Just proposed. I think I screwed up with my ring choice...

[CRYSTAL24K]

Re: Just proposed. I think I screwed up with my ring choice

I am sorry about what happened.

No advice to give as I don't know the two of you.

I wish you all the best whatever happens in the future.

Hugs.

 

[VRBeauty]

Re: Just proposed. I think I screwed up with my ring choice

It sounds like your relationship is lacking in communication, commitment, and maturity - and I mean on both of your parts. I'd send the ring in for a refund, and if you do decide to give this relationship another go - invest in some couples counseling before you invest in another ring.

 

[Gypsy]

Re: Just proposed. I think I screwed up with my ring choice

It sounds like your relationship is lacking in communication, commitment, and maturity - and I mean on both of your parts. I'd send the ring in for a refund, and if you do decide to give this relationship another go - invest in some couples counseling before you invest in another ring.

Yup.

I think you are BOTH not ready for marriage.

If a man kissed me when I was out, regardless of whether I had been dating, engaged or married, I would have told my SO right away. I wouldn't have waited more than 24 hours, and honestly probably not even 12 hours.

But you and your reactions are problematic as well.


Return the ring. Regardless of what happens it's tainted now FOR YOU, IMO.


If at some later point in time you are both really ready for marriage, then buy a new one.

 

[Lizabeth]

Re: Just proposed. I think I screwed up with my ring choice

Troll. IF that happened, who would ever go back to a DIAMOND forum he's only posted in once and share in great and uncomfortable detail this sudsy drama with complete strangers? The original post would have been my last if this had happened to me AND 99.9 percent of quasi-normal people in the world.

Please don't feed the troll, people.

 

[Circe]

Re: Just proposed. I think I screwed up with my ring choice

Lizabeth - you're right, but I'm going to throw this out not for the OP, but for the regular posters who are lucky enough not to have had this crap happen.

When I was 22, I was out at a bar with friends, dancing. Some guy started dancing near me, and then with me ... and then he kissed me. And I was so remarkably grossed out that I ran home and washed my mouth out with rubbing alcohol. Yes, seriously. BTW, don't ever do that: Listerine is just as hygienic, considerably less painful. But I was really grossed out.

Now, I'm sure some of the posters here are going to believe that by being in a bar, by drinking, by dancing, by not maintaining a magical force field or teleporting when a strange man came within three feet of me, I encouraged his behavior.

I encourage those people to remove their heads from their sphincters.

I feel really sorry for this girl, frankly. "Flirting" is a really broad category: for some people, it encompasses just talking to a member of the opposite gender. It doesn't sound like she had any interest in engaging in any hanky-panky with the dude in the bar: it sounds like she was surprised. People are, when strangers do completely inappropriate things. And, OP (even if I do think you're fictional), if you're usually as judgmental as you came off in your first post, I don't blame her a bit for being hesitant to tell you. Considering how much crap you projected onto her when you thought she didn't like the ring ... yeesh, no wonder she felt nervous about telling you something with this much potential for victim-blame-y bull-pucky.

Bottom line: I don't think it's a coincidence most the people who think OP's reaction sounds reasonable are gentlemen. I'd assume it's a privilege and a delight not to have to worry about, a) that kind of nonsense, or, b) being blamed for having "provoked" it by doing things like wearing clothes, being out in public, existing. QuietlySW, Distracts, Mrs. Blop, DS ... cosign. Aaaaaaaaaaand I'm out.

 

[KaeKae]

Re: Just proposed. I think I screwed up with my ring choice

Troll. IF that happened, who would ever go back to a DIAMOND forum he's only posted in once and share in great and uncomfortable detail this sudsy drama with complete strangers? The original post would have been my last if this had happened to me AND 99.9 percent of quasi-normal people in the world.

Please don't feed the troll, people.

This.

I thought I was the only one questioning the validity of the entire story. If you go back to page one, a large portion of the responses are from posters with fewer than 50 posts. It makes me wonder which of those are to be trusted, as well or part of a troll's scheme (admittedly, because I have not followed those posters records)

 

[Kensington]

Re: Just proposed. I think I screwed up with my ring choice

Troll. IF that happened, who would ever go back to a DIAMOND forum he's only posted in once and share in great and uncomfortable detail this sudsy drama with complete strangers? The original post would have been my last if this had happened to me AND 99.9 percent of quasi-normal people in the world.

