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Thanks to both, Luv2sparkle (thanks for the prayers too, they DO help) and Whitby (my PS sister!
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Wow Whitby, that was a very detailed reply and I appreciate it SO much! Since you asked for so much info, this is LONG, be prepared!
First, I must say...not every day has been horrible...I''ve had many ups and downs, today/this week I have been down, so I kind of felt the need to vent!
That said, I am also the kind of person to try to look for the good side of situations, I try to get over things, perhaps before I am really ready to do so, you know what I mean? Like the whole issue with my husband... he started doing better, so I immediately went into ''glad that''s over'' mentality and I really didn''t deal with what I had gone through as a result of his problems. I think the BP happened almost as a result of ''looking on the bright side'' and not honoring or facing the ''heck'' I had gone through too...I have tried to acknowledge that and intentionally tried to ''put those things behind me'', while holding onto the valuable lessons I learned from the experience. I am not totally down in the dumps all the time, just wanted to let you know that in case I had given the wrong impression there!
What I''m left with now is much more of the physical effects...the extra ''body baggage'' (why is it, ''the bigger the better'' with diamonds, but not pants size?
)... I am wearing my trials on my body.
Thankfully most of the facial pain has subsided for now, except for when I touch my face...I am hoping I won''t have a return of the continual pain...but it can happen during the healing process. And I do look a LOT better, I look fairly normal now, but it is very noticeable when I try to smile and speak...and my eye waters/tears drip when I eat (a nerve ending reaction, ugh)... So I do ''see me'' when I look in the mirror again, but it''s frustrating when I try to smile and it''s not happening yet! And I do know/am hopeful it will come back soon...not giving up there, AT ALL...just stinks in the meantime!
As far as the exercise goes, I did try a slight/easy routine, I have to be careful because BP even damages the nerves in the neck muscles, so if I use those muscles before they are healed, it can lead to future permanent side effects/damage. And shortly after I started to exercise a bit, is when the last bad flare started up...so I am going to wait a bit longer to try again. My body is stressed and I think if I do anything ''extra'' it could cause it to go wacky again. I have a Pilates machine and that is what I am going to try next, but no arm exercises, to avoid stressing that neck area muscle.
About the noninflammatory diet, I''ve tried it! I couldn''t stick to it though... However, I am a natural/supplement/health nut (you''d never know it to look at me)...my mom calls me a ''Witch Doctor'' because I know the alternative health treatments for a lot of health issues...if I don''t know the answer, I research it..that''s what''s frustrating, I know what I am supposed to be doing and what I should do, but I can''t keep it up long enough before I blow it and give into my food addiction. I just don''t have it in me right now to keep it up, ya know?
And I take D supplements (and others!) because I am very fair skinned and avoid the sun like the plague. But, I have very few wrinkles as a result...I take great care of my skin, I only use organic skin products, as I am allergic to many ingredients in commercial products...and before all of this started, no one could believe I was 40 or turning 40...my husband is turning 46 next month and he looks very young as well, he JUST started getting a couple silver hairs, he has like 8 total! Now I look older than he does in some ways...now people seem shocked when I tell them I''m 41, like they thought I was older... I know 41 is not old, but I FEEL old...Also am the youngest of seven siblings, I''ve always been ''the baby'', so when others think I look old, I MUST be looking ragged! We have a 19 year old son and no one could believe he was ours, because neither hubby nor myself looked our age....until now.
Hubby and I have been married 22 years, as of April 11th...we have two kids (sons)..our oldest is 19 and moved out a couple of months ago, but will be back with us in a few weeks (job prospect didn''t pan out) and for the last couple of years I have been at home full time...it''s not like we are wealthy and I have sacrificed a lot of material things to be a SAHM, but it has been worth it! I study a lot of different subject and love to read, which is mainly what I''ve been doing! Then I found "PS" - LOL and have to get my bling fix here too!
