my collage....so far :)

[Smurfysmiles]

So here it is. Give me your comments good or bad Oh the picture in the lower left is what a typical november day in fargo looks like (fyi)

 

[Smurfysmiles]

the reception place is the original one we picked, as soon of you know ive been agonizing over venue vs. bar so here is a picture of the other reception hall. also i think we may be getting green chair covers, but thats just my own little fantasy idea lol so we''ll see.

 

[Smurfysmiles]

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come on you guys, seriously nothing? you can say it sucks, just say SOMETHING! lol

 

[PrincessMiaPuff]

Date: 11/3/2008 6:11:57 PM
Author: Smurfysmiles
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come on you guys, seriously nothing? you can say it sucks, just say SOMETHING! lol

I posted my flowers today which I was really excited on no comments

I spent several hours on making them and no reply lol!

Anyway I love that you made a collage I have been keeping up on your planning and everything is really working out for you! It looks great! I wanted to ask what is your official green color?

 

[Italiahaircolor]

I feel like, from the chart, I get the vibe that you''re hosting a very traditional wedding...and yet the bamboo is a very modern touch. If it were me, I would have gone with a more traditional look--like candles and simple flowers.

I am not a huge fan on the monochromatic green--while I love monochromatic color schemes, I personally don''t love it in green.

However, if you''re happy and excited, thats all that it boils down to!

 

[oobiecoo]

I agree with italia... the bamboo is a really modern touch and doesn''t really go in my opinion. Also... I think you have too many different shades of green. I''d go with 1 or 2 shades and then pick an accent color as well. You really need to tie everything together somehow.

 

[Smurfysmiles]

i was thinking the same thing about the bamboo too italia, maybe there is a way to make it more elegant? however our cake is modern too but we wouldnt change it for the world since we fell in love with it and scrabble is such a big part of our lives lol

our main color is holly from david''s bridal. it looks more like the background green color there which is why i put that in (guess i should have explained better, oops) the color on the dress on the website for davids bridal isnt really the right color which is why i added the background color so you would know what it REALLY looks like. so it will be that dark green background color and the pale green on the guys tuxes. This is the scheme me and FI both managed to agree on so that is why and how we compromised

 

[Italiahaircolor]

I remember when you posted before ... and the warm/cool thing is still off... the holly color is very warm, and the pale green is very cool.

Bamboo in and of itself is very modern...so I don''t think you can make it traditional. I would suggest maybe using candles--which will also keep your cost low.

 

[Smurfysmiles]

well it''s still a year out, i''m sure i''ll probably change my mind about a million times before then and fi probably will too. thanks for the honesty ladies, i appreciate it

 

[PrincessMiaPuff]

Thanks for updating us on the colors. If you can I would keep it to darker green if you need a second color maybe a cream color? Is your theme Modern or Traditional? If you want Traditional can change the cake without giving up the scrabble idea and just give it your touch.

 

[Smurfysmiles]

it will be traditional but we are keeping the cake. to be honest we don't care what anyone else thinks (about the cake being modern and the rest of the reception not) because we like it and it's our day so we are definitely keeping that and our colors. to make it modern i would probably have to change my dress and i already bought it and love it so were trying to find a middle ground.

 

[PrincessMiaPuff]

http://www.menswearhouse.com/tuxedos/detail.jsp?FOLDER%3C%3Efolder_id=1408474395564159&FOLDER%3C%3EbrowsePath=1408474395564159&bmUID=1225758288500

Maybe the hunt or the ivory for the guys?

 

[Smurfysmiles]

FI wants that color for the guys. So the colors won''t be budging either. We like the two shades of one color complimenting each other and fi hasn''t asked to be involved that much and that and the cake are basically the two things he wants so im not going to take that away from him. basically what im looking for is how to decorate around the colors and the cake. my dress is more traditional but i think it will be fine.

 

[rockzilla]

I would do a floral centerpiece like this. I would also do the same cake, but with lighter green frosting instead of the dark green. I kind of think dark green looks icky on a cake.

Also, if you have a lot of dark green, and then the red chairs, it is going to look SUPER Christmas-y.

 

[FrekeChild]

Frankly I'm with Italia. The bamboo is a cute idea if you're going for modern--although it's not very good for having a conversation across the table--but from the dress and either venue, you're obviously not going for modern. I am not a fan of the all green monochromatic color scheme either. Green is actually one of my favorite colors, but I'm not excited about your color scheme at all.

I think you need to pick one "theme" and stick to it, because there isn't any cohesion in your collage at all. Basically when I look at your collage I see a lot of green--and they are greens that don't go together. Green is a very hard color to match, coordinate, and make look good with other greens. This is why my bedroom and bathroom consist of soft greens (seafoam, sage), teals (robin's egg, aqua, and light turquoise) and blues (sky, periwinkle). Also your church sticks out like a sore thumb because it has NO green at all.