Please don't feed the troll, people.

This.

I thought I was the only one questioning the validity of the entire story. If you go back to page one, a large portion of the responses are from posters with fewer than 50 posts. It makes me wonder which of those are to be trusted, as well or part of a troll's scheme (admittedly, because I have not followed those posters records)

I don't have many posts and commented. I'm not part of the "troll's scheme"... this just happened to be a thread that I (as someone who came here to ask some ring questions and likes perusing the experts' advice) could actually comment on! I'm usually just a reader since I obviously don't have the quals to tell anyone whether they should pick Diamond A or Diamond B.

This might be the case for others as well.

 

[quietlysw]

Re: Just proposed. I think I screwed up with my ring choice

Troll. IF that happened, who would ever go back to a DIAMOND forum he's only posted in once and share in great and uncomfortable detail this sudsy drama with complete strangers? The original post would have been my last if this had happened to me AND 99.9 percent of quasi-normal people in the world.

Please don't feed the troll, people.

This.

I thought I was the only one questioning the validity of the entire story. If you go back to page one, a large portion of the responses are from posters with fewer than 50 posts. It makes me wonder which of those are to be trusted, as well or part of a troll's scheme (admittedly, because I have not followed those posters records)

Post count shouldn't immediately speak to one's credibility. Wouldn't it be better if you judged someone based on their contribution to the discussion? This whole post-count stigma is one of the downsides to PS. If we can't comment on this dude's behaviour, how are we supposed to comment on something as specialised as cut, light performance etc with any kind of authority? A low post count doesn't always mean a troll, a newbie or someone with a less valid or informed opinion. One of the major disincentives to speak up at all. But oh well, just my opinion, as one of those with "fewer than 50 posts".

Sigh.

 

[quietlysw]

Re: Just proposed. I think I screwed up with my ring choice

Lizabeth - you're right, but I'm going to throw this out not for the OP, but for the regular posters who are lucky enough not to have had this crap happen.

When I was 22, I was out at a bar with friends, dancing. Some guy started dancing near me, and then with me ... and then he kissed me. And I was so remarkably grossed out that I ran home and washed my mouth out with rubbing alcohol. Yes, seriously. BTW, don't ever do that: Listerine is just as hygienic, considerably less painful. But I was really grossed out.

Now, I'm sure some of the posters here are going to believe that by being in a bar, by drinking, by dancing, by not maintaining a magical force field or teleporting when a strange man came within three feet of me, I encouraged his behavior.

I encourage those people to remove their heads from their sphincters.

I feel really sorry for this girl, frankly. "Flirting" is a really broad category: for some people, it encompasses just talking to a member of the opposite gender. It doesn't sound like she had any interest in engaging in any hanky-panky with the dude in the bar: it sounds like she was surprised. People are, when strangers do completely inappropriate things. And, OP (even if I do think you're fictional), if you're usually as judgmental as you came off in your first post, I don't blame her a bit for being hesitant to tell you. Considering how much crap you projected onto her when you thought she didn't like the ring ... yeesh, no wonder she felt nervous about telling you something with this much potential for victim-blame-y bull-pucky.

Bottom line: I don't think it's a coincidence most the people who think OP's reaction sounds reasonable are gentlemen. I'd assume it's a privilege and a delight not to have to worry about, a) that kind of nonsense, or, b) being blamed for having "provoked" it by doing things like wearing clothes, being out in public, existing. QuietlySW, Distracts, Mrs. Blop, DS ... cosign. Aaaaaaaaaaand I'm out.

End of.

 

[kenny]

Re: Just proposed. I think I screwed up with my ring choice

I got almost 20,000 posts and I'm totally a troll.

 

[distracts]

Re: Just proposed. I think I screwed up with my ring choice

I got almost 20,000 posts and I'm totally a troll.

Yes, but you're our troll.

