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Dancing Fire

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in public (a guy) complimenting your Ering?

one time this gal was in shock :o when I said... that is a "nice cushion" ,then another time when I said..."nice princess" to this lady, she then looked at me weird... :Up_to_something: ..thinking I was going to rob her or something... :wacko:
 
Dancing Fire|1376273687|3501126 said:
in public (a guy) complimenting your Ering?

one time this gal was in shock :o when I said... that is a "nice cushion" ,then another time when I said..."nice princess" to this lady, she then looked at me weird... :Up_to_something: ..thinking I was going to rob her or something... :wacko:

Maybe the one you told "nice cushion" thought you were inappropriately complimenting her backside, and the one you said "nice princess" to may have thought you were calling HER princess, in which case I'd look at you weird too :cheeky: :cheeky: :cheeky:
 
sonnyjane|1376274417|3501134 said:
Dancing Fire|1376273687|3501126 said:
in public (a guy) complimenting your Ering?

one time this gal was in shock :o when I said... that is a "nice cushion" ,then another time when I said..."nice princess" to this lady, she then looked at me weird... :Up_to_something: ..thinking I was going to rob her or something... :wacko:

Maybe the one you told "nice cushion" thought you were inappropriately complimenting her backside, and the one you said "nice princess" to may have thought you were calling HER princess, in which case I'd look at you weird too :cheeky: :cheeky: :cheeky:


Hahaha!
 
I don't know. I might be gracious and couth and smile and say Thank You.

But I think I burst a woman's bubble in the checkout line at Kmart one day because I complimented her on her big diamond halo e-ring. I could tell that it was platinum and the center was a real diamond with arrows if not H&A. I was wearing my big diamond halo, which I usually don't do in this small town, because weirdness always happens when I do. She looked surprised that a stranger spoke, then she noticed my nearly equivalent halo ring, and then she gave me a Lucy-Lu style if-looks-could-kill-scowl. I am certain that right up until that moment, she had been on cloud nine thinking that she had the first, the biggest, the bestest, and the only Big Halo Ring in Dodge. She snatched up her bags without saying a word, and stalked out without looking back. The clerks stood there with their mouths open in amazement. All I said was "That's a gorgeous ring." She was better dressed, I'll giver her that. I was dressed like a farmer. :lol:
 
sonnyjane's post is much better than my reply! :lol: I do get a lot of compliments from men on my engagement ring, and I simply say "Thank You"! That's pretty much the end of it.
 
I would love to enjoy jewellery socially via complimenting and being complimented.
Alas, it is something that is 'just not done' where I live.
As I have mentioned earlier, the only person IRL who has complimented me on my post-baby (tragedy) RHR is someone who really has made a bit of a show of disliking me.
People who I DO have a friendly acquaintance / friendship with have not remarked once on my special item!

So I have cultivated friendships with two lovely girls who work in a gorgeous upmarket jewellery store. :Up_to_something:
Now I have a real-life outlet for talking all things Jewels.
And then there's the Perth-based PS girls... :naughty:
 
Most people don't live in PS world and over time, I've learned that regardless of the person, it's best not to comment on anything unless they are obviously looking for compliments and showcasing their diamond. Regardless if you're male or female, it's better to just remain silent. One time I made a comment about my friend's diamond being pretty & it turned out that there was some awkwardness bc it was a family gem and there was discomfort the couple had over it. That is one of a couple times where I realized it's better not to say anything even if the diamond is the most spectacular one you've ever seen. Plus, it is weird for a guy to comment on the jewelry of a gal he doesn't know. The only time it is ok is if he is a jeweler.
 
sonnyjane|1376274417|3501134 said:
Dancing Fire|1376273687|3501126 said:
in public (a guy) complimenting your Ering?

one time this gal was in shock :o when I said... that is a "nice cushion" ,then another time when I said..."nice princess" to this lady, she then looked at me weird... :Up_to_something: ..thinking I was going to rob her or something... :wacko:

Maybe the one you told "nice cushion" thought you were inappropriately complimenting her backside, and the one you said "nice princess" to may have thought you were calling HER princess, in which case I'd look at you weird too :cheeky: :cheeky: :cheeky:
You could be right!... :lol:
 
MC|1376282363|3501187 said:
Most people don't live in PS world and over time, I've learned that regardless of the person, it's best not to comment on anything unless they are obviously looking for compliments and showcasing their diamond. Regardless if you're male or female, it's better to just remain silent. One time I made a comment about my friend's diamond being pretty & it turned out that there was some awkwardness bc it was a family gem and there was discomfort the couple had over it. That is one of a couple times where I realized it's better not to say anything even if the diamond is the most spectacular one you've ever seen. Plus, it is weird for a guy to comment on the jewelry of a gal he doesn't know. The only time it is ok is if he is a jeweler.