And if you're sticking with green, you need to do something about lighting those venues, because neither of them has much green either.

BTW there are lots of ways to do a Scrabble cake that would be more traditional. I get the feeling that scrabble is important, but that particular cake is the only one you've seen with the Scrabble "theme" and so you have to have that one.

You wanted honest.

 

[princesss]

Those greens don''t work. You can stick with them all you want, but they just look bad together. It looks like mint candy. The bamboo looks completely out of place.

Pick a theme. Modern and sleek. Traditional. Christmas. Just pick one. You''ve got so many battling themes that it''ll all look like a disorganized forest.

Even if you just added a colour other than green (plum if you keep the warm green, maybe a lavender if you pick the sage?) it could really help. But at least pick a style.

As for the Scrabble cake...what about doing a traditional off-white cake with golden-painted fondant Scrabble tiles around the edge spelling out your names/wedding date? That way you keep the traditional look you say you want AND the Scrabble theme (which I think is a great idea to incorporate, since that''s how he proposed!).

 

[Smurfysmiles]

there really seems to be confusion about the colors. it is these 2 colors. the dress shown is just one of the styles the girls will be wearing but it will be in this dark green color. the website has the wrong color. does this seriously look that bad? everyone weve shown it to has liked this color scheme....the color on the cake is just photoshopped, it really doesn''t have to be that color (it was originally red when i saw it). as for the chairs i mentioned that i am going to try to get either white or green chair covers. i''m open for centerpiece suggestions still, we''re aren''t cemented on using the bamboo. the venues are more traditional but i really don''t think that makes a difference, it''s not like there''s a whole lot of venues to choose from in fargo in the first place and a lot of people here mix the two styles so i guess i don''t see what the big deal is with that. please keep in mind this isn''t some fancy upscale place that we are having are wedding at, it''s flippin fargo nd. rent the movie if you must but people here just ...don''t...care. i''m not trying to sound defensive but more trying to explain why that''s not a big deal (also why there will be a cash bar on the side). weddings here are more about the couple and having a good time than trying to impress everybody with decor and what have you. ok that is all i have to say.

 

[Smurfysmiles]

i completely forgot, i meant to attach this picture to the last post.

 

[Italiahaircolor]

It''s a christmas theme? Then the minty green must go...you can stick with the holly green, add a touch of ivory and gold...keep the scrabble cake as is...put lush, moderate sized white pointsetta''s sprayed lightly with gold glitter on the table (inexpensive, and impactful, btw) surround them with twinkling gold votives and string some really pretty christmas lights around the room. Or, if you dont want the flowers...you could get beautiful glass hurricans filled with white faux snow and orniments in your holly green, ivory and gold...or even a big glittery gold candle. Drap the chairs in ivory satin with a gold satin bow tied "bow" style in the back. Put faux christmas trees in the corners, strung with lights. If you''re really looking to make it POP, you could have snowflakes projected with white light onto the dance floor.

Think of it as the best, most warm Christmas party you''ve ever been to, or thrown...make it cozy, and traditional, and like a winter freakin wonderland.

Plus, you could be a DIY bride, and take advantage of after Christmas sales to get a lot of the "stuff".

OMG, how fab would a winter wonderland wedding be.

You could have mulled cider, salted caramel hot chocolate and spiked eggnog as your signature drinks, too since you want to keep the bar cost low!

 

[princesss]

Date: 11/3/2008 8:49:32 PM
Author: Smurfysmiles
there really seems to be confusion about the colors. it is these 2 colors. the dress shown is just one of the styles the girls will be wearing but it will be in this dark green color. the website has the wrong color. does this seriously look that bad? everyone weve shown it to has liked this color scheme....the color on the cake is just photoshopped, it really doesn''t have to be that color (it was originally red when i saw it). as for the chairs i mentioned that i am going to try to get either white or green chair covers. i''m open for centerpiece suggestions still, we''re aren''t cemented on using the bamboo. the venues are more traditional but i really don''t think that makes a difference, it''s not like there''s a whole lot of venues to choose from in fargo in the first place and a lot of people here mix the two styles so i guess i don''t see what the big deal is with that. please keep in mind this isn''t some fancy upscale place that we are having are wedding at, it''s flippin fargo nd. rent the movie if you must but people here just ...don''t...care. i''m not trying to sound defensive but more trying to explain why that''s not a big deal (also why there will be a cash bar on the side). weddings here are more about the couple and having a good time than trying to impress everybody with decor and what have you. ok that is all i have to say.