 

[swingirl]

Re: Just proposed. I think I screwed up with my ring choice

Troll. IF that happened, who would ever go back to a DIAMOND forum he's only posted in once and share in great and uncomfortable detail this sudsy drama with complete strangers? The original post would have been my last if this had happened to me AND 99.9 percent of quasi-normal people in the world.

Please don't feed the troll, people.

Yes. The running 8 blocks without a jacket in 20 degree temps got me thinking this was a romance novel. I have a hard time imagining any guy doing that. Like, why?

 

[mn_shopaholic]

Re: Just proposed. I think I screwed up with my ring choice

Lizabeth - you're right, but I'm going to throw this out not for the OP, but for the regular posters who are lucky enough not to have had this crap happen.

When I was 22, I was out at a bar with friends, dancing. Some guy started dancing near me, and then with me ... and then he kissed me. And I was so remarkably grossed out that I ran home and washed my mouth out with rubbing alcohol. Yes, seriously. BTW, don't ever do that: Listerine is just as hygienic, considerably less painful. But I was really grossed out.

Now, I'm sure some of the posters here are going to believe that by being in a bar, by drinking, by dancing, by not maintaining a magical force field or teleporting when a strange man came within three feet of me, I encouraged his behavior.

I encourage those people to remove their heads from their sphincters.

I feel really sorry for this girl, frankly. "Flirting" is a really broad category: for some people, it encompasses just talking to a member of the opposite gender. It doesn't sound like she had any interest in engaging in any hanky-panky with the dude in the bar: it sounds like she was surprised. People are, when strangers do completely inappropriate things. And, OP (even if I do think you're fictional), if you're usually as judgmental as you came off in your first post, I don't blame her a bit for being hesitant to tell you. Considering how much crap you projected onto her when you thought she didn't like the ring ... yeesh, no wonder she felt nervous about telling you something with this much potential for victim-blame-y bull-pucky.

Bottom line: I don't think it's a coincidence most the people who think OP's reaction sounds reasonable are gentlemen. I'd assume it's a privilege and a delight not to have to worry about, a) that kind of nonsense, or, b) being blamed for having "provoked" it by doing things like wearing clothes, being out in public, existing. QuietlySW, Distracts, Mrs. Blop, DS ... cosign. Aaaaaaaaaaand I'm out.

This is one of those times I wish PS had a like button. I thought about replying to this topic last night, but Circe said it so much better than I could have.

Several years ago, I was out with friends and had something similar happen to me except without the dancing. This was someone I had met before (my friend knew him) - I wasn't interested romantically/sexually in him and I assumed he felt the same and I was under the impression based on something he said that he was seeing someone. I'm also not the perky / bubbly / flirty type - I've been accused of being rude for not wanting to socialize outside my immediate group when I've been out with friends due to not wanting to be misconstrued as interested in something/someone I'm not interested in.

Given that it was December in MN, I highly doubt I was wearing anything too revealing and the most that could be said re: flirting is that I might have been less guarded than usual being excited about a 3 week trip to Europe I had coming up and believing he was involved with someone and just hanging out with our group because of mutual acquaintances. Next thing I know though, his tongue was down my throat.

I was single at the time, but I was absolutely mortified/disgusted on many levels. I hate the idea that someone can't just be out with their friends having a good time without it being perceived as an invitation for more. I also don't like the idea of blame automatically being assigned to someone because of another party's actions upon them and with only one side of the story being heard - not cool.

I don't have any comments directly for the OP or advice (though I would ditto what VRBeauty and Gypsy said based on the info at hand), but just wanted to re-iterate that sometimes these things happen without consent or invitation and we don't always know (sometimes until a little too late) exactly what another person's intentions are. Best we can do is to learn from these experiences and move on; hopefully without becoming too jaded.

 

[SB621]

Re: Just proposed. I think I screwed up with my ring choice

Lizabeth - you're right, but I'm going to throw this out not for the OP, but for the regular posters who are lucky enough not to have had this crap happen.

