I hope I don''t sound like a baby or brat or something horrible, but I just needed to vent where I know there are people who understand! My DH pretty much made it clear last night that, while he would *like* for me to have the ring that I want, he can''t see spending a significant amount of money on something like jewelry, not now or ever. He thought it would be much more wise to spend it on a big family vacation, or something nice everyone could enjoy, etc. So of course, I felt like a completely selfish person for even thinking of having something worth thousands of dollars on my finger rather than spending money on the family. Uggghh...
Then he compared my desire for a new e-ring (which would be my first diamond e-ring from him BTW, after 6 years of marriage; this would be an upgrade from a cz, which was all we could afford when we got married) to his desire for an expensive sportscar that he will never get because it''s not practical or good for the family. I tried to explain that it was different, that this would be a gift that I would love forever and that would be extremely meaningful to me, but I don''t think I explained my feelings very well because he totally didn''t get it. I have not even been thinking that this upgrade would come anytime soon, as he did recently get me a beautiful anniversary band with real diamonds that I love. But I have been hoping that by slowly working on him, I could convince him someday, eventually, we could save and buy me a diamond e-ring
Now I wonder if I''m just deluding myself...
On a side note, I am a stay at home mom so have no personal earning power on my own right now. Maybe someday I could save up my own money, but who knows when that will be or how long it would take, and then will I just feel guilty for saving up for an extravagant purchase for myself?
The other sad part of this whole conversation was that my husband, who works extremely hard and is very responsible, then felt like I wanted him to work even more to make even more money to satisfy these diamond urges that I have. I felt awful then, as that''s the last thing I would want him to do. He doesn''t need anymore stress in his life.
I guess the bottom line is, my dh is endlessly practical, while a small part of me wishes that just occasionally he would spend on something that he thinks is frivioous (but obviously very meaningful to me). Needless to say, at the end of the conversation I felt like a completely materialistic, selfish, and ungrateful person, but also depressed that my wish for a beautiful diamond e-ring is probably at best, many many years away if I can eventually save up the money myself.
I know this is a pathetic post. Thanks for letting me vent and feel sorry for myself over jewelry. I know that there are far worse things in the world to be sad about, but I knew that many of you could understand where I''m coming from.
Then he compared my desire for a new e-ring (which would be my first diamond e-ring from him BTW, after 6 years of marriage; this would be an upgrade from a cz, which was all we could afford when we got married) to his desire for an expensive sportscar that he will never get because it''s not practical or good for the family. I tried to explain that it was different, that this would be a gift that I would love forever and that would be extremely meaningful to me, but I don''t think I explained my feelings very well because he totally didn''t get it. I have not even been thinking that this upgrade would come anytime soon, as he did recently get me a beautiful anniversary band with real diamonds that I love. But I have been hoping that by slowly working on him, I could convince him someday, eventually, we could save and buy me a diamond e-ring
On a side note, I am a stay at home mom so have no personal earning power on my own right now. Maybe someday I could save up my own money, but who knows when that will be or how long it would take, and then will I just feel guilty for saving up for an extravagant purchase for myself?
The other sad part of this whole conversation was that my husband, who works extremely hard and is very responsible, then felt like I wanted him to work even more to make even more money to satisfy these diamond urges that I have. I felt awful then, as that''s the last thing I would want him to do. He doesn''t need anymore stress in his life.
I guess the bottom line is, my dh is endlessly practical, while a small part of me wishes that just occasionally he would spend on something that he thinks is frivioous (but obviously very meaningful to me). Needless to say, at the end of the conversation I felt like a completely materialistic, selfish, and ungrateful person, but also depressed that my wish for a beautiful diamond e-ring is probably at best, many many years away if I can eventually save up the money myself.
I know this is a pathetic post. Thanks for letting me vent and feel sorry for myself over jewelry. I know that there are far worse things in the world to be sad about, but I knew that many of you could understand where I''m coming from.