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gingerB · Aug 7, 2010

so i was planning to talk to her on a friday, the wednesday beofre i unexpectedly had to run home during lunch and caught her napping on the couch. this time she woke up when i came in. i didn't say anything. had a brief, normalish conversation and left. the next day, she was like a different nanny. the nursery was tidied up, his dirty clothes/bibs were in the hamper, bottles properly washed, i had a stack of new clothes for him that had been sitting in a pile for over a week and that was picked up and put away.

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so i held off on talking to her to see if this would sustain itself. so far so good. i have a big presentation coming up, but as soon as i'm done i plan to sit down and discuss how things are going. but thankfully, since she's picked up her game, it can be a more friendly convo to discuss how things are going from both sides.

don't know if she found this thread, or felt guilty cause she was caught napping when his stuff was obviously NOT taken care of, or some kind of nanny fairy decided to have mercy on us and sprinkled some magic dust, but i'm much happier now.

Mara · Aug 7, 2010

ginger you think she might have found this thread--just curious how?

that said...maybe you can say something to her in passing like 'it's so great how everything is so clean and tidy for A--thank you so much for going that extra mile!'... and just not even reference anything else you know? that way she knows you noticed and she will feel more appreciated. or you can say that when you have a talk in the future to see how things are going on both sides etc.

in any case, i am glad it's looking up and hope it stays that way!!! we have our nanny care starting in 2 weeks so i am excited and apprehensive at the same time.

gingerB · Aug 7, 2010

don't know. our computer is always on, but i know this so i always erased my history before i left for work during the course of this thread. eh...it was just a weird coinicidence so i just was running through possiblities of what happened to change her attitude.

hope the nanny arrangement works out well for you and J!

and thanks everyone for weighing in. it was really helpful in getting my mind wrapped around what exactly i was unhappy about and how to approach it. the approach is obviously moot now, or changed, but thanks. oh and i didn't exagerate anything, but i did over emphasize points for the sake of discussion.