Okay, I really don''t think anybody on this board has a wedding to impress people with decor. The weddings we see on PS are often intimate and beautiful expressions of the couple.

And yes, the problem is with the colours. Italia explained it wonderfully. The warm and cool tones don''t work.

mini-threadjack: Italia, when I get married, I really hope you''re around! I love your plan for a Christmas themed wedding. I may steal some ideas and have a little Christmas party with my friends. Mmmmm....eggnog.

 

[FrekeChild]

Date: 11/3/2008 8:49:32 PM
Author: Smurfysmiles
there really seems to be confusion about the colors. it is these 2 colors.

You don't get it. Those two colors don't go well together. And those two colors aren't two colors, they are different grades of the same color. If you want green you have to accent it with something else.

You need to pick a theme because it's not cohesive. Green is not a theme. A modern cake and modern centerpieces do not go well with a traditional dress and a traditional venue. However you could make them work if you tied it together with colors. I am a firm believer in things that you love going together because you love them, and not because they go together on their own merit.

If that's what you like, fine, but you wanted our opinions and you got some that you didn't like and you got defensive about it.

I think what you've done is basically seen a bunch of things you like, and not thought about the ONE feeling you want the wedding to have, which is where you should have started. Heck, you could have based the entire wedding around Scrabble, but right now it's just a mish-mash.

 

[emeraldlover1]

Smurfy...I think that you can mix the modern and traditional without it looking too all over the place. I''ve been meaning to put together a board with some of my details and I''ll post it when I''m finished. I''m actually mixing modern with rustic. However, a lot of the details that you''ve picked are traditional so every modern touch needs to be tied to the traditional in some way. When I post mine maybe it''ll make sense. I have to say that I love green but I really don''t like those shades together.

 

[ilovethiswebsite]

Based on the venue pic I would try and use a lighter green and for sure put white/light seat covers over the chairs.

Check out these links for color ideas:

http://weddings.theknot.com/ODB/themes/realweddings/detailview.aspx?id=36428&type=3&colors=Green&pageIndex=0
http://weddings.theknot.com/ODB/themes/realweddings/detailview.aspx?id=36090&type=3&colors=Green&pageIndex=0
http://weddings.theknot.com/ODB/themes/realweddings/detailview.aspx?id=36043&type=3&colors=Green&pageIndex=0
http://weddings.theknot.com/ODB/themes/realweddings/detailview.aspx?id=35908&type=3&colors=green
http://weddings.theknot.com/ODB/themes/realweddings/detailview.aspx?id=35861&type=3&colors=green
http://weddings.theknot.com/ODB/themes/realweddings/detailview.aspx?id=35800&type=3&colors=green

 

[emeraldlover1]

Ok...here is a look at the inspiration board I just put together. Most of the details are actually mine so I guess its more of a reality board. Anyway... www.bridalcanvas.com is really good for DIY inspiration boards. Also...I have a pic of my need to be improved DIY centerpieces that I''ll attach in a different thread of my own. Most of my elements are modern however the location is completely rustic. To incorporate that I will have some birch bark details but they will mostly be used during our cocktail hour.

 

[Smurfysmiles]

well we like those colors and if you guys don't that's fine. we're still doing them. the dark green is not the exact green shown, it's just my guesstimate and everyone we've shown the colors to have thought they looked fine and the light green is going to be hidden under the tuxedos anyways. personally i think having 2 different colors looks ridiculous so we are certainly not doing that.

as for getting defensive i was not. i was trying to explain everything because i thought everyone was just confused. but if you guys really think they are that hideous after i explained then i get that that's what you really meant which is fine. i don't think it would have killed you to thrown in something nice to offset the criticism because i know i must have at least one thing that looks fine but that is something i have grown to accept with this site.

i'm not having a good day and i worked really hard on these ideas and was hoping to hear at least one nice thing (which i did) but i guess i will have to start from scratch again which really sucks. or maybe i won't. it's not like i have to follow what you guys say because it's just your opinions. you guys have had some things i thought were dumb but you loved and that's all that matters. whatever. i have to go clean tomato sauce from under the fridge down.

eta: we discussed a scrabble theme and thought it was tacky and decided not to do that. i really don't know why it has to be a theme but whatever.

