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My 10 y/o has a "queen bee" type girl in her class.
Said girl has a hierarchically structured gang of five other girls around her. They are basically at her command.
There are 6 more girls in the class, including my daughter.
There are nine boys.
We are at an academically elitist school, so theres only one class per year for the first four years. Kiss stay the same except for max. two new kids per year .
We moved internationally and arrived one year than the majority. Queen bee was nasty to my daughter.
Daughter genuinely didn't care, because she found a best friend and that's all she wants. Unfortunately best friend moved internationally after one year. She became friends with another girl. Things were OK. Mean girl wanted contact with my daughter, but she said clearly that she wasn't interested in any drama and just wants to be left alone.
Third year: another new girl comes into the class. Mean girl makes her her "deputy" (their words). But new girl also befriends my daughter (both love horse riding).
After they start taking riding lessons together (since the new school year started in September), mean girl went ballistic and actively tries to manipulate and control my daughter as well as her friend and her "deputy".
We're not the only parents, who aren't ok with those dynamics. We talked to teachers and other parents and the girls' parents. Nothing works. I'm trying to stay constructive and never blame the other girl (also a child ..). We asked the teachers if it wouldn't be beneficial to have an external anti mobbing coach come in. They aren't too interested.
Tonight we had another total meltdown because my daughter feels alone and knows that mean girl tries to manipulate all other girls.
What can we do?
Changing schools is not an option (we're at a bilingual school with a different curriculum).
Said girl has a hierarchically structured gang of five other girls around her. They are basically at her command.
There are 6 more girls in the class, including my daughter.
There are nine boys.
We are at an academically elitist school, so theres only one class per year for the first four years. Kiss stay the same except for max. two new kids per year .
We moved internationally and arrived one year than the majority. Queen bee was nasty to my daughter.
Daughter genuinely didn't care, because she found a best friend and that's all she wants. Unfortunately best friend moved internationally after one year. She became friends with another girl. Things were OK. Mean girl wanted contact with my daughter, but she said clearly that she wasn't interested in any drama and just wants to be left alone.
Third year: another new girl comes into the class. Mean girl makes her her "deputy" (their words). But new girl also befriends my daughter (both love horse riding).
After they start taking riding lessons together (since the new school year started in September), mean girl went ballistic and actively tries to manipulate and control my daughter as well as her friend and her "deputy".
We're not the only parents, who aren't ok with those dynamics. We talked to teachers and other parents and the girls' parents. Nothing works. I'm trying to stay constructive and never blame the other girl (also a child ..). We asked the teachers if it wouldn't be beneficial to have an external anti mobbing coach come in. They aren't too interested.
Tonight we had another total meltdown because my daughter feels alone and knows that mean girl tries to manipulate all other girls.
What can we do?
Changing schools is not an option (we're at a bilingual school with a different curriculum).