When I was 22, I was out at a bar with friends, dancing. Some guy started dancing near me, and then with me ... and then he kissed me. And I was so remarkably grossed out that I ran home and washed my mouth out with rubbing alcohol. Yes, seriously. BTW, don't ever do that: Listerine is just as hygienic, considerably less painful. But I was really grossed out.

Now, I'm sure some of the posters here are going to believe that by being in a bar, by drinking, by dancing, by not maintaining a magical force field or teleporting when a strange man came within three feet of me, I encouraged his behavior.

I encourage those people to remove their heads from their sphincters.

I feel really sorry for this girl, frankly. "Flirting" is a really broad category: for some people, it encompasses just talking to a member of the opposite gender. It doesn't sound like she had any interest in engaging in any hanky-panky with the dude in the bar: it sounds like she was surprised. People are, when strangers do completely inappropriate things. And, OP (even if I do think you're fictional), if you're usually as judgmental as you came off in your first post, I don't blame her a bit for being hesitant to tell you. Considering how much crap you projected onto her when you thought she didn't like the ring ... yeesh, no wonder she felt nervous about telling you something with this much potential for victim-blame-y bull-pucky.

Bottom line: I don't think it's a coincidence most the people who think OP's reaction sounds reasonable are gentlemen. I'd assume it's a privilege and a delight not to have to worry about, a) that kind of nonsense, or, b) being blamed for having "provoked" it by doing things like wearing clothes, being out in public, existing. QuietlySW, Distracts, Mrs. Blop, DS ... cosign. Aaaaaaaaaaand I'm out.

+ plus 5 or is it 6 now on the call about Troll! I can't believe anyone would take this seriously

 

[Niel]

Re: Just proposed. I think I screwed up with my ring choice

Lizabeth - you're right, but I'm going to throw this out not for the OP, but for the regular posters who are lucky enough not to have had this crap happen.

When I was 22, I was out at a bar with friends, dancing. Some guy started dancing near me, and then with me ... and then he kissed me. And I was so remarkably grossed out that I ran home and washed my mouth out with rubbing alcohol. Yes, seriously. BTW, don't ever do that: Listerine is just as hygienic, considerably less painful. But I was really grossed out.

Now, I'm sure some of the posters here are going to believe that by being in a bar, by drinking, by dancing, by not maintaining a magical force field or teleporting when a strange man came within three feet of me, I encouraged his behavior.

I encourage those people to remove their heads from their sphincters.

I feel really sorry for this girl, frankly. "Flirting" is a really broad category: for some people, it encompasses just talking to a member of the opposite gender. It doesn't sound like she had any interest in engaging in any hanky-panky with the dude in the bar: it sounds like she was surprised. People are, when strangers do completely inappropriate things. And, OP (even if I do think you're fictional), if you're usually as judgmental as you came off in your first post, I don't blame her a bit for being hesitant to tell you. Considering how much crap you projected onto her when you thought she didn't like the ring ... yeesh, no wonder she felt nervous about telling you something with this much potential for victim-blame-y bull-pucky.

Bottom line: I don't think it's a coincidence most the people who think OP's reaction sounds reasonable are gentlemen. I'd assume it's a privilege and a delight not to have to worry about, a) that kind of nonsense, or, b) being blamed for having "provoked" it by doing things like wearing clothes, being out in public, existing. QuietlySW, Distracts, Mrs. Blop, DS ... cosign. Aaaaaaaaaaand I'm out.

+ plus 5 or is it 6 now on the call about Troll! I can't believe anyone would take this seriously

Oh yes, most certainly a troll, as the description of being blindly outraged was entirely to "eloquent" and thought out.

But none the less an interesting discussion with real PSers

 

[Rhea]

Re: Just proposed. I think I screwed up with my ring choice

Lizabeth - you're right, but I'm going to throw this out not for the OP, but for the regular posters who are lucky enough not to have had this crap happen.

When I was 22, I was out at a bar with friends, dancing. Some guy started dancing near me, and then with me ... and then he kissed me. And I was so remarkably grossed out that I ran home and washed my mouth out with rubbing alcohol. Yes, seriously. BTW, don't ever do that: Listerine is just as hygienic, considerably less painful. But I was really grossed out.