In most cases staying silent really is the safest! If the person seems friendly enough, I'll compliment if it is impressive. I've actually made a couple of great friends this way!

Agree with the bolded part...
Sorry DF but it is almost always creepy if a guy notices my jewelry. Especially a guy I don't know :sick:

(the exception would be at a PS GTG!)
 
It depends on the circumstances. Standing in line at Best Buy, say, if a guy complimented my jewelry I'd be pleased & say thank you. Somebody passing on the street saying "nice ring!" would creep me out.

Yesterday I complimented the checkout clerk at Lowe's on her ring -- it was a very nice retro-style w/center diamond & small side diamonds. She gave a big grin & told me about her wedding next month, had a neat conversation.

But many times I'm amazed at how defensively other women react. Once I spent a morning helping a friend of a friend find her escaped Siberian -- so I wasn't even strictly a stranger & was volunteering my time to search for her dog. She had the most beautiful huge diamond e-ring I ever saw -- I explained that I was working at Tiffany & said how lovely it was. She answered curtly that it was a family ring of her husband's & seemed all squirmy. I still don't get the discomfort; I said it all with obvious admiration, pleasantly, not pushy, after plenty of other talk. Me, I'd tell somebody my whole life's history in that situation!

--- Laurie
 
I would be thrilled if a stranger complimented my ring, I think it is a nice thing to do.
 
I'm never going to stop handing out compliments just because some people are weird and can't handle it. Now, if I'm by myself in a vulnerable situation and some intimidating dude gets within my personal space eyeing up my jewelry... That's another story. But since I'm not one to usually put myself into those situations, I'm pretty happy when someone compliments my ring.
 
However, reading this thread makes me want to find a random woman and compliment her on her "pear shape." I'll see how long it takes her to figure out I'm referring to her diamond! :lol:
 
The only time guys have complimented on my ering is when I'm in the diamond district on 47th in NYC. I figure they are in the trade and we usually have a lively discussion about diamonds.

I think the only other time was right when I got engaged and the guy sitting next to me on the plane asked how big it was (.76ct then) as he was about to propose to his FI and was looking at diamonds. He saw how happy I was with mine and had a few questions.
 
Perhaps the awkward reactions stem from the fact that their husbands picked out the rings by themselves with no input from their wives, so it's not the shape/size/style they wanted? :naughty:

I know with my e-ring #1, which was moreso the "temp" ring, I was very uncomfortable with getting compliments because of the history behind it - it was originally my mom's diamond that we had reset, and she was being particularly difficult with us because it was HER diamond that she only pulled out to wear a handful of times in over 30 years, and was giving me grief for wearing it every day, and repeatedly pointing out that SHE didn't get an e-ring until she was married and I was 1 years old. As soon as we could, we got our OWN diamond - the fancy yellow, and she popped out her diamond and reset it in a halo pendant at IDJ. phew! I welcome compliments on the e-ring(s) DH and I got together. :appl:

I would call this a case of not being HEART clean...
 
Aside from the jewelry stores I frequent, I haven't had a man comment on my rings. I do compliment many women on theirs and have received lots of compliments on mine. I would be creeped out if a random stranger on the street made a point to ogle my jewelry but in a store, restaurant, mall, hair salon, doctors office, I enjoy the conversation.
 
Interesting topic, with some bloody funny replies! If I had a pear ring and someone complimented me on my pear shape, I'd be very upset because I AM pear-shaped! And "princess" - I'd run a mile! In Cockney speech, "princess" is sometimes used in a similar sense to "honey", like in Pirates of the Caribbean when one of the creepy pirate twosome keeps saying to Keira Knightley, "'Ello, Poppet!" Or imagine Michael Caine in his South London accent going, "'Ello, Princess". I'd have assumed you were going to proceed to chase me around the store, Sid James/Carry On style! I would have beat a hasty retreat, for sure!

I actually have had a young teenage boy compliment me on my ring! It was slightly odd. I was sitting at the neighbourhood pool, and he was evidently a camp counsellor. The kids were in the pool, and he was sitting near me. I'd guess he was about 17. He noticed my ring - which is only a 0.70 - and he said it was really nice, and we proceeded to have a conversation about it. He was a typical young dude, with his technology - iphone, white headphones, baggy shorts, etc - and I'm still surprised about it, especially as he was sitting on my right so wouldn't easily have noticed my ring.