About the cracked diamond, well...it wasn''t an expensive stone, it was/is a .79 pt. champagne diamond, which I LOVE...the color is exactly what I wanted, so it''s not just the $$ investment, it is a one of a kind color that I don''t think I''ll be able to replace. It''s just a soft, pretty/pinkish color that has lots of fire and sparkle. I got the stone the day before Christmas and had it set a month later, in the early weeks of coping withe the BP...it helped to have something to look forward to...then a week after it was set I noticed the crack...I can still wear it and am wearing it, but there''s no telling how long it will stay intact. But it represented a new start for us, I was looking forward to renewing our vows, etc. and that had been ruined as well. So it felt like everything I had been looking forward to had been tainted in some way. I am beginning to get a complex!
We live in the northern part of the US, we have a beautiful home (house)...but yeah, the weather here can be difficult! This last winter was a bear and with the BP, the cold weather is one of the worst triggers for a flare up, so I hibernated A LOT...and felt very isolated too. I''ve been getting our more often, going to church again, but today I was just aching all over and too tired to go.
About the perimenopause thing, actually, it can and does start in the late 30''s for most women, but not everyone has symptoms that early. I am talking about PRE-menopause, not full blown menopause. And I know that is part of what is going on with me...I have always been ''hormonal'' and have had mood swings, so this makes sense for me, to have it start earlier than what other women experience. I am waiting on a new supplement and hope it will help somewhat. But I will have it checked, but doctors don''t always do the best job with pinpointing what''s going on hormonally...I know I need to get the nutritional aspect under control too. I am just exhausted, physically, emotionally and mentally...I need to feel better to get better...some days are just overwhelming, some are great....some are in between! But that''s how life is for most people, isn''t it? Trying to take one day at a time...and prayer helps too.
Thanks for the virtual hugs and cup of tea ladies! (I drink LOTS of green tea every day, love it!)
And thanks for being so sweet, caring and supportive Whitby! I enjoy all of your posts!
Wow Whitby, that was a very detailed reply and I appreciate it SO much! Since you asked for so much info, this is LONG, be prepared!
First, I must say...not every day has been horrible...I''ve had many ups and downs, today/this week I have been down, so I kind of felt the need to vent!
That said, I am also the kind of person to try to look for the good side of situations, I try to get over things, perhaps before I am really ready to do so, you know what I mean? Like the whole issue with my husband... he started doing better, so I immediately went into ''glad that''s over'' mentality and I really didn''t deal with what I had gone through as a result of his problems. I think the BP happened almost as a result of ''looking on the bright side'' and not honoring or facing the ''heck'' I had gone through too...I have tried to acknowledge that and intentionally tried to ''put those things behind me'', while holding onto the valuable lessons I learned from the experience. I am not totally down in the dumps all the time, just wanted to let you know that in case I had given the wrong impression there!
What I''m left with now is much more of the physical effects...the extra ''body baggage'' (why is it, ''the bigger the better'' with diamonds, but not pants size?
Thankfully most of the facial pain has subsided for now, except for when I touch my face...I am hoping I won''t have a return of the continual pain...but it can happen during the healing process. And I do look a LOT better, I look fairly normal now, but it is very noticeable when I try to smile and speak...and my eye waters/tears drip when I eat (a nerve ending reaction, ugh)... So I do ''see me'' when I look in the mirror again, but it''s frustrating when I try to smile and it''s not happening yet! And I do know/am hopeful it will come back soon...not giving up there, AT ALL...just stinks in the meantime!
As far as the exercise goes, I did try a slight/easy routine, I have to be careful because BP even damages the nerves in the neck muscles, so if I use those muscles before they are healed, it can lead to future permanent side effects/damage. And shortly after I started to exercise a bit, is when the last bad flare started up...so I am going to wait a bit longer to try again. My body is stressed and I think if I do anything ''extra'' it could cause it to go wacky again. I have a Pilates machine and that is what I am going to try next, but no arm exercises, to avoid stressing that neck area muscle.
About the noninflammatory diet, I''ve tried it! I couldn''t stick to it though... However, I am a natural/supplement/health nut (you''d never know it to look at me)...my mom calls me a ''Witch Doctor'' because I know the alternative health treatments for a lot of health issues...if I don''t know the answer, I research it..that''s what''s frustrating, I know what I am supposed to be doing and what I should do, but I can''t keep it up long enough before I blow it and give into my food addiction. I just don''t have it in me right now to keep it up, ya know?
