Ladies - Please help me with this engagement ring thing

[MrClueless001]

Fast-Food Story: In a nutshell.. What do you think about a similar ring as this one as an engagement ring with eight emeralds instead of diamonds (our birth stone) on the outer ring and 1 center stone diamond?

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Relaxed Meal Story: So.. after 3 years of courtship, the time has come for me to propose my "diamond" to spend the rest of her life with me... and the prevailing recommendation I get is to do it with a ring... but which one?

I am Indian and she is European and likewise our tastes are pretty different. I like color, she likes black & white and all shades in between, she like happy sounding music and movies that sometimes insult ones intellect and I like contemplative ones, she wants a big garden and I a big garage, she wants a baby and I want a Porsche, I like spicy food, ok... she like that too... but the point is, I don't know what ring to get . She doesn't wear rings and so the only clue I have regarding her taste of ring is based on her comment: "I like the ring to be beautiful, not just plain ones with a stuff on it."

 

[littlelanhua]

Hello and welcome I like that ring you posted a lot - it is a little bit different but classic all in one. Is that one she pointed out?

What about purchasing her a beautiful stone in a temporary setting and letting her have some input on the final design?

In my circle of friends many have been more than happy with this arrangement because there is the element of surprise from the bf and ring for the proposal – but ultimately the gf gets some input too.

 

[SB621]

I would recommend posting in rocky talk. Also make sure to post your budget so people know what you are looking for.

THe ring you posted is very antique to me. I have seen many like it with french cut sapphire, emeralds or rubies around them.

I would take your girlfriend to look at rings and have her try on a few differnt styles etc. When I first start looking at rings with my now DH I wanted something total different- I had this image of a tiffany style solitare with a really funky wedding band. Then I saw it in person and realized I hated it. Since you don't have a lot to go on and it seems you have very different tastes then your girlfriend I would plan a trip to a few different jeweler stories to see what she loves and what she hates. Then you can work on putting something fantastic together.

 

[tyty333]

Its a pretty and unique ring but I would not buy something like that without input from your GF. Its just too specific in taste.
Actually with your "sit down meal" description I dont think you should buy anything without input from your GF...or do like
littlelanhua said and get a stone in a temp setting and let her pick the real setting. Your tastes sound like it may be very
different from hers and I would hate to see you buy anything that she didnt also love. If you both pick the setting together
you are sure to both be happy with it. Good luck and congratulations of your upcoming proposal.

 

[SparkleNut]

The ring is beautiful. But I think it would be the best to go with something simple like a solitaire setting, classic, if you are going to pick the ring out without her help. Or purchase the diamond and let her help you design the setting. If nothing else you could do the solitaire and have her wedding band or even a diamond enhancer band made with emeralds to work in the birthstones.

 

[motownmama]

I like the ring and the idea of using emeralds. I really like surprises too and YOU know your GF. If YOU think she'd like it I would go for it.

 

[purplesilk]

Fast-Food Story: In a nutshell.. What do you think about a similar ring as this one as an engagement ring with eight emeralds instead of diamonds (our birth stone) on the outer ring and 1 center stone diamond?

http://farm3.static.flickr.com/2366/2489303579_36346859ec.jpg

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Relaxed Meal Story: So.. after 3 years of courtship, the time has come for me to propose my "diamond" to spend the rest of her life with me... and the prevailing recommendation I get is to do it with a ring... but which one?

I am Indian and she is European and likewise our tastes are pretty different. I like color, she likes black & white and all shades in between, she like happy sounding music and movies that sometimes insult ones intellect and I like contemplative ones, she wants a big garden and I a big garage, she wants a baby and I want a Porsche, I like spicy food, ok... she like that too... but the point is, I don't know what ring to get . She doesn't wear rings and so the only clue I have regarding her taste of ring is based on her comment: "I like the ring to be beautiful, not just plain ones with a stuff on it."

I like the ring and I think it would be beautiful with emeralds, BUT you said that you don't know what ring to get and that your girlfriend has different tastes from yours, so don't buy anything (no loose diamond and no setting), just print pictures of a bunch of rings and propose with those: let your girfriend choose whatever she likes.

 

[MrClueless001]

Thank you ladies for all the replies... You confirmed what I was suspecting: She would want the power of choice.

OK.. so I am thinking of taking her preview shopping and see what she gravitates to in terms of stone shapes and then present to her that in a basic temporary setting at a time of my choice ::pseudo-surprise:: Anyway, she knows its coming.. because I know she is already secretly planing for babies.

Or I could just gamble and get a round stone?

 

[natascha]

I would either take her looking or get someone else to get to know what she wants. I say this because not everyone likes modern rounds, I personally would be pretty upset to get one, so unless you know she is fine with them find out. Oh and proposing with the diamond in a temp setting would in my mind be perfect. Either that or if you propose with a gemstone ring and then go shopping togheter.

 

[Amys Bling]

I would take her looking- it would, in my opinion, be a mistake to assume she would want a ruond stone.

OR contact her sister/best friend and find out if they know. Girls talk about these things! If they don't know then maybe they would find out in a non-suspecting way.