I'm surprised that others have had negative reactions to their bling compliments. I haven't had much occasion to compliment people on their jewellery, since I don't very often see large rings around here (Boston) but the few times I have, the compliments have been gratefully received.

I have received negative reactions from others when I have complimented them on different things, though. Once, when I was still a student, I was on campus talking to the security guard at the entrance, and this very well-dressed slightly older girl comes up. She was a graduate who had come back to visit. She was perhaps a few years older, and seemed incredibly sophisticated to me, with her beautiful camel-coloured coat and this gorgeous perfume. I said, "Oh, your perfume is lovely, what is it?" Well, she looked at me as if I was orphan Annie, answered with great disdain and as quickly as she could, then cut me dead. I think she actually sneered at me! That was back in about 1995 and I can still remember how horrid she was and the nasty look she gave me. Maybe some women just don't like compliments, who the hell knows! BTW the perfume was Spellbound by Estee Lauder and I did buy some and wear it for a few years!
 
The only strangers that have complimented my rings were all young ladies, probably at the age where they were planning to be engaged soon. They were sales associates and waitresses. I just extend my hand so they can get a good look, and say thank you. I don't know how I'd react to a guy....I'd probably ask them if they were looking to get something similar for their gf, and launch into a speech about PS and doing thorough research!
 
Mostly, I have only had women who comment on my ring. I always say thank you, but after that I am at a loss. Do they want to look at it more closely? Should I give them more information? I am never quite sure what to do or say. Last month, I was buying shoes at a store that specializes in running shoes. I was trying to decide which pair to buy and the girl noticed my ring. I just said thank you but she kept staring at my hand. I felt so dumb, like I should have let her look at it more or said more but by that time it would have felt like bragging or showing off to me.
 
jaysonsmom|1376320657|3501377 said:
The only strangers that have complimented my rings were all young ladies, probably at the age where they were planning to be engaged soon. They were sales associates and waitresses. I just extend my hand so they can get a good look, and say thank you. I don't know how I'd react to a guy....I'd probably ask them if they were looking to get something similar for their gf, and launch into a speech about PS and doing thorough research!

I have given the PS speech to a few people! Not long ago, I was oogling the jewelry at Costco, and a lady asked about my rings. I even wrote all the addresses on a piece of paper for her of all the vendors I liked and pricescope. She wanted to sell her 4 ct. princess and buy a yellow diamond, so I told her about JBEG, and Diamonds by Lauren. I talked with her for about 20 minutes while my hubby stood waiting. I didn't want to speak another word for the rest of the day after that.
 
JewelFreak|1376302828|3501245 said:
But many times I'm amazed at how defensively other women react. Once I spent a morning helping a friend of a friend find her escaped Siberian -- so I wasn't even strictly a stranger & was volunteering my time to search for her dog. She had the most beautiful huge diamond e-ring I ever saw -- I explained that I was working at Tiffany & said how lovely it was. She answered curtly that it was a family ring of her husband's & seemed all squirmy. I still don't get the discomfort; I said it all with obvious admiration, pleasantly, not pushy, after plenty of other talk. Me, I'd tell somebody my whole life's history in that situation!

--- Laurie

The deal is you just don't know what the family dynamics were or why the woman was wearing the family ring (were they guilt tripped into doing so or possibly they didn't have the funds to buy a ring on their own). The friend who became uncomfortable about my compliment sort of moved me into the other room to explain that it was an issue, so for all I know they had gotten into a disagreement about the diamond and/or something happened.

Another reason I don't say anything is one time someone admitted she was wearing CZs because she wouldn't wear real diamonds unless they were larger than a certain size (I forget now what size she said). A couple years later, she started wearing VERY large earrings and I'm not sure if they're CZs or diamonds. They can afford the real thing...it's just that the ones she has aren't that sparkly. Who knows! Better to just avoid that topic.
 
I never had a man compliment me on my jewelry except for jewelers. I love it when women approach me and compliment me on my jewelry, it often is a start to a great conversation.

I guess I've been lucky, I am sensitive to the vibes I get off of people and so far every stranger I've complimented was appreciative that I liked their jewelry. Sometimes, the discussion goes deeper and they express that they'd like to learn more about quality, etc. and then I recommend to them that they read goodoldgold's tutorials about diamonds if they want a good overview, and Pricescope forums if they want to devote more time.
 
I've complimented quite a few women, and a few men, on their diamonds.
It was always in a public less-threatening place, like waiting in line at Trader Joe's or Costco.
Waiting in line is a boring time when you are stuck in close proximity.
This is different from walking up to a woman, which is more threatening.
I'd never walk up to a woman in a parking lot at night to compliment her jewelry.