And I take D supplements (and others!) because I am very fair skinned and avoid the sun like the plague. But, I have very few wrinkles as a result...I take great care of my skin, I only use organic skin products, as I am allergic to many ingredients in commercial products...and before all of this started, no one could believe I was 40 or turning 40...my husband is turning 46 next month and he looks very young as well, he JUST started getting a couple silver hairs, he has like 8 total! Now I look older than he does in some ways...now people seem shocked when I tell them I''m 41, like they thought I was older... I know 41 is not old, but I FEEL old...Also am the youngest of seven siblings, I''ve always been ''the baby'', so when others think I look old, I MUST be looking ragged! We have a 19 year old son and no one could believe he was ours, because neither hubby nor myself looked our age....until now.
Hubby and I have been married 22 years, as of April 11th...we have two kids (sons)..our oldest is 19 and moved out a couple of months ago, but will be back with us in a few weeks (job prospect didn''t pan out) and for the last couple of years I have been at home full time...it''s not like we are wealthy and I have sacrificed a lot of material things to be a SAHM, but it has been worth it! I study a lot of different subject and love to read, which is mainly what I''ve been doing! Then I found "PS" - LOL and have to get my bling fix here too!
About the cracked diamond, well...it wasn''t an expensive stone, it was/is a .79 pt. champagne diamond, which I LOVE...the color is exactly what I wanted, so it''s not just the $$ investment, it is a one of a kind color that I don''t think I''ll be able to replace. It''s just a soft, pretty/pinkish color that has lots of fire and sparkle. I got the stone the day before Christmas and had it set a month later, in the early weeks of coping withe the BP...it helped to have something to look forward to...then a week after it was set I noticed the crack...I can still wear it and am wearing it, but there''s no telling how long it will stay intact. But it represented a new start for us, I was looking forward to renewing our vows, etc. and that had been ruined as well. So it felt like everything I had been looking forward to had been tainted in some way. I am beginning to get a complex!
We live in the northern part of the US, we have a beautiful home (house)...but yeah, the weather here can be difficult! This last winter was a bear and with the BP, the cold weather is one of the worst triggers for a flare up, so I hibernated A LOT...and felt very isolated too. I''ve been getting our more often, going to church again, but today I was just aching all over and too tired to go.
About the perimenopause thing, actually, it can and does start in the late 30''s for most women, but not everyone has symptoms that early. I am talking about PRE-menopause, not full blown menopause. And I know that is part of what is going on with me...I have always been ''hormonal'' and have had mood swings, so this makes sense for me, to have it start earlier than what other women experience. I am waiting on a new supplement and hope it will help somewhat. But I will have it checked, but doctors don''t always do the best job with pinpointing what''s going on hormonally...I know I need to get the nutritional aspect under control too. I am just exhausted, physically, emotionally and mentally...I need to feel better to get better...some days are just overwhelming, some are great....some are in between! But that''s how life is for most people, isn''t it? Trying to take one day at a time...and prayer helps too.
Thanks for the virtual hugs and cup of tea ladies! (I drink LOTS of green tea every day, love it!)
And thanks for being so sweet, caring and supportive Whitby! I enjoy all of your posts!
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Ara Ann- I have been thinking of you all day, because I can so feel the pain of where you are. Recovery can be such a long process and you never feel like you are
getting anywhere. Ask people you love if they can see changes in you. We watch ourselves and don''t really see how much improvement we have made, but other
people who dont see us as much notice. That always made me feel better when my son was recovering. I was with him everyday so I didn''t notice the improvement.
Whitby: my kids accidents were both in 2003. The first in April and the second on Nov 3. We lived in Lake Arrowhead, CA and were evacuated for the huge
wild fires. My husband was working (he''s a fire fighter) The kids and I were evacuated for 3 weeks, and my son went to San Diego with a friend because they
had concert tickets in a few days. The night my husband got off and we were going to be able to go up the mountain and see if we still had a house, Ryan
was in his accident. He was in a jeep cherokee and the seats collapsed and the doors came unlatched and he was thrown 60 feet on his head. He was in
a coma for months and really not expected to live. I never believed that though. I remember when we got the news and just about collapsing and telling
God I couldnt do this again. As we were driving to San Diego, and I was praying for him, I truly felt the Lord telling me he was going to be okay. So I never
doubted it when the doctors told me over and over that he wouldnt make it. I often joke that God''s idea of okay and mine are very different. He is brain injured,
and really in a lot of ways, we did lose Ryan on that day, he is not the same person at all. However, he is still with us, and it could have been much worse.
