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Ideal_Rock
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So...
You probably remember we whinning about my DH overextending an invitation for the holidays....
Well...
86 that, because no one is coming to our house anyway.
Sure, I should probably do a couple cartwheels over the fact that I don''t have to buy air mattresses, or accomidate a house full...But those celebatory cartwheels would have been short lived because in the same breathe he told me "the dog isn''t coming" he also told me "everyone decided Christmas would be in Pittsburg".
.
Everyone? By everyone do you mean everyone but my DH and I who clearly explained we didn''t want to travel this holiday season? I am so mad. Maybe even too mad.
My MIL and I don''t have a warm and fuzzy relationship. We tolerate each other sometimes, and sometimes she makes her real feelings clear. However, I always try to put my best foot forward with her...even when its hard. But when she shared with my DH that Christmas would be at her home, my DH actually said "let me talk to Ashley about it"...meaning, if he goes back to her and says "no, we didn''t want to travel and still don''t" it will be my fault, because obviously DH checked with me and I said NO! Once again, I''ll be the bad guy...giving her more fuel to dislike me and doubt my DH''s choice of a mate.
Traveling for Christmas is very hard for me. I can''t physically take to much time away from work. I already planned on taking the day before Chriistmas Eve, Christmas Eve and the day after Christmas off. Any more time would be to much...I have people who depend on me, and I feel kind of bad taking as much time off as I am. If we traveled to PA, it would Friday, and I''d have to return home Sunday...which means, overall we''d have less than 48 hours there.
My MIL says its because her Mom (my DH''s Grandmother) wants to celebrate with her...this, of course, I understand and totally expect. Grandma''s husband passed this year, and I''m sure the holidays will be bittersweet for her. But, we won''t even be celebrating Christmas on Christmas...so why can''t my MIL and FIL go see Grandma on Christmas, and come to us over the weekend?
My MIL says "generously" that "if we go to PA for Christmas, they will come to us the following weekend" to which, I laughed. First of all, I extended an specific invitation on a specific day. We work, we have jobs...we can''t just "take time off the next week" because she feels like she can make it out then. Unfortunately, we don''t lead that type of life. If she and my FIL did come, they would complain about not seeing "us" because I go to work at 6am and come home often times after its dark.
I''m just mad...I feel like my MIL keeps me under her thumb by putting me in situations that either make me look badly or force me cave...am I wrong? Please tell me what to do????!!!!
Oh, and thanks for letting me vent.
You probably remember we whinning about my DH overextending an invitation for the holidays....
Well...
86 that, because no one is coming to our house anyway.
Sure, I should probably do a couple cartwheels over the fact that I don''t have to buy air mattresses, or accomidate a house full...But those celebatory cartwheels would have been short lived because in the same breathe he told me "the dog isn''t coming" he also told me "everyone decided Christmas would be in Pittsburg".
Everyone? By everyone do you mean everyone but my DH and I who clearly explained we didn''t want to travel this holiday season? I am so mad. Maybe even too mad.
My MIL and I don''t have a warm and fuzzy relationship. We tolerate each other sometimes, and sometimes she makes her real feelings clear. However, I always try to put my best foot forward with her...even when its hard. But when she shared with my DH that Christmas would be at her home, my DH actually said "let me talk to Ashley about it"...meaning, if he goes back to her and says "no, we didn''t want to travel and still don''t" it will be my fault, because obviously DH checked with me and I said NO! Once again, I''ll be the bad guy...giving her more fuel to dislike me and doubt my DH''s choice of a mate.
Traveling for Christmas is very hard for me. I can''t physically take to much time away from work. I already planned on taking the day before Chriistmas Eve, Christmas Eve and the day after Christmas off. Any more time would be to much...I have people who depend on me, and I feel kind of bad taking as much time off as I am. If we traveled to PA, it would Friday, and I''d have to return home Sunday...which means, overall we''d have less than 48 hours there.
My MIL says its because her Mom (my DH''s Grandmother) wants to celebrate with her...this, of course, I understand and totally expect. Grandma''s husband passed this year, and I''m sure the holidays will be bittersweet for her. But, we won''t even be celebrating Christmas on Christmas...so why can''t my MIL and FIL go see Grandma on Christmas, and come to us over the weekend?
My MIL says "generously" that "if we go to PA for Christmas, they will come to us the following weekend" to which, I laughed. First of all, I extended an specific invitation on a specific day. We work, we have jobs...we can''t just "take time off the next week" because she feels like she can make it out then. Unfortunately, we don''t lead that type of life. If she and my FIL did come, they would complain about not seeing "us" because I go to work at 6am and come home often times after its dark.
I''m just mad...I feel like my MIL keeps me under her thumb by putting me in situations that either make me look badly or force me cave...am I wrong? Please tell me what to do????!!!!
Oh, and thanks for letting me vent.