As to the response I've gotten ... only smiles and thank yous.

I think a lot depends not only on the situation but on the man's countenance, appearance, body language, words chosen, tone of voice .. just generally how he comes across.
 
kenny|1376333631|3501522 said:
I've complimented quite a few women, and a few men, on their diamonds.
It was always in a public less-threatening place, like waiting in line at Trader Joe's or Costco.
Waiting in line is a boring time when you are stuck in close proximity.
This is different from walking up to a woman, which is more threatening.
I'd never walk up to a woman in a parking lot at night to compliment her jewelry.

As to the response I've gotten ... only smiles and thank yous.

I think a lot depends not only on the situation but on the man's countenance, appearance, body language, words chosen, tone of voice .. just generally how he comes across.


This!
 
Generally, I love getting compliments from strangers. I still remember the nice lady who came up to me at the grocery store to ask me where I got those boots! and the people who've stopped me to ask about my coats, glasses, etc. The only time I've found it slightly creepy was back when I used to smoke and drunk dudes at bars wanted to compliment - and then look and and handle - my pricey gold Dunhill lighter. Nope, nope, nope: admire away, but if you want a light, I will either light it for you myself or give you a book of matches. The expectation that people hand over their valuables is ... weird.

Ringwise, I've gotten compliments from a few random gentlemen, most of whom have been on the verge of proposing themselves. I think it's sweet! I have, on the other hand, gotten weirded out looks from women I've paid compliments to ... so I guess it's just a case-by-case kind of a thing. :rodent:
 
If a woman complimented my jewelry, I'd smile and say thanks. If a guy did it, I'd find it weird and inappropriate, especially if he were married. I would not want my husband going around complimenting other ladies' stuff.
 
MC|1376330793|3501492 said:
JewelFreak|1376302828|3501245 said:
But many times I'm amazed at how defensively other women react. Once I spent a morning helping a friend of a friend find her escaped Siberian -- so I wasn't even strictly a stranger & was volunteering my time to search for her dog. She had the most beautiful huge diamond e-ring I ever saw -- I explained that I was working at Tiffany & said how lovely it was. She answered curtly that it was a family ring of her husband's & seemed all squirmy. I still don't get the discomfort; I said it all with obvious admiration, pleasantly, not pushy, after plenty of other talk. Me, I'd tell somebody my whole life's history in that situation!

--- Laurie

The deal is you just don't know what the family dynamics were or why the woman was wearing the family ring (were they guilt tripped into doing so or possibly they didn't have the funds to buy a ring on their own). The friend who became uncomfortable about my compliment sort of moved me into the other room to explain that it was an issue, so for all I know they had gotten into a disagreement about the diamond and/or something happened.

Another reason I don't say anything is one time someone admitted she was wearing CZs because she wouldn't wear real diamonds unless they were larger than a certain size (I forget now what size she said). A couple years later, she started wearing VERY large earrings and I'm not sure if they're CZs or diamonds. They can afford the real thing...it's just that the ones she has aren't that sparkly. Who knows! Better to just avoid that topic.

That's a good point, MC. Gosh, maybe the honker I complimented was a CZ haha! -- they lived in an adorable cottage on a huge estate in Greenwich CT, & she was beautiful and expensively dressed. This stone was at least 3 cts, gorgeously cut. Or maybe her MIL was mad to have to contribute great-granny's bling to a DIL she didn't like, who knows? Or maybe she wondered why this chick was yapping about diamonds when her DAWG was lost?! You're right, you never know the backstory, thanks for the reminder.

--- Laurie
 
Laila619|1376336049|3501547 said:
If a woman complimented my jewelry, I'd smile and say thanks. If a guy did it, I'd find it weird and inappropriate, especially if he were married. I would not want my husband going around complimenting other ladies' stuff.

Hmm.
Maybe that has something to do with why I'm very comfortable complimenting a woman on her diamonds.
I'm not a part of the men-hitting-on-women group, which goes back zillions of years and is always bubbling under the surface.
Sure the woman doesn't know I'm gay, but maybe it helps me project a non-threatening demeanor with women.

IOW, maybe I just think of myself as one of the girls. :lol:
 
I enjoy receiving compliments on my jewelry, from women or men.

I usually say thanks and then may reply with more details about the piece.

I am also comfortable complimenting others if I like a piece they are wearing.

Jewelry is a fun topic to discuss and share!

Anne
 
I think Id be ok with it:) If I were you Id probably say nice princess diamond...or beautiful ring..or whatever. Nice cushion sounds like she might have a nice bum.
 
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