Shimmer123
Rough_Rock
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- May 29, 2010
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I am looking for some advice. I got married last August after dating for about 9 years, when we got married I was 28 and he was 27. For the past few months things have not been going to well, I would say since about March. This morning I started talking to him and was asking him what was going on. He said that he was just not happy. I asked what that meant and he would not elaborate. I told him that I wasn't happy either, mainly because I feel that he doesn't treat me nicely. He then said he just doesn't like being married and that we are two different people. This is true, but it has always been that way.
I think a big problem is that he is a heavy drinker. When he drinks, which is about 2 times a week (sometimes more, sometimes less), he will drink a lot. On several occasions his best friend has come over and I have seen them split a 30 pack, a bottle of wine and shots. He will also go out with his friends after work (he is a cop and works until 10pm) drink and drive home. He is clearly drunk when he gets home and sometimes he will drink even more. I told him that this concerns me a lot. He denies that he is drunk, but it is so obvious. On several occasions I have asked him not to go out, but he will go anyway.
I have been putting up with this behavior because I do love him, but I really am at a point where I think we should seperate. I am just looking for some outside perspective and if anyone has any advice to offer me it would be great. I should also mention that his aunt, who he was very close with, passed away in February. Part of me thinks he is depressed over that, another part thinks he is an alcoholic and those are the reasons he says he is unhappy, but I just don't know. Thanks
I think a big problem is that he is a heavy drinker. When he drinks, which is about 2 times a week (sometimes more, sometimes less), he will drink a lot. On several occasions his best friend has come over and I have seen them split a 30 pack, a bottle of wine and shots. He will also go out with his friends after work (he is a cop and works until 10pm) drink and drive home. He is clearly drunk when he gets home and sometimes he will drink even more. I told him that this concerns me a lot. He denies that he is drunk, but it is so obvious. On several occasions I have asked him not to go out, but he will go anyway.
I have been putting up with this behavior because I do love him, but I really am at a point where I think we should seperate. I am just looking for some outside perspective and if anyone has any advice to offer me it would be great. I should also mention that his aunt, who he was very close with, passed away in February. Part of me thinks he is depressed over that, another part thinks he is an alcoholic and those are the reasons he says he is unhappy, but I just don't know. Thanks