We spent a full year in therapy everyday with him and that was grueling, but he walks, talks and pretty much takes care of himself. There are many miracles
that were done for him. One firefighter came upon the scene of the accident, off duty, and put pressure on an artery that had been cut on his head. Had he not
done that Ryan would have bled out. We tried to find the guy to thank him. We have an inside track because my husband is a firefighter. We contacted every
agency. Cant find him. I think he was an angel. Someday, when I meet my boys guardian angels, their halo''s will be bent and crooked, their clothes torn and
probably look a little beat up. They have worked overtime. Because of product liability issues and insurance he was able to get a settlement that will take care
of him after we are gone. So we are blessed.
Shane had 5 surgeries and a lot of therapy too, but he is for the most part completely recovered. Because of all the trauma for a young kid, we have dealt
with drug issues with him as well. But the things I have learned is this. Life changes in a second and we dont know what tomorrow will hold so we do our
best for today. We try to focus on what is good and let tomorrow take care of itself. If I think about the future, I make myself crazy. I trust the God who hold
my future in His hands. That has helped me get though it all. Geez-I hope this wasnt depressing! Ara Ann- hang in there, I''ll be praying.
getting anywhere. Ask people you love if they can see changes in you. We watch ourselves and don''t really see how much improvement we have made, but other
people who dont see us as much notice. That always made me feel better when my son was recovering. I was with him everyday so I didn''t notice the improvement.
Whitby: my kids accidents were both in 2003. The first in April and the second on Nov 3. We lived in Lake Arrowhead, CA and were evacuated for the huge
wild fires. My husband was working (he''s a fire fighter) The kids and I were evacuated for 3 weeks, and my son went to San Diego with a friend because they
had concert tickets in a few days. The night my husband got off and we were going to be able to go up the mountain and see if we still had a house, Ryan
was in his accident. He was in a jeep cherokee and the seats collapsed and the doors came unlatched and he was thrown 60 feet on his head. He was in
a coma for months and really not expected to live. I never believed that though. I remember when we got the news and just about collapsing and telling
God I couldnt do this again. As we were driving to San Diego, and I was praying for him, I truly felt the Lord telling me he was going to be okay. So I never
doubted it when the doctors told me over and over that he wouldnt make it. I often joke that God''s idea of okay and mine are very different. He is brain injured,
and really in a lot of ways, we did lose Ryan on that day, he is not the same person at all. However, he is still with us, and it could have been much worse.
We spent a full year in therapy everyday with him and that was grueling, but he walks, talks and pretty much takes care of himself. There are many miracles
that were done for him. One firefighter came upon the scene of the accident, off duty, and put pressure on an artery that had been cut on his head. Had he not
done that Ryan would have bled out. We tried to find the guy to thank him. We have an inside track because my husband is a firefighter. We contacted every
agency. Cant find him. I think he was an angel. Someday, when I meet my boys guardian angels, their halo''s will be bent and crooked, their clothes torn and
probably look a little beat up. They have worked overtime. Because of product liability issues and insurance he was able to get a settlement that will take care
of him after we are gone. So we are blessed.
Shane had 5 surgeries and a lot of therapy too, but he is for the most part completely recovered. Because of all the trauma for a young kid, we have dealt
with drug issues with him as well. But the things I have learned is this. Life changes in a second and we dont know what tomorrow will hold so we do our
best for today. We try to focus on what is good and let tomorrow take care of itself. If I think about the future, I make myself crazy. I trust the God who hold
my future in His hands. That has helped me get though it all. Geez-I hope this wasnt depressing! Ara Ann- hang in there, I''ll be praying.
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Ara Ann...praying for you..and {{{{{{hugs}}}}}}
luv2sparkle...Amen to your last paragraph, and big {{{hugs}}} to you, too. We''ve had serious trials with our son, too, but honestly, how you went through two traumas like that back-to-back is almost more than I can imagine.
