Litigation update and request for bling to tide me over

[LondonGal]

Oh, Lioness. I am so so sorry that you've had to go through that. Sounds like your ex and mine are separated twins. I hope what you said about Karma comes around. For your ex and mine.

I know they are earthly things and what matters is really what lives in our hearts but while we're here, the pain others cause by using what we hold close against us cuts deep. I hope you can heal and be happy from now on.

 

[lioness]

Congratulations on coming to the end of something horrible.

I have no idea what I would buy in your position. What I do know is that if you buy a pre-loved piece, please treasure it. My ex took my grandmother's diamond eternity ring, her beautiful (and unusually-shaped) cameo ring, my mother's engagement ring and her treasured smokey topaz and gold coffee pot charm (among many, many other things he knew I treasured - I'd lost them both by the time I was divorcing so he knew to hit me where it hurt). I will NEVER forgive him for that and look in every second-hand store, antique shop and jewellers that sell pre-loved things.

Take care and good luck with the final hurdle - and best wishes in celebrating your new life.

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That creep stole your family rings?? Karma, one nasty madam, will remember him on her most PMSy days. What a jackass!!! Forget my issues - I'm furious at him for you. Fortunately, there's one thing he can never take, and that is your dignity. Hold your head up high, and know that your love for your mom and grandmother transcends any material possessions. My ex stole our dead newborn's ashes. I don't know where the remains of countless prenatal vitamins are, but her soul is free, and I can communicate her whenever and wherever I want to, regardless of where he hid the urn.

What the ever-loving f*ck. There is a cavernous divide between my capacity to understand people and someone such as this. Unbelievable.
He, like poor LondonGal's gross ex, are revolting specimens of humanity. Injuriously selfish.

I am glad that things are moving towards freedom for you. I would personally choose a big pink sapphire with diamond sides for my celebration ring, but that is me.

Yes he did. I don't know where he stashed her ashes. However, the emotional abuse that he's inflicted on our living children is far worse. And he holds himself out as a model of propriety and piety!

Pink sapphire - I like that!

 

[lioness]

Wow, OP and wow others, I had no idea so many of us women are going through something so similar. I too was a lawyer originally and my saga of a horrid marriage was supposed to end over a month ago but I have only begun going down the road to freedom. The suffering has already eased a lot but I sometimes have no idea how I will go through the litigation against my ex who is an extremely abusive stalker and well I should not say too much here about other stuff but it makes me very sad and cannot imcomprehend how so many of us have been victims of such predators that preyed on us. Kudos to you OP for being strong and such a survivor and same to all others that have gone through a similar situation. The main thing is that we have survived and go on happily and so glad that you and the kids are safe.

I wish I could give you a hug.... I want to know more but I can imagine that if you're being reserved it's because your lawyers advised it in light of the pending litigation. What jurisdiction will you be litigating in? Be strong. Give yourself time and space to scream and cry. You'll need it. Invest in a psychologist or a divorce coach - it'll be cheaper than calling your lawyers to vent. Do you have a good support network? Negotiate a fixed-fee agreement with your lawyers!!! Getting charged per hour for litigation will result in insane bills!!!!! It makes me so mad when I hear of other women going through this. I really wish we could talk and vent.

 

[lioness]

To the moderators: I created a website to provide information and support for victims of domestic violence and financial abuse. May I share the link here?

 

[lioness]

I am so sorry for all your heartache. I hope you are free from this horror soon.

Thank you.

 

[lioness]

Oh, Lioness. I am so so sorry that you've had to go through that. Sounds like your ex and mine are separated twins. I hope what you said about Karma comes around. For your ex and mine.

I know they are earthly things and what matters is really what lives in our hearts but while we're here, the pain others cause by using what we hold close against us cuts deep. I hope you can heal and be happy from now on.

You nailed it. It's the pain.

There are some people that I would willingly ship off to ISIS, and my ex is on the top of the list. Shall I put yours in the same crate?

 

[movie zombie]

Oh, Lioness. I am so so sorry that you've had to go through that. Sounds like your ex and mine are separated twins. I hope what you said about Karma comes around. For your ex and mine.

I know they are earthly things and what matters is really what lives in our hearts but while we're here, the pain others cause by using what we hold close against us cuts deep. I hope you can heal and be happy from now on.

You nailed it. It's the pain.

There are some people that I would willingly ship off to ISIS, and my ex is on the top of the list. Shall I put yours in the same crate?

while my first husband looks like a saint compared to these guys, I did end up having to get a restraining order against him all those years ago and to this day I wouldn't stop to help him if he was broke down on a highway.....and I still wouldn't be alone with him in a room: so, can I add him to the official "Crate to ISIS Waiting List"? I realize there are others more worthy of "crating" so I realize he might get bumped down the list for a period of time.......but it would be good to know he's on it!

sorry for the threadjack.....

 

[Sunstorm]

Thank you for your kindness Lioness, you are so strong and you care about others too. You cannot believe how happy I am for you that you were able to find happiness again and even new love? Wow. It can be so difficult to trust after serious abuse. I am trying to read up on your past threads to know more about your story as well.

It is wonderful that you created a website, I am trying to find websites where I can turn when I am going through a rough time. It is definitely a roller coaster ride and though mostly I handle it well I often get upset, depressed, anxiety problems, etc.

He definitely has taken a lot of money from me too but that is not the biggest problem even though every day he pulls something new. He is crazy. The newest thing is that he does not want to pay me any money back even though we have a signed contract that I lent him this much and wanted only part of it back anyhow. Yes, I can sue him but he has so many collections against him that I will only be one out of many and will likely never get it back.

I can say as much as there was serious physical abuse and it is under investigation now which is more than normally happens here, as I often think we live in the middle ages in this part of Europe though they are beginning to pay more attention to serious cases of domestic abuse. Europe is completely different from a legal standpoint and I studied law in the US anyhow. Without a lawyer it would be impossible to do anything even though the situation has slightly improved here recently.

If you can post the link, perhaps on your website we can talk more about these things.

I cannot suggest bling to you but I hope you do find happiness in bling. I definitely do, it is my passion and doing creative things definitely make the road ahead of you smoother.

Your saga will soon be over and you will be completely free. I think this is wonderful news for you.

 

[Ella]

To the moderators: I created a website to provide information and support for victims of domestic violence and financial abuse. May I share the link here?

Probably not, but if you wish to email it to us privately we can assess.