Now, I'm sure some of the posters here are going to believe that by being in a bar, by drinking, by dancing, by not maintaining a magical force field or teleporting when a strange man came within three feet of me, I encouraged his behavior.

I encourage those people to remove their heads from their sphincters.

I feel really sorry for this girl, frankly. "Flirting" is a really broad category: for some people, it encompasses just talking to a member of the opposite gender. It doesn't sound like she had any interest in engaging in any hanky-panky with the dude in the bar: it sounds like she was surprised. People are, when strangers do completely inappropriate things. And, OP (even if I do think you're fictional), if you're usually as judgmental as you came off in your first post, I don't blame her a bit for being hesitant to tell you. Considering how much crap you projected onto her when you thought she didn't like the ring ... yeesh, no wonder she felt nervous about telling you something with this much potential for victim-blame-y bull-pucky.

Bottom line: I don't think it's a coincidence most the people who think OP's reaction sounds reasonable are gentlemen. I'd assume it's a privilege and a delight not to have to worry about, a) that kind of nonsense, or, b) being blamed for having "provoked" it by doing things like wearing clothes, being out in public, existing. QuietlySW, Distracts, Mrs. Blop, DS ... cosign. Aaaaaaaaaaand I'm out.

This is one of those times I wish PS had a like button. I thought about replying to this topic last night, but Circe said it so much better than I could have.

Several years ago, I was out with friends and had something similar happen to me except without the dancing. This was someone I had met before (my friend knew him) - I wasn't interested romantically/sexually in him and I assumed he felt the same and I was under the impression based on something he said that he was seeing someone. I'm also not the perky / bubbly / flirty type - I've been accused of being rude for not wanting to socialize outside my immediate group when I've been out with friends due to not wanting to be misconstrued as interested in something/someone I'm not interested in.

Given that it was December in MN, I highly doubt I was wearing anything too revealing and the most that could be said re: flirting is that I might have been less guarded than usual being excited about a 3 week trip to Europe I had coming up and believing he was involved with someone and just hanging out with our group because of mutual acquaintances. Next thing I know though, his tongue was down my throat.

I was single at the time, but I was absolutely mortified/disgusted on many levels. I hate the idea that someone can't just be out with their friends having a good time without it being perceived as an invitation for more. I also don't like the idea of blame automatically being assigned to someone because of another party's actions upon them and with only one side of the story being heard - not cool.

I don't have any comments directly for the OP or advice (though I would ditto what VRBeauty and Gypsy said based on the info at hand), but just wanted to re-iterate that sometimes these things happen without consent or invitation and we don't always know (sometimes until a little too late) exactly what another person's intentions are. Best we can do is to learn from these experiences and move on; hopefully without becoming too jaded.

Yep, it's happened to me before too. I was in my early 20s, dating someone, and at a pub with a couple of girlfriends. I know I was dragged out by my friends and was wearing a turtle neck sweater, jeans, and converse. Guy was talking to me, friendly enough so my guard wasn't up, and I recall laughing but not being suggestive in any way. Next thing I knew he had his tongue down my throat. It was pretty shocking. I was shocked. I bet a several woman have stories like this. I know my friends do. The best part, the man I was dating at the time, my now husband of 9 year, was concerned about my well being when I told him. Not his own ego or what I may have been doing to deserve it, but my well being and state of mind.

 

[chrono]

Re: Just proposed. I think I screwed up with my ring choice

Troll or not, my opinion is that if one does not give unsolicited advice to a stranger's face about the state of their marriage or engagement, one does not do so on the internet either. What we have is only his side of the story and his explanation. We only hear of her side through him. Of course I have my own opinion on this but it is something I would keep to myself because it was not asked for and my advice is likely biased because only one party has spoken.

 

[Lisa Loves Shiny]

Re: Just proposed. I think I screwed up with my ring choice

You both sound young. When you get older you learn that a couple of drinks can make a person hateful or too friendly and it is better to stay away from drinking. When you get older you realize the people who love you will hurt you, but you search deep to see their intentions before you dismiss them. Are you really so angry that your girlfriend got a little tipsy at a bar and let a guy kiss her, or do you not trust her, or women in general? I am not making a value judgement regarding your decision, but would like you to do some soul searching so you don't look back at ending your relationship with regret.

