JewelFreak
Ideal_Rock
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Slg, I'm getting clear vibes from what you've written that you are unsure yourself about this relationship. One thing you can be positive of: if it bothers you somewhat now (whatever trait it is), it will become more so in the years to come. You have to tell him when you're upset or unhappy & need him to care? If he's that insensitive or undemonstrative now, he will not improve in the future. Hard thing to hear, harder to face -- but I am telling you from much experience, my own and that of friends. That's not something you can teach him. Imagine how things will be in, say, 10 years, when the romantic bloom has inevitably faded & you are regular everyday married people.
I'm not saying to break it off, but to take plenty of time before you sign on the dotted line. Getting married when there are very basic things you need & have trouble getting only leads to deep regret & heartbreak later -- maybe with kids in the picture. If a wedding is scheduled, you'd be incredibly wise to put it off for a while. Give yourself the gift of more experience with him. Your mother may be right or wrong, but YOU, yourself, are unsure. An emotionally unfulfilling courtship becomes to a sterile marriage -- it's worth delaying a bit.
--- Laurie
I'm not saying to break it off, but to take plenty of time before you sign on the dotted line. Getting married when there are very basic things you need & have trouble getting only leads to deep regret & heartbreak later -- maybe with kids in the picture. If a wedding is scheduled, you'd be incredibly wise to put it off for a while. Give yourself the gift of more experience with him. Your mother may be right or wrong, but YOU, yourself, are unsure. An emotionally unfulfilling courtship becomes to a sterile marriage -- it's worth delaying a bit.
--- Laurie