Litigation update and request for bling to tide me over

[lioness]

Without going into procedural minutiae (unless there are attorneys here who want the nitty-gritty, which I will then share in lurid, gleeful detail), my lawyers have backed my psycho ex into a procedural corner. It's one of those "heads, I win, tails, you lose" situations. This means the girls and I are going home soon.

In the meantime, please tide me over with with inspiration pics of bling. Today is but a week shy of the two-year anniversary of my having him served with divorce papers. However, I have been fighting for my freedom and my children's safety long before I walked into the apartment with one of my lawyers and the process server, who dropped docs on him while he was wearing holey flannel pajamas. What kind of RHR would you wear to celebrate winning a battle such as this? Budget - $15,000 max, unless we find that psycho was hiding SERIOUS money to which I am entitled under law. The property settlement here is a separate proceeding from final custody and, in my case, authorization to return to my country of origin with the kids, the US.

Hit me with beauty!

 

[MollyMalone]

As an attorney (whose divorce was stupidly prolonged by my ex & his lawyer), I'm all ears to learn of winning, procedural minutiae, but in the meantime would you share some of your RHR preferences (e.g., choice of metal, colored gem or diamond as feature stone) -- and dislikes, so we can offer bling suggestions that don't make you cringe?

P.S. Congratulations (and kudos to your legal team) as you head into the light at the end of this litigation tunnel!

 

[lioness]

Oh Molly, I'm glad we speak the same language. I'm an attorney too, and if it weren't for the fact that I can ask the right questions of my legal team and understand the reasoning behind the answers, however perverse they may seem to my US-trained mind, I would have gone insane by now.

Applicable law - Mexico City Family Code
Applicable law for amparos, constitutional appeals at federal district court - Mexican federal constitutional law.
Problem - Mexico City Civil Procedure. Family court judges are totally defanged. They can't enforce their own orders. A party can defy court orders repeatedly before he can be held in contempt and sanctioned accordingly.

My ex bribed a judge, and we all know it. My daughter testified before that same judge about how she heard her father bragging about having bought him off.

There is so much more to tell....

But on to jewelry. I like three-stone rings for the symbolism - my two children and me. I'm fighting for us all. Rose gold is a bust on my olive skin. Although I love blue sapphires, my e-ring from psycho ex was a blue sapphire. I'll reknit my relationship with blues at some point, but not with this ring.

However, it doesn't have to be a three-stone.

Show me please what looks like a joyful ring to you.

 

[RandG]

I just want to wish you well. Single mom (twins) here, on the other side of what you're still facing. My heart goes out to you.

I absolutely love the 3-stone idea and I do them with the same idea in mind, it represents my little unit. This is one I eyed at one point. Inscription dates it to 1904.

 

[missy]

Congratulations lioness. I am so sorry for all you and your children have been through but glad you are coming out of it on the other side and doing well!!! How about this beauty? I think it is OMG Beautiful. This gorgeous ring is from Grace of Jewels by Grace.

http://www.jewelsbygrace.com/rings/3-84tcw-edwardian-old-european-3-stone-ring-k-color-vs2-vs1#.VN4F_17b9BU

http://jewelsbygrace.smugmug.com/Vintage-and-Antique-Rings/384tcw-3-stone-OEC-Edwardian/

I tried posting a pic of it here but I cannot so you need to click the link. Sorry.

 

[RandG]

Wow-- never saw that one-- stunning!

 

[missy]

Wow-- never saw that one-- stunning!

I know right? If I had a spare 15K it would be mine. But it would be great if lioness loved it and made it hers! What a ring to celebrate her and her children's freedom with don't you think?

 

[RandG]

I do. It's beautiful. Great stones. 3-stone all the way.

 

[partgypsy]

I'm glad you and your legal team are all working together to get you and your children free and able to move home!
I just worry about you, as your ex seems like a psycho, you all stay safe!

This is a sapphire ring but not blue, there are other 3 stone rings on here I also find beautiful
http://www.simplysapphires.com/index.php?main_page=product_info&cPath=170&products_id=8027
purple and teal sapphire ring, yummy colors, reminds me of the sky and ocean!

http://www.simplysapphires.com/jewelry/gia-certified-pink-ruby-sapphire-diamond-platinum-ring-3.46-ctw?cPath=170&

a strong color, in a 3 stone ring

 

[movie zombie]

no help re bling....it really is a personal choice and my style I think is very different......but congrats on the legal issues moving along and in your favor!

