I saw my husband and I didn't cry. I feel serene. I touched his hand and it was cold. It gave me closure. That's not him. He's gone.
I took my little bag with my first cat, Kerouac's fur and tucked it in his jacket pocket. Although I said no tie, (he hated them bc he had to wear one for work for years) the family put one on loosely lololol.
Ac117 went out of her way to go to a favorite bakery of mine to get my favorite cookies and my favorite breakfast of chocolate croissants. She helped me with my hair.
I am so glad that your BIL was there to help you get some things done, feed you and get you shuttled around.I'm alone tonight. I wish I weren't alone but I am. I got home after 9 and gathered the garbage to take out and dropped in a load of laundry. I figured it will finish in the washer before I go to bed and then I can put it in the dryer and set it and forget it.
I'm one of those people who don't really have local friends without heavy family obligations.
I joked to my BIL at least my husband got to go young and beautiful. People will look at his portrait at his best and still recognize him. I said when we go, people will be like damn that was HIM/HER back in the day?!?! Unrecognizable! Clearly s/he peaked at 20!
I saw my husband and I didn't cry. I feel serene. I touched his hand and it was cold. It gave me closure. That's not him. He's gone.
I took my little bag with my first cat, Kerouac's fur and tucked it in his jacket pocket. Although I said no tie, (he hated them bc he had to wear one for work for years) the family put one on loosely lololol.
Ac117 went out of her way to go to a favorite bakery of mine to get my favorite cookies and my favorite breakfast of chocolate croissants. She helped me with my hair.
@gemgirl spent the afternoon with me. She met a lot of people who are important to my husband and I. I swear I felt all of PS emanating through her. It was such an amazing thing for her to do this for me.
So much this.I'm so glad ac117 was able to be there to help out. Wishing you continued strength PB.
*note to ac117....Thank you for going out of your way to help. Your kindness at a time like this is SO appreciated by those of us who are miles away.
OMG that is hysterical. I love that. I also love that you tore into those jerks. Grief-balls or not for speaking up, they have some nerve showing up like that after having no spine to directly call you and handle things appropriately.The amount of people that came during the 2-5 service was amazing. So many people to hug and talk to that I was FINALLY hungry in the evening! The 7-9pm had a line out the door!
I used to work at the same company as my husband. I confronted my former boss who wears a chief hat and asked why no one from the company called me. And asked why, when the insurance rep called the company for the beneficiary contact info, HR said they didn't know, when all employees must file that every year, so the insurance rep had to get the info from the former head of HR Bc she's my friend, and was doubly shocked when he remembered my name as a previous employee. The spineless jellyfish started slinking away from me mid confrontation.
When the current head of HR showed up I asked her the same thing and she gave the lame excuse of, well, since the police came to inform us, we just assumed you wanted to be left alone and then stared at me like a deer in head lights. Coincidentally, one of her HR peeps then texts my cell with some BS about how you know she's busy during the day which is why she can't reach out to me until the evening on her private phone by text. They replaced two good HR people with 7 half wits!
Funny moment... my in-laws all had the same 6th grade teacher. When she sees me, she leans forward and asks in a hushed tone, "the wife?" I reply "yes." Hug her and then say, "I hope no other women show up and say they are also the wife!" Which got her rolling lololol!