 

[emeraldlover1]

Look, I don''t think you need a theme. Just make sure the colors fall on the same color spectrum. Like when you look at a paint swatch and choose a lighter and darker color in the same strip. I actually went to HD and picked up paint swatches when I was trying to explain to my fiance how to make light green purple and brown all work together. We are actually using orange flowers on the coctail hour tables. I really don''t think any of my stuff falls into one theme but I like the way everything looks together. I''m making the reception more modern and the coctail hour more rustic so I guess in each area I really thought about what I wanted it to look like. Just so you know, my girls are wearing dark purple dresses and the guys will be wearing black tuxes and light green ties and vests. So, I''m doing two colors. Others might not like the way it looks but its my wedding and my fiance and I really like it so that is what we are doing. I think that you didn''t get as many comments as you wanted because those colors together that you picked are from different color wheels if you remember those from art class. I think if they were from the same hue you would get better responses. For example, one of my friends did a light orange and a burnt orange but the colors looked like they went together. I''m not a huge fan of orange but I thought this looked good to the eye. Green is a great color you can find a way to make it work. Don''t abandon it yet. I''ll see if I can help show you better what I mean.

 

[meresal]

Date: 11/3/2008 6:11:57 PM
Author: Smurfysmiles
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come on you guys, seriously nothing? you can say it sucks, just say SOMETHING! lol

Smurfy, you asked for peoples opinions. Maybe no one was saying anything at first, because they didn't want to say anything mean.

You should do whatever you want. It's your wedding. You don't have to have theme, and you like the colors so use them. Everyone here was trying to help, because that is what we ALL ask for when posting.

"i don't think it would have killed you to thrown in something nice to offset the criticism because i know i must have at least one thing that looks fine but that is something i have grown to accept with this site ." - IMO, this comment was totally uncalled for.

ETA: I think that EL1 had some great ideas to help you blend the two feels and really tried to help explain what everyone else was trying to say.

 

[Smurfysmiles]

FI''s opinion:

Screw what everyone says. It''s just colors. It''s about us getting married; not whether people think those 2 greens go together. Everyone on that site gets way too caught up with their details. It''s not worth it if it''s going to make you feel like crap about something you and i both spent a lot of time contemplating.

Yes he''s seen the site and I think I agree with him. Who gives a rat''s butt if people don''t like our colors or have to pay for their drinks if they don''t like beer. They are going to be there because they love us and 10 years from now are not going to remember if our greens completely complimented each other. I wanted to show my collage because I was excited. I had thought about refraining from posting anymore on here and now I am definitely sure. I''m going to plan for what me and fi want and that is it. It was nice knowing you ladies.

 

[kama_s]

I think that was really uncalled for Smurfy. In your post, you asked for any comments, good or bad. If you said something like 'here are the colours we chose and I'm super excited about it', I doubt anyone would say anything or give you suggestions.

More importantly, you have to remember that these suggestions were meant to HELP you (since you ASKED for help). They were not meant in a spiteful or derogatory way.

Trust me, it's easier to not post a response at all. All these people went OUT OF THEIR WAY to give you suggestions and then you have a fit. I dont get it.

 

[Italiahaircolor]

Smurfy, no one was trying to hurt your feelings...please believe that. But, when you ask for honesty...you need to be prepared to recieve honesty, good or bad. And, Smurfy, in the spirit of honesty--you yourself have handed down doses the truth from time to time...there is no denying that...

I don't believe anyone was railing on your personal taste...individually each aspect was lovely...but when you put them all together, it didn't do anything the justice it deserves.

Color is a huge part of a wedding and probably one of the hardest details to nail down for any bride. Some brides go balls out and make color the center focus of their wedding...and other brides use color as more of a back drop to their affair. But either way, color needs to be easy on the eye. People have color adversions, and color can evoke feeling... people can see two colors, side by side and just by weither the colors compliment or clash, their entire moods can change. We all looked at your board, and in order to spare you, we were honest with you about what we saw, and how it came together as a cohesive look...

Smurfy, its not that your board was "bad" but it wasn't as good as it could be. And maybe we didn't take the time to balance our reviews, and I apologize for that at least for myself...but from the very moment you got engaged you've rushed and rushed and rushed and you've been all over the place from blues and browns to monochromatic greens... in all honesty, we've been bombarded with so many different options of things you've liked and tried to make work and then re-thought...that each time we need to boil our thoughts down so that we can give you the "more or less cliffnotes" version.

Again, I'm sorry if your FI's feelings were hurt. But, everything we said did come from a good place. Many of us are ex-brides, or professionals or we've done weddings with friends...and we're trying each in our own way to impart wisdom about what will work, and what might give you problems down the road. Mint green in November isn't the right choice,sorry, it's just not...mint green in April, however, is beautiful. Mint makes you think of spring, and fallish winter time in Fargo ND isn't evoking springlike feelings. And your FI probably is right, 10 years from now people probably wont remember--but you'll have pictures, and memories, and wrong choices will haunt you even if they never cross anyone elses mind.

Smurfy, I hope you continue to join us here...but if not, good luck with your wedding and big plans...I wish you best.