 

[TooPatient]

Congratulations!

Stay safe as he is trapped...

Love the 3 stone celebration ring. What about birth stones?

 

[diamondseeker2006]

Happy for your progress and hope you can be out of there with your children as soon as possible! It will be great that you can live far away from him for your children's sake!

I absolutely love the idea of the three stone ring! The antique ones are fabulous! I adore them,personally, but is your style antique or more contemporary with ideal cuts?

 

[MarionC]

Soothing bling is an excellent part of healing from trauma! WIshing you well...and a Happy Valentine's Day.

 

[luv2sparkle]

Can't think of a better way to celebrate than with bling. I don't have any suggestions but I sure hope this wraps up quickly for you!

 

[Gem Queen]

What state are your proceedings taking place in? I am a court reporter and almost my whole career has been in family law. I am not a lawyer but after 15 years in this arena, I'm pretty knowledgeable. Good luck with everything

 

[LondonGal]

Congratulations on coming to the end of something horrible.

I have no idea what I would buy in your position. What I do know is that if you buy a pre-loved piece, please treasure it. My ex took my grandmother's diamond eternity ring, her beautiful (and unusually-shaped) cameo ring, my mother's engagement ring and her treasured smokey topaz and gold coffee pot charm (among many, many other things he knew I treasured - I'd lost them both by the time I was divorcing so he knew to hit me where it hurt). I will NEVER forgive him for that and look in every second-hand store, antique shop and jewellers that sell pre-loved things.

Take care and good luck with the final hurdle - and best wishes in celebrating your new life.

 

[lioness]

Congratulations lioness. I am so sorry for all you and your children have been through but glad you are coming out of it on the other side and doing well!!! How about this beauty? I think it is OMG Beautiful. This gorgeous ring is from Grace of Jewels by Grace.

http://www.jewelsbygrace.com/rings/3-84tcw-edwardian-old-european-3-stone-ring-k-color-vs2-vs1#.VN4F_17b9BU

http://jewelsbygrace.smugmug.com/Vintage-and-Antique-Rings/384tcw-3-stone-OEC-Edwardian/

I tried posting a pic of it here but I cannot so you need to click the link. Sorry.

That's pretty!

 

[lioness]

Congratulations on coming to the end of something horrible.

I have no idea what I would buy in your position. What I do know is that if you buy a pre-loved piece, please treasure it. My ex took my grandmother's diamond eternity ring, her beautiful (and unusually-shaped) cameo ring, my mother's engagement ring and her treasured smokey topaz and gold coffee pot charm (among many, many other things he knew I treasured - I'd lost them both by the time I was divorcing so he knew to hit me where it hurt). I will NEVER forgive him for that and look in every second-hand store, antique shop and jewellers that sell pre-loved things.

Take care and good luck with the final hurdle - and best wishes in celebrating your new life.

r

That creep stole your family rings?? Karma, one nasty madam, will remember him on her most PMSy days. What a jackass!!! Forget my issues - I'm furious at him for you. Fortunately, there's one thing he can never take, and that is your dignity. Hold your head up high, and know that your love for your mom and grandmother transcends any material possessions. My ex stole our dead newborn's ashes. I don't know where the remains of countless prenatal vitamins are, but her soul is free, and I can communicate her whenever and wherever I want to, regardless of where he hid the urn.

 

[lioness]

What state are your proceedings taking place in? I am a court reporter and almost my whole career has been in family law. I am not a lawyer but after 15 years in this arena, I'm pretty knowledgeable. Good luck with everything

This is taking place in Mexico, dysfunction exemplified.

 

[lioness]

Can't think of a better way to celebrate than with bling. I don't have any suggestions but I sure hope this wraps up quickly for you!

Thank you!!!

 

[lioness]

Soothing bling is an excellent part of healing from trauma! WIshing you well...and a Happy Valentine's Day.

Oh, bling will soothe a great deal... Thank you!

 

[lioness]

Can't think of a better way to celebrate than with bling. I don't have any suggestions but I sure hope this wraps up quickly for you!

Thank you! Tonight, I'm a single mom with two sick kids in my bed, thousands of miles away from my family and the man I love, just because my abusive ex won't accept the fact that the marriage was finished years ago, regardless of what his religious sect teaches, and because the local courts are apathetic.

