MyDiamondSparkles
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Re: Ladies who recently got their 3ct+ babies....please chim
I know! I am really blessed to have him. Now I've been on the hunt for the perfect setting and have come up with nothing in my city--which is disappointing and he can see that. So last Wednesday he says "Let's go to NYC for a long weekend and find a setting!". Of course I am thinking of all the reason we shouldn't go--housework, laundry, errands, appointments, dog needs a bath etc--but I said "Ya!, Let's go!". I ran him all over NYC from Thursday thru Monday! I must have tried on 100 settings. He's such a great guy. Ohhhhh, and get this...on his own, I did not say one word to him....he asked me if he could re-propose when I got my setting. I totally gushed!
Now onto the topic at hand--I never think about who controls the cash at our house. I've been a SAHM as well as worked outside the home--both are equally hard jobs I can tell you that. I guess I have always thought of it as our money. Now I will say my husband is a true financial genius--he seriously has some kind of gift with numbers and investments and stuff like that. I know our financial situation would be no where as good if I were running the show, so I am happy to let him do that. All major purchases are discussed between the two of us. If my husband tells me we'll have to wait to make a purchase I believe that to be true because I know he would give me anything my heart desires if he could afford it.
I do know that a lot of couples fight about money. It's nothing new and it doesn't matter how much money you have or how much you don't have. Again, I'm blessed to have avoided these types of arguments by always trusting my dh to run the show--read on as I know this would not work for everyone. I suck at math--I swear I am some kind of dyslexic and I have never been able to correctly balance a checkbook. Go figure--seriously! Dh loves math--so for our marriage this kind of set up with him running the show and me adding a bit of opinion here and there works. I think marrying someone with the same financial goals and the same types of understanding about how money is or is not spent helps a lot.
Trust me on this: it is not the major purchases that are a killer to your bank account. It's the nickle and dime every day purchases--like a $4.50 Starbucks in the morning, plus $15 at lunch that add up to be a whole 'lotta expense and nothing to show for it. So if you think that a conventional bank loan for say your home mortgage (most people's largest purchase) is 25% of your monthly income, what is the other 75% being spent on?????
Enerchi|1345764966|3256236 said:Oh, MyDiamondSparkles- I love that story!!! Give your DH a big ole hug from me - what a sweet thing to say to you!! How romantic of him!
I know! I am really blessed to have him. Now I've been on the hunt for the perfect setting and have come up with nothing in my city--which is disappointing and he can see that. So last Wednesday he says "Let's go to NYC for a long weekend and find a setting!". Of course I am thinking of all the reason we shouldn't go--housework, laundry, errands, appointments, dog needs a bath etc--but I said "Ya!, Let's go!". I ran him all over NYC from Thursday thru Monday! I must have tried on 100 settings. He's such a great guy. Ohhhhh, and get this...on his own, I did not say one word to him....he asked me if he could re-propose when I got my setting. I totally gushed!
Now onto the topic at hand--I never think about who controls the cash at our house. I've been a SAHM as well as worked outside the home--both are equally hard jobs I can tell you that. I guess I have always thought of it as our money. Now I will say my husband is a true financial genius--he seriously has some kind of gift with numbers and investments and stuff like that. I know our financial situation would be no where as good if I were running the show, so I am happy to let him do that. All major purchases are discussed between the two of us. If my husband tells me we'll have to wait to make a purchase I believe that to be true because I know he would give me anything my heart desires if he could afford it.
I do know that a lot of couples fight about money. It's nothing new and it doesn't matter how much money you have or how much you don't have. Again, I'm blessed to have avoided these types of arguments by always trusting my dh to run the show--read on as I know this would not work for everyone. I suck at math--I swear I am some kind of dyslexic and I have never been able to correctly balance a checkbook. Go figure--seriously! Dh loves math--so for our marriage this kind of set up with him running the show and me adding a bit of opinion here and there works. I think marrying someone with the same financial goals and the same types of understanding about how money is or is not spent helps a lot.
Trust me on this: it is not the major purchases that are a killer to your bank account. It's the nickle and dime every day purchases--like a $4.50 Starbucks in the morning, plus $15 at lunch that add up to be a whole 'lotta expense and nothing to show for it. So if you think that a conventional bank loan for say your home mortgage (most people's largest purchase) is 25% of your monthly income, what is the other 75% being spent on?????