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Super_Ideal_Rock
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- Jul 7, 2004
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THANK YOU ALL. It's been dragging on, and its taken me a while to not be a total shitshow about it.
You're the best, I love you.
I do think it's...odd. I am not a gift-grabby person, I love to give them, I am weird about accepting them. I have no plans to host anything myself, but I won't fight it if they insist on doing it themselves.Since you're asking, I'd guess you have reason for doubt? I think the expectations just vary. It used to be (where I'm from anyway) that there were clear "rules" for any social situation. For example, showers were for first weddings and first babies only and you weren't supposed to say what you needed or where you were registered unless you were asked (because you were never supposed to seem like you were expecting a gift).
And... I'd give you the shirt off my back (cuz my boobs look great).
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That would be unforgettable to me also. I feel like that is a good "trend" of paying it forward to anyone you know in the situation. I am glad that in this case there are no kids involved, because it's already stressful enough.Having gone through a brutal divorce which required an out of state move with young children, I would (looking back on that experience) not think twice about helping a friend with their starting over process. I had a few dedicated friends who basically stocked my entire kitchen, bought me a broom, one of them brought a snow shovel and salt for my walkway. I will NEVER forget it!
Thank you. Yea I would DEFINITELY not host anything on my own. I think it's super odd, though anyone I've asked about it seems on board with someone throwing a housewarming/starting over kind of thing. My mom and dad and I all think ..."that seems so weird" and I am not usually someone who WANTS gifts, but I love to give them.I'm sorry you are going through such a rough time. Divorce is so hard. I hope for you that things get easier very soon.
I can understand why it seems weird to you. I'm a bit old school in that I don't think one should throw a party in their own honor. I also don't think gifts should ever be requested and what one wants should only be mentioned if someone asks. If someone close to me was going through a hard time I would want to help them and would make that offer privately. I probably wouldn't appreciate them creating a registry as that can seem like asking for/expecting gifts. I personally would be uncomfortable with this.
Your circle may have very different expectations than mine so consider that.