 

[lioness]

Happy for your progress and hope you can be out of there with your children as soon as possible! It will be great that you can live far away from him for your children's sake!

I absolutely love the idea of the three stone ring! The antique ones are fabulous! I adore them,personally, but is your style antique or more contemporary with ideal cuts?

Well... My style is whatever is beautiful, regardless of the style. However, this will be a RHR, so i'd prefer something not too fussy or delicate because otherwise I'd worry about getting it banged about. I'm drawn to the symbolism of a three-stone ring, may two living daughters and me (I had a baby who died when she was ten days old).

 

[lioness]

Congratulations!

Stay safe as he is trapped...

Love the 3 stone celebration ring. What about birth stones?

They won't look too good together. Amethyst, aquamarine and peridot. Too much going on.

 

[lioness]

no help re bling....it really is a personal choice and my style I think is very different......but congrats on the legal issues moving along and in your favor!

Thank you!

 

[lioness]

I'm glad you and your legal team are all working together to get you and your children free and able to move home!
I just worry about you, as your ex seems like a psycho, you all stay safe!

This is a sapphire ring but not blue, there are other 3 stone rings on here I also find beautiful
http://www.simplysapphires.com/index.php?main_page=product_info&cPath=170&products_id=8027
purple and teal sapphire ring, yummy colors, reminds me of the sky and ocean!

http://www.simplysapphires.com/jewelry/gia-certified-pink-ruby-sapphire-diamond-platinum-ring-3.46-ctw?cPath=170&

a strong color, in a 3 stone ring

Oh, that pink sapphire is lovely!

 

[TooPatient]

Congratulations!

Stay safe as he is trapped...

Love the 3 stone celebration ring. What about birth stones?

They won't look too good together. Amethyst, aquamarine and peridot. Too much going on.

Not my favorite combination but I have seen it done and it can be beautiful. (That said, I've seen a lot of mis-matched color things that are just awful!)

I do love your idea of three stone -- you could even add a little side stone set in the band (either outwardly visible or set on the inside of the band against your finger) for your little girl who died?

 

[JaneSmith]

Congratulations on coming to the end of something horrible.

I have no idea what I would buy in your position. What I do know is that if you buy a pre-loved piece, please treasure it. My ex took my grandmother's diamond eternity ring, her beautiful (and unusually-shaped) cameo ring, my mother's engagement ring and her treasured smokey topaz and gold coffee pot charm (among many, many other things he knew I treasured - I'd lost them both by the time I was divorcing so he knew to hit me where it hurt). I will NEVER forgive him for that and look in every second-hand store, antique shop and jewellers that sell pre-loved things.

Take care and good luck with the final hurdle - and best wishes in celebrating your new life.

r

That creep stole your family rings?? Karma, one nasty madam, will remember him on her most PMSy days. What a jackass!!! Forget my issues - I'm furious at him for you. Fortunately, there's one thing he can never take, and that is your dignity. Hold your head up high, and know that your love for your mom and grandmother transcends any material possessions. My ex stole our dead newborn's ashes. I don't know where the remains of countless prenatal vitamins are, but her soul is free, and I can communicate her whenever and wherever I want to, regardless of where he hid the urn.

What the ever-loving f*ck. There is a cavernous divide between my capacity to understand people and someone such as this. Unbelievable.
He, like poor LondonGal's gross ex, are revolting specimens of humanity. Injuriously selfish.

I am glad that things are moving towards freedom for you. I would personally choose a big pink sapphire with diamond sides for my celebration ring, but that is me.

 

[Sunstorm]

Wow, OP and wow others, I had no idea so many of us women are going through something so similar. I too was a lawyer originally and my saga of a horrid marriage was supposed to end over a month ago but I have only begun going down the road to freedom. The suffering has already eased a lot but I sometimes have no idea how I will go through the litigation against my ex who is an extremely abusive stalker and well I should not say too much here about other stuff but it makes me very sad and cannot imcomprehend how so many of us have been victims of such predators that preyed on us. Kudos to you OP for being strong and such a survivor and same to all others that have gone through a similar situation. The main thing is that we have survived and go on happily and so glad that you and the kids are safe.

 

[diamondseeker2006]

I am so sorry for all your heartache. I hope you are free from this horror soon.