Tanzigrrl
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JillyC|1318338843|3037690 said:I took my rings off after something occurred in my marriage that caused me to contemplate divorce. At that point I had been married for 26 years and my girls grew up admiring my rings and often asking to try them on.
Although it's now five years later and we have since reconciled, I never put the rings back on and I never will. The rings have no more meaning to me, but I will keep them for my daughters, to whom they do have meaning"
That is my situation to a T. I did not wear a wedding ring for several years after something went down here and when I finally did feel it was right to wear a wedding ring I got a new ruby and diamond three stone. My original bands had lost their meaning. I still have them. I don't know if I will offer them to our son when he decides to propose.
Octavia|1318341069|3037716 said:Jennifer W|1318320555|3037593 said:I would keep the ring if we divorced and probably wear it as a rhr, as a reminder of happier days. We got engaged 9 years ago today actually.
My ring is really precious as a symbol of our relationship, but it's also just a ring I love. I'd always wear it, I think. It would remind me of the best time in my life, even if that time was over.
Jen, I feel the same way, but about my wedding ring. I would probably stack it with some other bands on my right hand, but I suppose a lot would depend on the circumstances. I would consign my e-ring or trade it in toward some other piece of jewelry, though. Incidentally, today is our second anniversary.![]()
yennyfire|1318334652|3037661 said:I have both a son and a daughter. I have to be honest, if DH and I divorced (even amicably), I don't know that I'd want my son to use it to propose to his future wife. I'd want him to get a new ring with no history and let it and them make their own history. As for my daughter, I don't know that I'd want her wearing it as a RHR. Seeing it all of the time would just remind me of our failure. I don't think I'd have as much of an issue with her taking the stone and setting it into a pendant or something.
It's certainly something I hope never to have to contemplate seriously.
maplefemme|1318341962|3037728 said:I am divorced, he never asked for it back, I had no reason to keep it. I bought a helium balloon from the dollar store, tied my engagement ring and wedding band to it and let it fly off... It's probably wrapped around a pine tree in the Rockies!
No regrets about it either, felt good.
Black Jade|1318439143|3038622 said:I have a friend who kept the ring and switched the diamonds over to add to her wedding set when she got remarried, although she also hates her ex-husband, saying 'they are perfectly good diamonds, why waste them."
chemgirl|1318377302|3038131 said:I believe that the general expectation is that a broken engagement = return the ring. If its a divorce, you're entitled to keep it and do whatever you want with it.