Whitby, you certainly are a great encourager! Maybe you need a hug, too, while I''m at it...{{{{hugs}}}!
luv2sparkle...Amen to your last paragraph, and big {{{hugs}}} to you, too. We''ve had serious trials with our son, too, but honestly, how you went through two traumas like that back-to-back is almost more than I can imagine.
Whitby, you certainly are a great encourager! Maybe you need a hug, too, while I''m at it...{{{{hugs}}}!
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Luv2sparkle – I just said some prayers for Ryan and Shane – praying that Ryan’s body finds more ways to heal – even a little bit – and that Shane finds a peace within himself and, for some reason, is no longer afraid. Does that seem relevant to you re Shane? Just felt relevant on this end…(I could easily be barking up the wrong tree and, if I am, pls forgive me. I’ve just found that people with drug issues so often also have fear issues.)
Ara Ann – you’ve obviously made a lot of progress over the last year! This is a good place to vent – have at it! It seems to me that PS women are great listeners!
Packrat – I..um…I don’t know what to say to that! Thank you is probably best. ☺
And – I got a hug from diamondseeker2006! I can never have too many and often need them.
Some fascinating stuff going on in this thread…
Ara Ann – you’ve obviously made a lot of progress over the last year! This is a good place to vent – have at it! It seems to me that PS women are great listeners!
Packrat – I..um…I don’t know what to say to that! Thank you is probably best. ☺
And – I got a hug from diamondseeker2006! I can never have too many and often need them.
Some fascinating stuff going on in this thread…
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I think I am the heaviest PSer.
I am five feet two, and weigh 205, down from the 211 I was last Monday. I am 35, and look it and then some.
I had some life issues, yep...but in a happier place now and getting happier.
It suddenly hit me last weekend that I often start diets, and then undermine them, because I didn''t feel worthy of looking decent. I was paying attention to too many voices of people who don''t matter anyway.
On a short trip with husband and best friend at the moment, and both were impressed that I wasn''t even tempted to order desserts or soda, and that I order appetizers and salad to control portion sizes at restaurants.
I am calmer, and happier.
I am five feet two, and weigh 205, down from the 211 I was last Monday. I am 35, and look it and then some.
I had some life issues, yep...but in a happier place now and getting happier.
It suddenly hit me last weekend that I often start diets, and then undermine them, because I didn''t feel worthy of looking decent. I was paying attention to too many voices of people who don''t matter anyway.
On a short trip with husband and best friend at the moment, and both were impressed that I wasn''t even tempted to order desserts or soda, and that I order appetizers and salad to control portion sizes at restaurants.
I am calmer, and happier.
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It 4 am and I am up to get my youngest and husband off for a school trip- yikes- okay- but then I am going on my first ever all alone trip- to the beach for
a week BY MYSELF. If I was awake, i would be excited.
Whitby; Shanes issue with drugs came on for two reasons. His accident and Ryans. The boys were so tight, best friends really. Shane lost his brother and all of
their friends. Kids dont know how to deal with brain injury. He had a few more traumas, he was attacked at school and beat up. He had to stand there and take
it so as not to be suspended. Then we moved him to a new school off the mountain, and a few other things. What 16 year old know how to deal with that much
pain. He was self medicating.
In the first of this year we took him to a detox and they gave him a opiate blocker that was implanted in his abdomen. It blocks any cravings, and you cant use
drugs on it. They wont work. Anyway, he is doing great, and going to therapy. We can only pray he makes it, but I feel great about it!
a week BY MYSELF. If I was awake, i would be excited.
Whitby; Shanes issue with drugs came on for two reasons. His accident and Ryans. The boys were so tight, best friends really. Shane lost his brother and all of
their friends. Kids dont know how to deal with brain injury. He had a few more traumas, he was attacked at school and beat up. He had to stand there and take
it so as not to be suspended. Then we moved him to a new school off the mountain, and a few other things. What 16 year old know how to deal with that much
pain. He was self medicating.