 

[Asscherhalo_lover]

Re: Just proposed. I think I screwed up with my ring choice

Lol I called troll after the second post, that's why I didn't bother posting again until now, I'm glad I'm not the only one troll troll troll!

 

[Laila619]

Re: Just proposed. I think I screwed up with my ring choice

Lol I called troll after the second post, that's why I didn't bother posting again until now, I'm glad I'm not the only one troll troll troll!

Yep. When he posted that she wanted to "meet up for coffee and talk," it tripped my troll alarm.

 

[ringfailure]

Re: Just proposed. I think I screwed up with my ring choice

First, I would like to think the kind individuals in this thread that have given me words of support.

As for the "troll" claims. Believe what you want to believe. I am new to posting here, but I have been reading this forum for a few weeks to learn more about diamonds and settings.

As for the people claiming that I am a monster or I am somehow setting back "feminism". You don't know me or what I was feeling. I hope your diamonds keep you warm at night because I am not sure how you could be in a loving relationship.

I ended up posting my story here because it was a release for me. I thought I could put some of my thoughts on paper and get some feedback. I never realized how cruel people could be. I am obviously not perfect, but people should think about what they post here before they attack someone they don't know.

I will now tell the end of my story to those that care. If you think I am a troll or a monster, or whatever. Please stop reading. I am sure this will be my last post as I don't need to buy any more jewelry, but maybe I will be back one day for future diamond advice.

So Sarah stopped by last night for our talk. We ended up talking for nearly 4 hours. She started out by telling me that she wanted to come clean about everything so that we could move forward with the relationship. She went on to tell me about last Friday night. Apparently, she got a little tipsy and got really friendly with the "kissing guy". She says the worst she think she did was touch his arm and shoulder and maybe put her arm around him for a little bit. She also said that they exchanged numbers at one point but she claims that she only gave him her number because she didn't want any "drama" with turning him down. Anyway, she still stands by the kissing story as she told it before.

She also wanted to tell me about how she wished her ex a happy birthday about two months ago and that started off a whole chain of texts from him asking if he could come visit her etc. She largely ignored him and showed me the texts.

She also mentioned that she had been flirting strongly with a couple of guys at the grocery store, starbucks, bar, etc. at times during our relationship. Sometimes she gave out her number but did not go on any dates with them.

The worst thing she told me was about this guy she met at the gym. They exchanged numbers and did a lot of flirty text messages. The worst of it all was when he sent her a shirtless picture and was asking for a topless picture of her. I saw these messages and she wanted to show me the picture she sent him where she was in a bra. I noticed that the picture was taken from my own bathroom! It also had this really sexy smile look on her face. It was labeled around 1am, so I was probably asleep. I also noticed that her hair and makeup was perfect in the picture at 1am! So it seemed to me that she was trying to impress him or at least look good. She said I could check out anything on her phone or e-mail etc. So I said that I wanted to see her pictures. She had taken about 20 pictures of this "bra picture". So it seemed to me that she really thought about which one was best and sent that one. I felt sick to my stomach.

So that was about it for her indiscretions. I asked her WHY she had done all this? She said that she loved me, wanted to spend my life with me but that she was seeking attention and validation. She said that I was loving and affectionate but sometimes I didn't tell her that she is beautiful enough and she would seek that elsewhere. She also mentioned that her and a lot of women she knows keeps certain guys on the "back burner" in case things don't work out with their current guy.

I told her that all this seems crazy to me and that I was hurt. I told her that she had crossed the line with her actions and that we shouldn't proceed with the engagement.

She next pulled out three lists from her bag. The first list was a list of names for boys and girls names for our future children. The next list was a guest list of about 200 for our wedding. The third list was a list of wedding gift registry stuff. She told me that this proves that she loves me and wants to spend her life with me.

