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Dancing Fire|1376273687|3501126 said:in public (a guy) complimenting your Ering?
one time this gal was in shockwhen I said... that is a "nice cushion" ,then another time when I said..."nice princess" to this lady, she then looked at me weird...
..thinking I was going to rob her or something...
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sonnyjane|1376274417|3501134 said:Dancing Fire|1376273687|3501126 said:in public (a guy) complimenting your Ering?
one time this gal was in shockwhen I said... that is a "nice cushion" ,then another time when I said..."nice princess" to this lady, she then looked at me weird...
..thinking I was going to rob her or something...
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Maybe the one you told "nice cushion" thought you were inappropriately complimenting her backside, and the one you said "nice princess" to may have thought you were calling HER princess, in which case I'd look at you weird too![]()
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You could be right!...sonnyjane|1376274417|3501134 said:Dancing Fire|1376273687|3501126 said:in public (a guy) complimenting your Ering?
one time this gal was in shockwhen I said... that is a "nice cushion" ,then another time when I said..."nice princess" to this lady, she then looked at me weird...
..thinking I was going to rob her or something...
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Maybe the one you told "nice cushion" thought you were inappropriately complimenting her backside, and the one you said "nice princess" to may have thought you were calling HER princess, in which case I'd look at you weird too![]()
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MC|1376282363|3501187 said:Most people don't live in PS world and over time, I've learned that regardless of the person, it's best not to comment on anything unless they are obviously looking for compliments and showcasing their diamond. Regardless if you're male or female, it's better to just remain silent. One time I made a comment about my friend's diamond being pretty & it turned out that there was some awkwardness bc it was a family gem and there was discomfort the couple had over it. That is one of a couple times where I realized it's better not to say anything even if the diamond is the most spectacular one you've ever seen. Plus, it is weird for a guy to comment on the jewelry of a gal he doesn't know. The only time it is ok is if he is a jeweler.
jaysonsmom|1376320657|3501377 said:The only strangers that have complimented my rings were all young ladies, probably at the age where they were planning to be engaged soon. They were sales associates and waitresses. I just extend my hand so they can get a good look, and say thank you. I don't know how I'd react to a guy....I'd probably ask them if they were looking to get something similar for their gf, and launch into a speech about PS and doing thorough research!
JewelFreak|1376302828|3501245 said:But many times I'm amazed at how defensively other women react. Once I spent a morning helping a friend of a friend find her escaped Siberian -- so I wasn't even strictly a stranger & was volunteering my time to search for her dog. She had the most beautiful huge diamond e-ring I ever saw -- I explained that I was working at Tiffany & said how lovely it was. She answered curtly that it was a family ring of her husband's & seemed all squirmy. I still don't get the discomfort; I said it all with obvious admiration, pleasantly, not pushy, after plenty of other talk. Me, I'd tell somebody my whole life's history in that situation!
--- Laurie
kenny|1376333631|3501522 said:I've complimented quite a few women, and a few men, on their diamonds.
It was always in a public less-threatening place, like waiting in line at Trader Joe's or Costco.
Waiting in line is a boring time when you are stuck in close proximity.
This is different from walking up to a woman, which is more threatening.
I'd never walk up to a woman in a parking lot at night to compliment her jewelry.
As to the response I've gotten ... only smiles and thank yous.
I think a lot depends not only on the situation but on the man's countenance, appearance, body language, words chosen, tone of voice .. just generally how he comes across.
MC|1376330793|3501492 said:JewelFreak|1376302828|3501245 said:But many times I'm amazed at how defensively other women react. Once I spent a morning helping a friend of a friend find her escaped Siberian -- so I wasn't even strictly a stranger & was volunteering my time to search for her dog. She had the most beautiful huge diamond e-ring I ever saw -- I explained that I was working at Tiffany & said how lovely it was. She answered curtly that it was a family ring of her husband's & seemed all squirmy. I still don't get the discomfort; I said it all with obvious admiration, pleasantly, not pushy, after plenty of other talk. Me, I'd tell somebody my whole life's history in that situation!
--- Laurie
The deal is you just don't know what the family dynamics were or why the woman was wearing the family ring (were they guilt tripped into doing so or possibly they didn't have the funds to buy a ring on their own). The friend who became uncomfortable about my compliment sort of moved me into the other room to explain that it was an issue, so for all I know they had gotten into a disagreement about the diamond and/or something happened.
Another reason I don't say anything is one time someone admitted she was wearing CZs because she wouldn't wear real diamonds unless they were larger than a certain size (I forget now what size she said). A couple years later, she started wearing VERY large earrings and I'm not sure if they're CZs or diamonds. They can afford the real thing...it's just that the ones she has aren't that sparkly. Who knows! Better to just avoid that topic.
Laila619|1376336049|3501547 said:If a woman complimented my jewelry, I'd smile and say thanks. If a guy did it, I'd find it weird and inappropriate, especially if he were married. I would not want my husband going around complimenting other ladies' stuff.