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Can you please talk to my wife? b/c I want the same deal.It's the lucky spouse (male or female) that can upgrade without speaking to their spouse because this to me means, they have enough of their own money without hitting up their 'shared' money, in my case my husband is sharing 75% of the cost of my ring to be and I'm contributing 25% of my money. (seems fair to me!).
Of course. We’ve always had shared finances, so it’d be difficult spending a large sum of money without him noticing, especially as he’s an accountant and checks ours accounts daily!
I’m the accountant in this household. My husband hates bills. Is this mean I get a pass from telling him about an upgrade?
He buys planes, cars etc without getting my opinion on his s@#* so why should I ask him when I want something the answer is a solid hell no from me..... and usually when I do tell him about it he will claim later I didn't tell him about something new anyway. We've been together 20+ years as the saying goes.... "ignorance is bliss"
This is my husband as well. Without telling me, he loves buying me jewelry from the mall store like Daniel’s jewelry. Spending thousands for a jewelry that I may not like. As a result, they sit in my jewelry box. I’d rather he let me spend on something really nice. I can get something really nice with PS vendor with the $$$ he spent on Daniel’s jewelry. Am I a snob or are you kind of agree with me?
For our 10th anniversary, I preemptively asked him if it’s okay for me to get a diamond band to mark the anniversary. He said yes. I told him my budget and he said okay. I show him the videos and pictures of diamonds that I’m considering though. He puts his two cents then move on.
Are you married to my husband? My husband has execrable taste in jewelry and he insists on showing in occasion. I have too many pieces that he's brought back from somewhere and I grind my teeth at the thought of money being spent on this.
Yes! I figure new jewelry is my payment for being the household accountant and H&R Block representative.I’m the accountant in this household. My husband hates bills. Is this mean I get a pass from telling him about an upgrade?
So glad I’m not the only one with this problem.
Yes me as well, he has terrible taste (well not my taste) in jewellery, clothing or anything pretty well for me. He likes selecting his own stuff although I can buy clothing and watches for him he likes but I don't think he's ever purchased anything I like. So basically the rule is if I want it I buy it for myself. He says what am I buying you for your birthday and I say oh this fabulous new sapphire, spinel, handbag, or whatever it happens to be, he says I'm a fabulous shopper aren't I and I say, the best.
When my son was smaller he even went to the trouble of intercepting the packages and wrapping whatever it was so I wasn't allow to see what I'd bought for myself until it was that day ie mother's Day, Christmas, Birthdays.
It beats wasting money on a heap of cr#* I hate that I will never wear.
Exactly! They mean well but gosh just give me the $$$ and I know how to make the most of it. I asked him that the next time he has the urge to buy me a jewelry, just tell me his budget and psers can help us find good stuff. He is too sentimental and sensitive though so I have to thread lightly.