Pandora II
Ideal_Rock
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I hardly know where to start... this has been a pretty bad ten days:
1) DH has been made redundant from his job. This is actually a great thing, he was being bullied by a colleague in a very vicious way and was very unhappy. He should find another job relatively easily and we have enough savings plus a generous redundancy package to enable us to last a long time while he looks, but with me not working as well it is unsettling and a bit worrying till he does.
2) My brother is being made redundant.
3) Very close friends have lost their twin daughters, one still-born and one died in NICU the following morning.
4) My cousin was diagnosed with very aggressive breast cancer in late 2007, went into remission only to develop inoperable secondaries this time last year, had a clear scan in July after major chemo and radiation and then more secondaries were found on the scan she had last week. She's only just turned 40.
5) My baby sister discovered she was pregnant yesterday - 6 months pregnant! She had seen the GP on Monday and planned a termination - he was certain she was only about 12 weeks, but sent her up to the hospital for a dating scan and it turned out she's 26 weeks and therefore 2 weeks too late. Obviously she's in complete shock and I went straight down to see her - and had the lovely job of telling our parents the 'happy news'.
To make matters worse, she has severe manic depression and has been on a cocktail of meds that are severely contra-indicated in pregnancy, plus she had been put into menopause with another lot of meds and taking HRT - silly girl was a week late getting the prescription filled and didn't realise that this made her hyper-fertile for the next month. As she was supposedly in medically induced menopause she didn't think she could be pregnant and put nausea down to a side-effect of the drugs.
I saw her yesterday and you would never believe that she was pregnant let alone 6 months... heck my parents have seen her every week for months and they didn't suspect and my dad's a doctor! She's 6ft and probably a size 12-14 so it's not as if she should be able to easily hide it or anything.
Add to this the amount of alcohol, tobacco and gawd knows what else she's been smoking/taking... and who knows what damage the baby may have.
Icing on the cake is that she split up with the bf 5 months ago, they're not speaking, he's the last person you want as the father of your kid, my parents hate him, she's now vaguely dating his cousin who has a kid with another ex of the boyfriend (geez, you couldn't make this up).
My mother is seriously disabled, my father in his 70's, they and the rest of us are two hours away, she has no partner, her job involves shift-work mainly at night, her mental health is not good (when I got the call she was in the hospital my first thought was that she'd tried to kill herself not that she'd been in an accident), her chances of PPD are 70% and PPP 50%, and she's preggo. At the moment she's saying she doesn't want the baby, and we're all hoping she decides to have it adopted, but that is such a very hard thing to do. Oh, and my other sister is expecting her third child a week after this one is due.
Eugh, what a mess! Surely nothing else can go wrong!
Anyone on FB, don't mention this please...
1) DH has been made redundant from his job. This is actually a great thing, he was being bullied by a colleague in a very vicious way and was very unhappy. He should find another job relatively easily and we have enough savings plus a generous redundancy package to enable us to last a long time while he looks, but with me not working as well it is unsettling and a bit worrying till he does.
2) My brother is being made redundant.
3) Very close friends have lost their twin daughters, one still-born and one died in NICU the following morning.
4) My cousin was diagnosed with very aggressive breast cancer in late 2007, went into remission only to develop inoperable secondaries this time last year, had a clear scan in July after major chemo and radiation and then more secondaries were found on the scan she had last week. She's only just turned 40.
5) My baby sister discovered she was pregnant yesterday - 6 months pregnant! She had seen the GP on Monday and planned a termination - he was certain she was only about 12 weeks, but sent her up to the hospital for a dating scan and it turned out she's 26 weeks and therefore 2 weeks too late. Obviously she's in complete shock and I went straight down to see her - and had the lovely job of telling our parents the 'happy news'.
To make matters worse, she has severe manic depression and has been on a cocktail of meds that are severely contra-indicated in pregnancy, plus she had been put into menopause with another lot of meds and taking HRT - silly girl was a week late getting the prescription filled and didn't realise that this made her hyper-fertile for the next month. As she was supposedly in medically induced menopause she didn't think she could be pregnant and put nausea down to a side-effect of the drugs.
I saw her yesterday and you would never believe that she was pregnant let alone 6 months... heck my parents have seen her every week for months and they didn't suspect and my dad's a doctor! She's 6ft and probably a size 12-14 so it's not as if she should be able to easily hide it or anything.
Add to this the amount of alcohol, tobacco and gawd knows what else she's been smoking/taking... and who knows what damage the baby may have.
Icing on the cake is that she split up with the bf 5 months ago, they're not speaking, he's the last person you want as the father of your kid, my parents hate him, she's now vaguely dating his cousin who has a kid with another ex of the boyfriend (geez, you couldn't make this up).
My mother is seriously disabled, my father in his 70's, they and the rest of us are two hours away, she has no partner, her job involves shift-work mainly at night, her mental health is not good (when I got the call she was in the hospital my first thought was that she'd tried to kill herself not that she'd been in an accident), her chances of PPD are 70% and PPP 50%, and she's preggo. At the moment she's saying she doesn't want the baby, and we're all hoping she decides to have it adopted, but that is such a very hard thing to do. Oh, and my other sister is expecting her third child a week after this one is due.
Eugh, what a mess! Surely nothing else can go wrong!
Anyone on FB, don't mention this please...
There are no words - dust and prayers heading to you and your family! So much to be dealing with at once. 
Dust all around to your family and friends.
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