Wedding I''m upset and want to know if I should be LOL

[SarahLovesJS]

I''d be annoyed/irked as well..but sometimes people are simply illogical when it comes to wedding stuff. Crazy, I know..but you''re definitely a good friend for being so patient. Sorry this happened!

 

[rockzilla]

Annoying...yes. Upsetting? No. I wouldn''t take it as a personal slight.

 

[marchswallowbird]

I would. I would be peeved as heck if she were paying for all the groomsmen but not me. It totally seems like a personal slight to me. Why would she tell you she had done this??? I hope it is just because it slipped out and she didn't realize how it would hurt you.

A little PS Dust, Firery.

 

[FrekeChild]

She just walks all over you doesn't she?

I really hope that this girl isn't going to be your MOH Fiery. I don't see her as being a loyal friend to you at all. I know that we only see one side of the story, but I think from what I've read that your friendship with her is extremely one sided, and that totally sucks. For you. For her, it's great!

I would feel slighted. You have done everything for this girl, including bending over backwards to help her out. I'd cease that immediately. I really don't think this girl is worth your time, your money, blood, sweat or tears.

I plan on paying for my MOH's attire, which makes things easy because she's the only one, and family I can understand, but what is up with the GMs?

You mentioned knowing the "why" of paying for the GMs attire, and now I'm curious. And I don't get it.

I'm sorry you're going through this. You're a wonderful friend. She really doesn't deserve you.

 

[CNOS128]

As Freke mentioned - I think the reason the bride & groom paid for the groomsmen''s attire is germane to this discussion. There are a myriad of reasons why they might have done this that would either make the decision seem outrageous ("we think men shouldn''t have to buy their own clothes") or understandable ("they guys don''t like what they''re wearing, so we bought their clothes to guarantee they''d wear what we wanted them to").

I think if I were on the phone with my best friend and she ''happened'' to mention to me that she''d purchased every wedding outfit aside from my own, I might have - at that moment - questioned her. But as long as you''re not going to say anything (and I don''t advise bringing it up), it seems your only choice is get over it.

But I''m sorry your friend is being so insensitive. . .

 

[Italiahaircolor]

I paid for all my BM''s and MOH attire. I did this because I knew the look I was going for was out of there budget and something they just couldn''t afford...so in the end I would either be forced to compromise my expectations...or fork out some serious cash...I, paid up. But...that was my choice.

My DH, on the other end, did not pay for his GM. They wore rented tuxes and were out much less cash.

Now, looking at your situation...the GM''s would be required to spend about $320.00 each...and you ended up paying $250.00. Of course she paid for her sister and step daughter--thats almost a given across the board I would assume for every bride. But, prehaps she felt that she was making large money demands on the guys--and you were getting off easier. Or, prehaps her F decided to pay for his attendants...and she couldn''t afford too. Sometimes, even when it feels like a friend tells you everything the opposit can actually be true...

I would bite my tounge and wait to see how it all plays out...who knows...maybe you''ll be recieving an incredible thank you gift that will more than make up for it....

 

[VRBeauty]

Ditto Italiahaircolor. There are lots of variables you don''t know about and really, that you don''t need to know about.

But... it seems like your friend tends to take advantage of you, or at least that she''s not very considerate. You might consider whether you need to be better at speaking up for yourself.