Jon & Kate + 8 update...

[Italiahaircolor]

I couldn''t find the other thread about this topic...

But apparently Kate is going to be on the cover of People facing Jon''s affair. She will be speaking openly about her outrage, and even admitting that this may be "it".

It will be on stands Friday...

 

[E B]

Here''s some more info:

She''s embroiled in public scandal linking her husband, Jon Gosselin, to another woman, and Kate Gosselin tells PEOPLE in its latest cover story that she and her spouse have been privately struggling for months.

"I don''t know that we''re in the same place anymore, that we want the same thing," she says quietly. "I''ve been struggling with the question of ''Who is this person?'' for a while. I remember where I was the first time I heard her name. It''s one of those things where you can try to make it go away, but there''s blaring, red flashing lights."

The name to which Kate refers belongs to 23-year-old Deanna Hummel, whose brother later claimed she''d been having a months-long affair with Jon.

For Kate, who has referred to her husband as "my balance, my strength and my stability," to now consider a future apart has been heartbreaking but not impossible. "You can''t imagine yourself in a certain position when all this first happens, but you can do it over some months," she says.

"It''s a lot like when I was first pregnant with the babies, and it was pure shock and denial. But over time I imagined six cribs in my house, and six car seats. When your mind is ready to go there, you can accept any number of scenarios."

Kate does have hope, however, that her marriage can be saved. "I will never give up hope that every member of our family can be absolutely happy again," she says.

For the complete story on Kate and Jon – including how they''re weathering the scandal and what their eight children think – pick up the new issue of PEOPLE, on newsstands Friday.

Source

 

[Italiahaircolor]

Wow...

But, I will say...I commend her for being open and honest with the real story as opposed to trying to bury it or ignore it. She''s a public figure, and thats just the facts...people are curious and interested...and unlike so many celebs who try to sugar coat it when their marriages fall apart or something horrible happens, I admire her for coming clean and showing a really human side.

 

[neatfreak]

Kate is so full of it.

 

[E B]

Date: 5/13/2009 7:31:11 PM
Author: Italiahaircolor

I'd normally agree with you, but didn't she just say in her last interview that the family wanted to 'deal with it privately'? Now, just a week or so later, she's on the cover of People Magazine giving an exclusive interview. So which is it, Kate?

 

[iluvcarats]

I don''t condone what he did, but it can''t be easy to be married to someone who continually corrects your grammar on national tv

And if they are such "private people" they shouldn''t have done a reality tv show.

 

[Italiahaircolor]

I didn''t see/hear/read anything about Kate keeping this story private...so this People article does contradict that...but I still feel like it''s good that she''s facing the facts head on, instead of trying dodge it.

I''m not a fan of Kate, so I agree that she probably isn''t the easiest person to live with or be involved with. But, she''s taken a very public hit in a very personal way. So, I can still "feel" for her-and mourn the death of her marriage for her. She''s human. I don''t condone cheating, and regardless of outside circumstances Jon made a very, very poor decision. If you''re not happy...leave...but don''t drag your family through the mud.

Clearly, by Kate''s reaction, we know that the "rumors" are true...and that he did step outside of his marriage. This is their reality now, and part of being resilient is owning that things have changed. It isn''t just about a "marriage"...it''s about 8 children, too. How she handles herself now will shape the lives of those little people forever. She needs to set an example for all of them, that you need to stand up for yourself, and that if you choose to work on a marriage--it actually takes work, and facing the challanges full on--it''s not just butterflies and flowers all the time.

 

[purrfectpear]

Date: 5/13/2009 7:35:01 PM
Author: neatfreak
Kate is so full of it.

Quoted for truth

She says she doesn''t know "who is this person"?

Ha, poor Jon hasn''t known what happened to his "pre-TV" wife for some time now. That man is a saint IMO, and I hope he finds some happiness (though that will be a little tough after child support for 8

).

 

[icekid]

Date: 5/13/2009 7:44:15 PM
Author: iluvcarats
I don''t condone what he did, but it can''t be easy to be married to someone who continually corrects your grammar on national tv

And if they are such ''private people'' they shouldn''t have done a reality tv show.

