hairgirl95
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Wow, I have quite an issue on my hands. I really need some guidance on this. What would you do if you knew someone was cheating on their spouse? My reason for asking is really upsetting to me.
My older sister has been married for 5 years. She has been cheating on her husband since BEFORE they got married. I found out about her infidelity because she flat out told me. She called me one day and I guess just needed someone to talk to about it because she pretty much blurted out the entire sordid story. She has a "regular" boyfriend that she''s been sleeping with for 6 years. Theres been a couple of one night stands, and a couple of flings that have lasted a month or so. Its the long term boyfriend that seems to have the most impact on her though. In her mind, she really "loves" this guy. To make the whole situation worse, there is really no proof that either of her daughters are her husbands. She was really worried about the oldest daughter because she slept with both her boyfriend AND her husband within 24 hours of conceiving her. She contracted an STD from one of her flings, and tricked her husband with antibiotics so she wouldn''t have to tell him. She blamed it on one of the kids having strep throat and that they all needed to take meds to prevent them all from getting it. He totally fell for it. Her husband had absolutely NO CLUE what she has been doing. There is so many circumstances where she has almost gotten caught, and my dad is kinda on to her and suspects something is going on. My sister has no intention of leaving her husband. She is "I want my cake and eat it too". She has no intentions of giving up the infidelities either.
I am in a really bad situation with this. Because of what I know, I have to lie to the rest of my family when someone mentions they think something funny is going on with her. I have to look my bro in law in the face and know that his wife is screwing him over. My husband is repulsed and sickened by her actions. He now thinks that someone needs to tell my bro in law about what his wife is doing. My sister has not been real discreet with some of her friends and her boyfriends friends about their relationship. A couple of people who know about this situation actually know her husband pretty well.
What do I do? Part of me really wants my bro in law to know. Especially if the kids are not his. I would never tell him personally, it would be a more anonymous situation, as my entire family would totally disown me for not only knowing what big sis has been up to but for disrupting the family "harmony" by creating family drama. I really need some guidance here.
ETA--Given that I was cheated on by my ex-hubs and I was the last to know, I have to say that I would want to know if I were in that situation again. Theres nothing worse than the humiliation and pain of knowing those around you knew and never said anything.
My older sister has been married for 5 years. She has been cheating on her husband since BEFORE they got married. I found out about her infidelity because she flat out told me. She called me one day and I guess just needed someone to talk to about it because she pretty much blurted out the entire sordid story. She has a "regular" boyfriend that she''s been sleeping with for 6 years. Theres been a couple of one night stands, and a couple of flings that have lasted a month or so. Its the long term boyfriend that seems to have the most impact on her though. In her mind, she really "loves" this guy. To make the whole situation worse, there is really no proof that either of her daughters are her husbands. She was really worried about the oldest daughter because she slept with both her boyfriend AND her husband within 24 hours of conceiving her. She contracted an STD from one of her flings, and tricked her husband with antibiotics so she wouldn''t have to tell him. She blamed it on one of the kids having strep throat and that they all needed to take meds to prevent them all from getting it. He totally fell for it. Her husband had absolutely NO CLUE what she has been doing. There is so many circumstances where she has almost gotten caught, and my dad is kinda on to her and suspects something is going on. My sister has no intention of leaving her husband. She is "I want my cake and eat it too". She has no intentions of giving up the infidelities either.
I am in a really bad situation with this. Because of what I know, I have to lie to the rest of my family when someone mentions they think something funny is going on with her. I have to look my bro in law in the face and know that his wife is screwing him over. My husband is repulsed and sickened by her actions. He now thinks that someone needs to tell my bro in law about what his wife is doing. My sister has not been real discreet with some of her friends and her boyfriends friends about their relationship. A couple of people who know about this situation actually know her husband pretty well.
What do I do? Part of me really wants my bro in law to know. Especially if the kids are not his. I would never tell him personally, it would be a more anonymous situation, as my entire family would totally disown me for not only knowing what big sis has been up to but for disrupting the family "harmony" by creating family drama. I really need some guidance here.
ETA--Given that I was cheated on by my ex-hubs and I was the last to know, I have to say that I would want to know if I were in that situation again. Theres nothing worse than the humiliation and pain of knowing those around you knew and never said anything.