In the first of this year we took him to a detox and they gave him a opiate blocker that was implanted in his abdomen. It blocks any cravings, and you cant use
drugs on it. They wont work. Anyway, he is doing great, and going to therapy. We can only pray he makes it, but I feel great about it!
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hi reader 
this isn''t really relevant to what you were saying but...
i saw your photo in the ''real life perspectives'' thread - and you look exactly like my favorite cousin!
(sorry - this is apropos of nuthin'', i realize - but you just doooo!)
re what you actually did write tho...i''m with you on the eating when not calm thing/not eating when calm. to eat well, i need to focus. i''m currently doing an anti-inflammation diet; looooots of fish and no sugar or hard fats, and altho it really agrees with me, i have to be organized well in advance for it. altho i never drink sodas (just never been a fan), i am the dessert QUEEN, and i''ve reached a point where i''ve realized - i cant do this. at all. ever, really. so if i get cravings for sugar, or something sweet, i go and eat protein. it kind of distracts my body - staves off hunger pangs and, altho it doesnt give me the sugar fix i want, it fills me up and distracts my appetite. my new best friend is egg salad - yummmmm. oh, and i eat olives and nuts now for snacks, and fish most days of the week - if not for dinner, then for lunch. this is not a huge change from normal, but the biggest change i''m making for this new healthy regime is not eating out. the contents of my house has always been healthy - no junk at all really - but we eat out a LOT, and that''s where i fall down. and i''ve never met a patisserie i didn''t have something in common with.
i think i have a mild allergy to sugar also, and when i dont eat it my pulse drops around 15 BPM over about a 2 week period. it also takes a lot of redness out of my skin.
anyway, i love desserts - but i just think they''re ''done'' for me. even my easter eggs are still sitting in a bowl in my bedroom. eeeeeven my cadbury creme egg - tho that baby is still calling to me, i''ve gotta admit! (hey! it''s breakfast time! and it''s an egg... eggs...breakfast...i could be onto something here, right??)
this isn''t really relevant to what you were saying but...
i saw your photo in the ''real life perspectives'' thread - and you look exactly like my favorite cousin!
(sorry - this is apropos of nuthin'', i realize - but you just doooo!)
re what you actually did write tho...i''m with you on the eating when not calm thing/not eating when calm. to eat well, i need to focus. i''m currently doing an anti-inflammation diet; looooots of fish and no sugar or hard fats, and altho it really agrees with me, i have to be organized well in advance for it. altho i never drink sodas (just never been a fan), i am the dessert QUEEN, and i''ve reached a point where i''ve realized - i cant do this. at all. ever, really. so if i get cravings for sugar, or something sweet, i go and eat protein. it kind of distracts my body - staves off hunger pangs and, altho it doesnt give me the sugar fix i want, it fills me up and distracts my appetite. my new best friend is egg salad - yummmmm. oh, and i eat olives and nuts now for snacks, and fish most days of the week - if not for dinner, then for lunch. this is not a huge change from normal, but the biggest change i''m making for this new healthy regime is not eating out. the contents of my house has always been healthy - no junk at all really - but we eat out a LOT, and that''s where i fall down. and i''ve never met a patisserie i didn''t have something in common with.
i think i have a mild allergy to sugar also, and when i dont eat it my pulse drops around 15 BPM over about a 2 week period. it also takes a lot of redness out of my skin.
anyway, i love desserts - but i just think they''re ''done'' for me. even my easter eggs are still sitting in a bowl in my bedroom. eeeeeven my cadbury creme egg - tho that baby is still calling to me, i''ve gotta admit!
(hey! it''s breakfast time! and it''s an egg... eggs...breakfast...i could be onto something here, right??)