Seriously! Cheating is wrong. But I kind of don''t blame him

How much public humiliation can one person take??

 

[KimberlyH]

Keep draggin'' those 15 minutes out....BLECK.

 

[cara]

well the man doesn't stand up to his wife on national television... do you think he was actually going to man up and ask for counseling/a divorce if he was deeply unhappy with his marriage??

sure, it's the weak way but its a way to make a statement and force Kate to deal with him. i wonder if he really just wants to make Kate leave him (do the dirty work for him) or if he was just kind of acting out and is now shocked by getting caught... In some ways I think counseling is the only hope for these two. Jon needs to stand up for himself and Kate, Kate needs to treat her husband with some respect. If they end up divorcing I fear bad things, 8 is a lot of kids for divorced parents and this family-friendly reality show has been their bread and butter.

Have to say though, while Kate is full of it and I cringe at the way she treats her husband and pampers herself, it is nice to hear her speak honestly on struggling with her marriage and this turn of events. It compares favorably with Elizabeth Edwards recent statements and it would be much easier to lie and hide things. Makes me wonder how the show will treat things - will it be a train wreck, a sugar-coated cover job, or in any way directly address things? Obviously a very hard topic to cover given the little kids at the center of the show...

 

[Kaleigh]

Date: 5/13/2009 7:35:01 PM
Author: neatfreak
Kate is so full of it.

Yes. +1

 

[sbde]

kate''s brother kevin and his wife aunt jodi were on the show quite a bit in the early seasons. they''ve given an interview with star magazine which pretty much confirms that jon and kate''s marriage is over. i always liked aunt jodi but it''s weird that they are now speaking up and stirring the pot when things are looking so bad for jon and kate. details here:

http://www.starmagazine.com/kevin_kreider_jodi/news/15588

 

[iluvcarats]

Date: 5/13/2009 8:32:26 PM
Author: icekid

Date: 5/13/2009 7:44:15 PM

Author: iluvcarats

I don''t condone what he did, but it can''t be easy to be married to someone who continually corrects your grammar on national tv

And if they are such ''private people'' they shouldn''t have done a reality tv show.

Seriously! Cheating is wrong. But I kind of don''t blame him

How much public humiliation can one person take??

Apparently just shy of five seasons.....

 

[swingirl]

Publicity stunt to keep the ratings up and even more interview and magazine offers? (it's working so far) I think their ratings have slipped because nothing is that interesting about their life anymore. We've seen everything: arguments, bratty kids, vacations, moving, wedding, etc. This news along with a reunion will fuel the interest in them as being the experts on child rearing, housekeeping AND marriage.

 

[asscherisme]

Date: 5/13/2009 10:39:22 PM
Author: sbde
kate''s brother kevin and his wife aunt jodi were on the show quite a bit in the early seasons. they''ve given an interview with star magazine which pretty much confirms that jon and kate''s marriage is over. i always liked aunt jodi but it''s weird that they are now speaking up and stirring the pot when things are looking so bad for jon and kate. details here:

http://www.starmagazine.com/kevin_kreider_jodi/news/15588

This is just so skeevy and slimey that they even gave this interview. I wonder how much money they were paid to go on camera and give an interview about their sister and brother in laws marriage.

I feel sorry for ALL of them. I think Jon was humilitaed by Kate. I think Kate was humilitated by Jon. And most of all I feel bad for those 8 children.

 

[Elmorton]

asscher, i agree completely with what you said. Right on.

 

[loriken214]

Date: 5/13/2009 11:36:17 PM
Author: asscherisme

Date: 5/13/2009 10:39:22 PM
Author: sbde
kate''s brother kevin and his wife aunt jodi were on the show quite a bit in the early seasons. they''ve given an interview with star magazine which pretty much confirms that jon and kate''s marriage is over. i always liked aunt jodi but it''s weird that they are now speaking up and stirring the pot when things are looking so bad for jon and kate. details here:

http://www.starmagazine.com/kevin_kreider_jodi/news/15588

This is just so skeevy and slimey that they even gave this interview. I wonder how much money they were paid to go on camera and give an interview about their sister and brother in laws marriage.