I told her that I didn't feel like I could trust her anymore and asked her to leave. I watched her as she left, she looked back at me when she reached the gate and we both gave each other a look like we knew it was all over with. I then had the last 18 months of our relationship flash before my eyes, all the fun, laughs, family events, fights, etc. I closed the door went over to the counter, gathered up her lists and threw them in the trash can. I then washed my face, brushed my teeth and went to bed. I laid there for a minute thinking about last Sunday and how we looked at this wonderful home in a nearby town. I remembered how I pictured birthdays and family gatherings in that back yard, these images came back to my mind, but then were soon were washed out with the image of her taking that picture in herself and sending it to that guy from the gym. I let out a big sigh and feel asleep.

In the end, I am glad I proposed because I won't be wasting anymore time on the relationship. This morning, I walked my dog, ate a little breakfast, walked to work and moved on with my life.

 

[TC1987]

Re: Just proposed. I think I screwed up with my ring choice

Sorry that happened. But sounds like she's just not that into you as much as she is into the idea of marriage. It's better to find out such things before marriage rather than after. I know people who planned and went through with a big wedding and even had a child together, then divorced. They said "Well, we knew it was a mistake before we'd even married, but we just didn't know what else to do since we were in it that far." Think how much easier your breakup was, compared to doing it after marriage and child(ren).

Send the ring back. Maybe Blue Nile can send you a prepaid label so you can use UPS or FedEx. If not, then USPS Registered Mail, insured, is the way to go.

Don't let PS run you off. This forum is for everyone.

 

[Rhea]

Re: Just proposed. I think I screwed up with my ring choice

You write very well. Are you published? The flashback part is particularly well written.

I'm sorry your relationship didn't work out. That must be heartbreaking. It sounds as though you were right to listen to instincts this time. I assure you though, not all advances are requested or wanted when they happen. A misplaced kiss can be just that.

 

[senorpacifico]

Re: Just proposed. I think I screwed up with my ring choice

Been there, done that .. move on.
Take time to regroup and enjoy your life single.

If you keep getting flash backs of the relationship,
take a vacation or stay-cation.

The world has too much to offer .

Keep it real.

 

[Tekate]

Re: Just proposed. I think I screwed up with my ring choice

I was thinking the same thing. don't feed the trolls.

 

[AprilBaby]

Re: Just proposed. I think I screwed up with my ring choice

Nice of her to let you know she had back ups in case you didn't work out.

 

[derbygal]

Re: Just proposed. I think I screwed up with my ring choice

The OP lost me with the break up story. Like the running in the cold without a coat, heaving a big sigh and then falling asleep after all of that just didn't ring true to me at all. I hate trolls.

 

[kenny]

Re: Just proposed. I think I screwed up with my ring choice

I don't care whether you are a troll or not.
You write well.
I even read your first two posts to my SO.
I never do that.

I'd be happy to read your writing every day right here on PS.
You are intelligent, and a bit of a trouble maker while getting people to think and challenge their comfort zones.
I like that.
Grist for the mill, as they say.

Perhaps you'll take the load off DF and me, and keep this place jumping.
Besides, we men have to keep these women in line.

 

[dawnxcui]

Re: Just proposed. I think I screwed up with my ring choice

offering him advice is one thing, but to come back here and repeatedly call him a troll is uncalled for.

just because the guy is a nice writer, he needs to be accused of a troll?

i dont think anyone that reads THIS forum would go thru the effort of making an account and write up all that stuff just to troll...that's what reddit is for.

last i checked we're still in north america, and he's innocent until proven guilty.

 

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Re: Just proposed. I think I screwed up with my ring choice

OP - thanks for updating us. For someone who insists that she wants to spend her life with you, she has quite a disrespectful way of showing it. I actually respect that all she did was deal breaker after deal breaker for you. It would be for me too, and my husband. People who come on here and give their opinions saying that innocent flirting and "accidental" kisses are okay for them in their relationship, and therefore should be okay with you and your relationship also... And now, after hearing everything else that she has done...let's just say that I do believe that everything happens for a reason, so like you and other have mentioned, I'm glad this all played out now rather than later.

This forum can be very mean and negative sometimes. It's a jewelry forum for goodness sakes!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!