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hi luv2sparkle - good morning!
i hope you have a wonderful week away - it sounds really restful
i''m a developmental psychologist (kids) by training, and worked in my own practice for many years. i also used to do volunteer work for some years at a drop in center for drug users. the number of people we''d get there who came from great homes and wonderful families was heartbreaking - it was so easy to imagine what their familes were going through. i think the fear i was referring to that i saw a lot was something that seemed to come after a person was an addict; i never met an addict who was thrilled with where their life was heading. i''m so sorry he had to go through so much, luv2; life seems to be no respecter of lack of years with what it throws at kids sometimes, does it?
anyway, i know the implant you''re referring to - good for you! and him too, obviously. that''s a really pro-active step, and i can imagine that life has taken on a way more positive spin for all of you. so... yay!
what are you hoping to do on your week away? i hope you have a great time!
i hope you have a wonderful week away - it sounds really restful
i''m a developmental psychologist (kids) by training, and worked in my own practice for many years. i also used to do volunteer work for some years at a drop in center for drug users. the number of people we''d get there who came from great homes and wonderful families was heartbreaking - it was so easy to imagine what their familes were going through. i think the fear i was referring to that i saw a lot was something that seemed to come after a person was an addict; i never met an addict who was thrilled with where their life was heading. i''m so sorry he had to go through so much, luv2; life seems to be no respecter of lack of years with what it throws at kids sometimes, does it?
anyway, i know the implant you''re referring to - good for you! and him too, obviously. that''s a really pro-active step, and i can imagine that life has taken on a way more positive spin for all of you. so... yay!
what are you hoping to do on your week away? i hope you have a great time!
***luv2sparkle, wow...I am really moved by your faith and thank you for sharing your experiences with us! You are an amazing woman and mother! I have two sons too, so I can relate to the moms of sons, but thankfully I haven't had to go through anything close to what you have experienced and I pray I never will. Our oldest son is our more difficult child, he's a good kid and not into trouble, but he just doesn't have any focus yet, doesn't know what he wants to do with his life...but he's getting there...he's the kind of kid that has to learn by doing, not just by listening to advice...and he usually does things the hard way, LOL, but my prayer for him is that God will protect him and keep him and get him on the right path. Something I have learned by experiencing the BP, while it's uncomfortable and not fun, by no means is it the worst thing that could happen...it has taught me to be grateful, because like you have said, we just don't know what each day brings, be thankful for where you are, who you are and for the people you love...because things can and do change quickly. I am praying for you and for both of your sons as well. (HUGS)... A mother's love can believe and hope for the best against all odds and heal like no medicine can...your sons are both blessed to have you as their mom!
***Diamond Seeker, thanks for the hugs and prayers too!
Very much appreciated!
***Whitby, I agree about PS ladies being great listeners! See? A love of diamonds can be a really good thing!!
Thanks for starting this thread!
***reader, sounds like you are on the right track and congratulations on losing the 6 pounds so far! I know what you mean, about feeling unworthy, I think any of us that 'self-sabotage' and stop doing what we know is good for us, have some hidden low self worth issues...I hope that things will go great for you from now on! Keep up the good work!
***Diamond Seeker, thanks for the hugs and prayers too!
***Whitby, I agree about PS ladies being great listeners! See? A love of diamonds can be a really good thing!!
***reader, sounds like you are on the right track and congratulations on losing the 6 pounds so far! I know what you mean, about feeling unworthy, I think any of us that 'self-sabotage' and stop doing what we know is good for us, have some hidden low self worth issues...I hope that things will go great for you from now on! Keep up the good work!
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Good morning all you lovely ladies. Okay, I''m awake now. Had to go catch a few more zzzz''s after that early wake up call. Didnt keep me off the computer
though! Thank you for all your really kind words, prayers and thoughts. Although our lives read like a bad soap, we are really holding up well. At times, both
my husband and I get weepy at some unexpected moment. Seeing a photo, of when the kids were so young and cute and we had no idea what was coming,
kind of did us in for a moment a few weeks ago. But you pick up, you know. I hope the week will be restful. I feel like I need a little break and to not be
anyone''s mom for a few days, a recharge if you will. I am bringing lots of books (I read fast), and some embroidery I have been doing. The hotel is on the
beach and is so cute. I will take long walks on the beach and I am going to a local health club for workouts.
We usually go to Pismo each year as a family. We have a trailor that we store at the beach so the area is really familiar to me. We always seem to spend a lot of
time at Wal-mart when we are there, so I am going to try to stay away from it if I can. Maybe I will see a movie. Go to SLO for market night. There is a couple
really nice jewelry stores in SLO.
