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[Italiahaircolor]

I''m going to "lump answer" all the questions, and respond to all the opinions in one posting...

Yes, I called my DH and told him his mom is bat **** crazy (okay, maybe not in those words...but thats how I absolutely refered to her when telling my friends).

He was mad...but this isn''t the first odd e-mail from her. We just found it extra odd, because she''s not overly religious...and we''re wondering if she found God or something...we don''t really know

As ''shocking'' as it was to you all ... and probably rightfully so ... but that reaction is has worn off for my DH and I since we''ve been dealing with this stuff off and on for a while now.

We will still be going for Christmas, because if I say I''m going to do something--I will do it. But after this, we''ll have to revisit the issue, clearly.

Thanks for the support ladies!

 

[zhuzhu]

I understand your frustration, {{{{{{{{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}}}}}}}!!!

My DH always goes home to MA for Christmas before we met (well, he WAS single). Last year I went to MA with him and enjoyed spending the holiday with his family. This year will be our first Christmas together as husband and wife (we live in CA now). While I do like my ILs, I think we need to stay here and have a Christmas of our own because 1) we just bought a house and budget is extremely tight, 2) it is the FIRST Christmas we have together and it is important for the 4 of us to celebrate it in our own home (we + 2 kitties).

When DH told his mom about it she sounded disappointed. I feel bad but I sure hope they understand that we both work, and don't have the money this year to fly across the country for 4-5 days, to rent a car, and to pay for lodging.

 

[disneybride]

You know what darlin? When you''re in a power struggle tug-of-war sometimes you just have to let go of the rope. Celebrate this victory. No one is coming to your house this Christmas. You don''t have to worry about getting along with your MIL, or the invasion of privacy, or the dog. Your MIL is not going to change and that''s the bottom line. Maybe she really doesn''t give a damn about your feelings but it works both ways. You get what you want this Christmas - no MIL AND you don''t have to travel. You can''t have it all so you have to let everything else go or else you''re just giving yourself more reason to hold onto the anger. It''s not worth it.

 

[Elmorton]

Hugs, Italia. Still sounds like you''re doing the right thing though - good for you.