I feel sorry for ALL of them. I think Jon was humilitaed by Kate. I think Kate was humilitated by Jon. And most of all I feel bad for those 8 children.

DITTO....those poor kids....thanks to their rotten parents, they have to live their lives in the spotlight...UGG!

Lori

 

[Hudson_Hawk]

Date: 5/13/2009 10:39:22 PM
Author: sbde
kate''s brother kevin and his wife aunt jodi were on the show quite a bit in the early seasons. they''ve given an interview with star magazine which pretty much confirms that jon and kate''s marriage is over. i always liked aunt jodi but it''s weird that they are now speaking up and stirring the pot when things are looking so bad for jon and kate. details here:


http://www.starmagazine.com/kevin_kreider_jodi/news/15588

I heard (and this is totally just rumor), that Jodi and her husband were getting paid by TLC for appearing on the show, like Kate and John were. Apparently Kate found out that they were getting paid and flipped out. She essentially fired her sister and demanded that TLC pay K+J the money her sister and brother were getting (kind of like if you have that in the budget then you can pay us more). So I wouldn''t be surprised if the sister and brother have some resentment towards K+J.

 

[february2003bride]

Date: 5/13/2009 7:35:01 PM
Author: neatfreak
Kate is so full of it.

Agreed.

Personally, I think she saw the Elizabeth Edwards interview with Oprah, saw the outpouring of sympathy for her and decided to tell her story about Jon and his affair. Kate Gosselin is no Elizabeth Edwards.

I do wonder how this will affect this upcoming season?

 

[luvthemstrawberries]

I think the whole situation is sad. And pretty mixed up. Which is sad in itself, because there's no one side to this.

But I don't think bashing is necessary. It's unfortunate that all you get to see is what the media chooses to show. I finished her book last night, and it was actually really good. She's a good Christian woman, and she constantly struggles with her need to always be in control and with her big mouth. She's open about that and is something she says she always tries to work on and let go of.

One particular part I really found interesting was when they decided to do the show. She claims to be a very private and controlling person at heart. But they agreed to do the show when TLC approached them for the hour special. TLC's biggest point to them was that they do TV to try to teach people and help them understand each other. The book says that that was her selling point, because at that point in their lives they just wanted people to understand their crazy life, and also that she wanted to have some documentation of the kids at that age since she never got a chance to do it herself. So I just think they need some credit given - I think we all want to have memories of our kids, and to be understood a little more sometimes.

That said, if he did step outside of the marriage, the situation is even more complicated. TLC is already doing sneak previews of the new season. I suppose the show could continue if they decided to try to work it out. But I know I'd definitely want some privacy at this point if I was going through that with somebody, no matter what our outcome was going to be.

I also just hate that everybody around situations like this feel the need to capitalize on other people's hard times. I wish people would just leave well enough alone. But then again, there'd be no need for media if that happened I guess... sigh.

 

[february2003bride]

US Weekly article on J&K

Apparently Kate thinks everyone wants her hairstyle which I find laughable because on most of the J&K message boards, people aer slamming her spikey ''do!

 

[Thomperchik]

Here is my .02 on this.

I can understand why they would initially want to have this show. I mean it''s kind of hard to support eight children, or however many children they have on the careers both of them had. I think she was a nurse and he was an IT developer? Please correct me if I''m wrong! They should''ve stayed out of the spotlight after a season or two, but the truth is, this is what fame and money do to people. Not everyone can handle it, and deal with it like adults should. The only sad part about all this is when those children grow up and say, "Wow, thanks Mom and Dad! You really embarrassed me!"

So Sad. My heart goes out to those children! At some point parents have to be adults and realize that life is not about them once they have children, it''s about their family!!!!

 

[luvthemstrawberries]

$75K an EPISODE????????????

Wow, that's a long way from when the babies were less than a year old and Jon couldn't find a job anywhere. Man, I can't even imagine.

Must be nice. I know that house sure is nice!!

