himself. He feels like he had one thing to do and he messed it all up. He can''t handle much more diamond talk today, but he told me to go ahead and ask you girls what to do. Maybe I should have posted in Rocky Talky, but I think that we both need emotional advice as much as anything. I''m upset at myself for caring so much and for upsetting him, and he''s upset at himself for not getting it right. He''s taking a nap, and hopefully he''ll have a better idea of what he''s thinking when he gets up.
I looked at J B Robinson''s return policy, and we''re still in the window. Quest, which is in the area, lists on their website a signature ideal F SI2 0.60 carat diamond for a couple hundred less than he paid for the one he got me. They have others in the price range if we want to play around with color and clarity.
I asked if he wanted to look there, just so that we can try to make a more informed decision. He thinks he''s okay with going, but not today. I called Quest to see what their store hours are, not realizing that you have to have an appointment, and I ended up setting up an appointment for tomorrow. I suppose I can cancel it if he decides he doesn''t want to go after all.
Oh, to complicate things, both of us are heading back to rural Virginia on Wednesday.
My mom realized that I was upset, and I told her some of what''s been going on. She thinks that I should pick my battles, that this shouldn''t be one of them, and wishes that I could take it back.
I''m not quite sure what kind of advice I''m asking for here, since it''s too late to ask whether I should talk to him, how to handle it, etc. What other steps should we try to take? Generally, how should we both handle this? Any emotional advice?