Hello!
I feel as if family estrangements are becoming more common. There are four within my extended family (not involving me, thank goodness - I'm a spectator) and I have watched the twists and turns of Harry and Meghan's saga. I'm privy to a lot of info. about the four estrangements in my family, and two of those are with immediate family members. I was a close-up witness to decades of those relationships, and I can say with some confidence that although the rejected family members were somewhat overbearing at times, they also did so very much for the rejecting family members, and their "crimes" in no way justify the wholesale, years-long rejections.
I'm not talking about situations where a family member was narcissistic or emotionally and/or physically abusive. Estrangements are sometimes necessary to protect yourself. I'm talking about family members who were a bit bumbling and possibly on the mild end of the spectrum, but who did many, many loving things throughout the years.
So I don't understand the lack of balance in their perspectives. It's very painful to watch these family members being hurt. About Harry, I know we can't know the intricacies of his relationship with William, but William seems really nice and it's hard to imagine that he deserves Harry's treatment of him. That's the kind of thing I'm talking about.
I do wonder if the general negativity spread by the internet is affecting family relationships. And I wonder if someone is prone to challenges with their mental health, all the negativity around makes it much worse and they lash out at family. The reason I say this is because in my family, there seems to be zero balance in perspective at all, which to me indicates some degree of challenge in terms of mental health. My parents could be pretty annoying at times, and my childhood included some incidents I'd rather not post here - believe me, it was FAR from a bed of roses - but I am able to hold in my mind simultaneously the many, many good things they did for me, too. This results in a balanced perspective.
So in summary, do you think it's becoming more common for people to estrange from family with less reason than ever before? I do, and I blame the internet. Twitter in particular is the most toxic medium I've ever seen.
I feel as if family estrangements are becoming more common. There are four within my extended family (not involving me, thank goodness - I'm a spectator) and I have watched the twists and turns of Harry and Meghan's saga. I'm privy to a lot of info. about the four estrangements in my family, and two of those are with immediate family members. I was a close-up witness to decades of those relationships, and I can say with some confidence that although the rejected family members were somewhat overbearing at times, they also did so very much for the rejecting family members, and their "crimes" in no way justify the wholesale, years-long rejections.
I'm not talking about situations where a family member was narcissistic or emotionally and/or physically abusive. Estrangements are sometimes necessary to protect yourself. I'm talking about family members who were a bit bumbling and possibly on the mild end of the spectrum, but who did many, many loving things throughout the years.
So I don't understand the lack of balance in their perspectives. It's very painful to watch these family members being hurt. About Harry, I know we can't know the intricacies of his relationship with William, but William seems really nice and it's hard to imagine that he deserves Harry's treatment of him. That's the kind of thing I'm talking about.
I do wonder if the general negativity spread by the internet is affecting family relationships. And I wonder if someone is prone to challenges with their mental health, all the negativity around makes it much worse and they lash out at family. The reason I say this is because in my family, there seems to be zero balance in perspective at all, which to me indicates some degree of challenge in terms of mental health. My parents could be pretty annoying at times, and my childhood included some incidents I'd rather not post here - believe me, it was FAR from a bed of roses - but I am able to hold in my mind simultaneously the many, many good things they did for me, too. This results in a balanced perspective.
So in summary, do you think it's becoming more common for people to estrange from family with less reason than ever before? I do, and I blame the internet. Twitter in particular is the most toxic medium I've ever seen.