 

[february2003bride]

Date: 5/14/2009 11:06:33 AM
Author: Hudson_Hawk

Date: 5/13/2009 10:39:22 PM
Author: sbde
kate''s brother kevin and his wife aunt jodi were on the show quite a bit in the early seasons. they''ve given an interview with star magazine which pretty much confirms that jon and kate''s marriage is over. i always liked aunt jodi but it''s weird that they are now speaking up and stirring the pot when things are looking so bad for jon and kate. details here:


http://www.starmagazine.com/kevin_kreider_jodi/news/15588

I heard (and this is totally just rumor), that Jodi and her husband were getting paid by TLC for appearing on the show, like Kate and John were. Apparently Kate found out that they were getting paid and flipped out. She essentially fired her sister and demanded that TLC pay K+J the money her sister and brother were getting (kind of like if you have that in the budget then you can pay us more). So I wouldn''t be surprised if the sister and brother have some resentment towards K+J.

Here is what happened....

 

[musey]

Date: 5/14/2009 11:20:48 AM
Author: luvthemstrawberries
I think the whole situation is sad. And pretty mixed up. Which is sad in itself, because there''s no one side to this.

But I don''t think bashing is necessary. It''s unfortunate that all you get to see is what the media chooses to show. I finished her book last night, and it was actually really good. She''s a good Christian woman, and she constantly struggles with her need to always be in control and with her big mouth. She''s open about that and is something she says she always tries to work on and let go of.

One particular part I really found interesting was when they decided to do the show. She claims to be a very private and controlling person at heart. But they agreed to do the show when TLC approached them for the hour special. TLC''s biggest point to them was that they do TV to try to teach people and help them understand each other. The book says that that was her selling point, because at that point in their lives they just wanted people to understand their crazy life, and also that she wanted to have some documentation of the kids at that age since she never got a chance to do it herself. So I just think they need some credit given - I think we all want to have memories of our kids, and to be understood a little more sometimes.

That said, if he did step outside of the marriage, the situation is even more complicated. TLC is already doing sneak previews of the new season. I suppose the show could continue if they decided to try to work it out. But I know I''d definitely want some privacy at this point if I was going through that with somebody, no matter what our outcome was going to be.

I also just hate that everybody around situations like this feel the need to capitalize on other people''s hard times. I wish people would just leave well enough alone. But then again, there''d be no need for media if that happened I guess... sigh.

I really agree with everything said here - especially the highlighted parts. No need for me to add

 

[HornAround]

I''m forced to watch this show every once in a while. From what I can tell, Jon hates his wife.

 

[luvthemstrawberries]

Date: 5/14/2009 11:55:07 AM
Author: musey

I really agree with everything said here - especially the highlighted parts. No need for me to add

Wow musey, from someone as eloquent and well-thought-out as you, I''m flattered! I never thought I''d actually save anyone else some typing.

 

[musey]

Date: 5/14/2009 12:42:00 PM
Author: luvthemstrawberries

Date: 5/14/2009 11:55:07 AM
Author: musey
I really agree with everything said here - especially the highlighted parts. No need for me to add

Wow musey, from someone as eloquent and well-thought-out as you, I''m flattered! I never thought I''d actually save anyone else some typing.

Well, I''m flattered right back! That''s very nice of you to say.

 

[Ara Ann]

However this happened, for whatever reasons, it is pretty sad, especially for their kids.

That said, I don''t see how Kate can just announce that she has a big mouth and is a bit of a control freak and then just expects everyone to sit back and accept that kind of behavior. It''s like she says, ''this is how I am, so you''ll have to deal with it'' - she basically says this herself in the ''US'' interview. Now, how is that being a good role model, mother, or a good wife? If kids show that kind of behavior, don''t parents try ti teach them how to treat others with respect? How can she instill that in her kids if she can''t control her own temper? The thing that is saddest to me, is that she will blame Jon for all of this...if he cheated, which of course is NOT acceptable, she will let him go down in flames, take all the blame, but just excuse her own bad behavior and chalk it up to ''that''s just how I am'' - sorry, but no one gets to do act that way all the time and not pay a price at some point. There comes a time when we all have to face our own bad behavior...but it doesn''t seem to me that Kate will recognize her part in this.


I still say they need Dr. Phil!

I bet he''d set them both straight.