I have always said, my first three kids have just about killed me! (oldest is a daughter). My fourth son, got all my husbands genes, and (dont tell the others) is
pretty much the perfect kid. Kind, tenderhearted, got straight A''s all through school, (never even had 1 B), graduated as Salutatorian, got several scholarships,
accepted to every college he applied to, chose UCLA so he could come home often. The list goes on and on. He is an aberration! He is so above the rest of us,
there is no sibling rivalry. A roll of the eyes occasionally, but he is so nice the others cant dislike him. I have always told the kids, the difference is not that Cody
is smarter than you, he is not, the difference is he works harder. It is true. I could go on and on about him. His list of awards and accomplishments is staggering.
He is such a blessing as a counterbalance. We just went to AZ last weekend because the yearbook he was the editor of in high school was receiving a journalism award. They won first place! It was such a happy! He is a freshman in college now.
Lesley emailed me that my new stone is coming today. I am going to have to hijack a computer somewhere to see the pics! I had better get to the gym before I
go-Whitby- I have been doing the anti-inflamation diet as well. I am allergic to sugar and milk. Its a bit hard and I have fallen off the wagon but it is worth it.
I feel so much better when I do it.
I better get going- I will check in when I get back. You are all such a blessing to me!
though! Thank you for all your really kind words, prayers and thoughts. Although our lives read like a bad soap, we are really holding up well. At times, both
my husband and I get weepy at some unexpected moment. Seeing a photo, of when the kids were so young and cute and we had no idea what was coming,
kind of did us in for a moment a few weeks ago. But you pick up, you know. I hope the week will be restful. I feel like I need a little break and to not be
anyone''s mom for a few days, a recharge if you will. I am bringing lots of books (I read fast), and some embroidery I have been doing. The hotel is on the
beach and is so cute. I will take long walks on the beach and I am going to a local health club for workouts.
We usually go to Pismo each year as a family. We have a trailor that we store at the beach so the area is really familiar to me. We always seem to spend a lot of
time at Wal-mart when we are there, so I am going to try to stay away from it if I can. Maybe I will see a movie. Go to SLO for market night. There is a couple
really nice jewelry stores in SLO.
I have always said, my first three kids have just about killed me! (oldest is a daughter). My fourth son, got all my husbands genes, and (dont tell the others) is
pretty much the perfect kid. Kind, tenderhearted, got straight A''s all through school, (never even had 1 B), graduated as Salutatorian, got several scholarships,
accepted to every college he applied to, chose UCLA so he could come home often. The list goes on and on. He is an aberration! He is so above the rest of us,
there is no sibling rivalry. A roll of the eyes occasionally, but he is so nice the others cant dislike him. I have always told the kids, the difference is not that Cody
is smarter than you, he is not, the difference is he works harder. It is true. I could go on and on about him. His list of awards and accomplishments is staggering.
He is such a blessing as a counterbalance. We just went to AZ last weekend because the yearbook he was the editor of in high school was receiving a journalism award. They won first place! It was such a happy! He is a freshman in college now.
Lesley emailed me that my new stone is coming today. I am going to have to hijack a computer somewhere to see the pics! I had better get to the gym before I
go-Whitby- I have been doing the anti-inflamation diet as well. I am allergic to sugar and milk. Its a bit hard and I have fallen off the wagon but it is worth it.
I feel so much better when I do it.
I better get going- I will check in when I get back. You are all such a blessing to me!
reader
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Random late morning hug for everyone on the board, about to head out to a vintage jewelry shop near the hotel, and up to husband''s place tonight...
Yep, I found that I am craving protein far more than sweets, and generally a lot less cranky now...
Good to know that sugar triggers red skin, another good excuse to try to dislike it.
Yep, I found that I am craving protein far more than sweets, and generally a lot less cranky now...
Good to know that sugar triggers red skin, another good excuse to try to dislike it.
whitby_2773
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hi reader
i actuall think that sugar is the addiction of the 20th century (and maybe beyond, too.) the negative effects of it are innumerable. i think it''s only smatter of time till scientists start linking it in to cancer; it''s such a natural inflammatory.
re red skin - did you see the photos of my girlfriend, deb, on the previous page? she did the perricone diet for 8 weeks and came out looking completely different. take a look if you havent already - it''s unbelievable.
hope everyone''s week is going well!
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