DearBuddha
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Hi, ladies. I have an anniversary situation that I need some advice on, and it''s in regard to the present my DH is planning on giving me.
Making a long story very short: my DH is a software engineer and into all things techy. I''m super tech inept, and even that''s an understatement. He gets excited by all things with an on-off button, and I could honestly care less. As you can imagine, my cavalier attitude towards electronics drives him nuts; he''s always trying to convert me from purses to computers.
Our 1st anniversary is this weekened, and for a long time I had no clue what to get him. I employed his friends to spy on him and report back to me anything he mentioned wanting. I finally got a hit when my DH started talking about buying himself a new and fancy ergonomic keyboard and mouse, as well as some new backup drive for his Mac Book Pro. His friends reinforced how much DH wanted these things. The keyboard and mouse I could handle, so I snuck around and purchased it; as for the back up drive, I got him a giftcard to Best Buy so he could pick out the specific drive he wanted. I also got him a few Michael Kors shirts because he''s been wanting to update his wardrobe.
Here''s where things get tricky, and I''m not sure if I should just shut my mouth and be grateful, or be honest with him about how I feel.
He keeps dropping hints about my gift; how it fascinated the guys in his office, how he''s so excited to give it to me, how I can take it anywhere with me.
DH''s best friend and his wife recently celebrated their 1st anniversary; he got motorcycle gear, and she got a new Louis Vuitton wallet. While we were out to dinner one night, DH''s best friend mentioned the insane sale going on at Saks (he had just been anniversary shopping for his wife), and as DH knows I have a weakness for Fendi (even though I do not own any Fendi), told DH to check it out.
I didn''t want to be presumptous and feel greedy, so I tried not to get too excited at the thought that DH was considering Fendi, so I just brushed it off. Until he started dropping hints about men being amused by it and me being able to carry it with me.
Then a few days ago a package from Amazon showed up on our front porch. DH brought it in and wrapped it immediately, then showed it to me. It''s very thin, rectangular, and heavy. I could tell it wasn''t a bag box, but the shape and size confused me.
Well, I was just on Amazon checking the status of a gift I''ve ordered for me mother, and all of a sudden it hit me: my husband bought me a kindle.
The problem: I like reading well enough, but I NEVER have time to read. I''m a preschoool teacher in a year long school; I work eight hours a day at school, and spend another two hours a day in office hours having meetings and doing paperwork. I''ve been working on a NAEYC portfolio for half a year, which usually means I''m bringing standards and files home with me to complete. By the time my day is done, if I can make it through a shower without falling asleep, it''s a personal victory. I''ve read maybe four books since our honeymoon last year.
I had mentioned once that kindles are neat a little while ago; it''s one of the only tech devices I''ve commented on, and it excited him to no end. But it''s certainly not something I would want or anticipate as an anniversary present.
I''m really upset about it; and I''m not sure if I''m upset because I know I''m being selfish by wanting something else, or if it''s because I feel like my husband didn''t really consider how I''d feel about my gift. Does that make sense? I was hoping for a gift I''d love to show off; not something I have to baby and teach myself to use, especially when I know I''ll hardly use it.
I need to know if I''m being a little witch about the situation. I know he means well by trying to give me something I showed interest in a while ago, but a kindle is hardly what I''m want right now. It would make a neat birthday or Christmas present, but I really put a lot of thought and effort into his anniversary present, and I really don''t feel he did.
Please tell me what your thoughts are. Thanks.
Making a long story very short: my DH is a software engineer and into all things techy. I''m super tech inept, and even that''s an understatement. He gets excited by all things with an on-off button, and I could honestly care less. As you can imagine, my cavalier attitude towards electronics drives him nuts; he''s always trying to convert me from purses to computers.
Our 1st anniversary is this weekened, and for a long time I had no clue what to get him. I employed his friends to spy on him and report back to me anything he mentioned wanting. I finally got a hit when my DH started talking about buying himself a new and fancy ergonomic keyboard and mouse, as well as some new backup drive for his Mac Book Pro. His friends reinforced how much DH wanted these things. The keyboard and mouse I could handle, so I snuck around and purchased it; as for the back up drive, I got him a giftcard to Best Buy so he could pick out the specific drive he wanted. I also got him a few Michael Kors shirts because he''s been wanting to update his wardrobe.
Here''s where things get tricky, and I''m not sure if I should just shut my mouth and be grateful, or be honest with him about how I feel.
He keeps dropping hints about my gift; how it fascinated the guys in his office, how he''s so excited to give it to me, how I can take it anywhere with me.
DH''s best friend and his wife recently celebrated their 1st anniversary; he got motorcycle gear, and she got a new Louis Vuitton wallet. While we were out to dinner one night, DH''s best friend mentioned the insane sale going on at Saks (he had just been anniversary shopping for his wife), and as DH knows I have a weakness for Fendi (even though I do not own any Fendi), told DH to check it out.
I didn''t want to be presumptous and feel greedy, so I tried not to get too excited at the thought that DH was considering Fendi, so I just brushed it off. Until he started dropping hints about men being amused by it and me being able to carry it with me.
Then a few days ago a package from Amazon showed up on our front porch. DH brought it in and wrapped it immediately, then showed it to me. It''s very thin, rectangular, and heavy. I could tell it wasn''t a bag box, but the shape and size confused me.
Well, I was just on Amazon checking the status of a gift I''ve ordered for me mother, and all of a sudden it hit me: my husband bought me a kindle.
The problem: I like reading well enough, but I NEVER have time to read. I''m a preschoool teacher in a year long school; I work eight hours a day at school, and spend another two hours a day in office hours having meetings and doing paperwork. I''ve been working on a NAEYC portfolio for half a year, which usually means I''m bringing standards and files home with me to complete. By the time my day is done, if I can make it through a shower without falling asleep, it''s a personal victory. I''ve read maybe four books since our honeymoon last year.
I had mentioned once that kindles are neat a little while ago; it''s one of the only tech devices I''ve commented on, and it excited him to no end. But it''s certainly not something I would want or anticipate as an anniversary present.
I''m really upset about it; and I''m not sure if I''m upset because I know I''m being selfish by wanting something else, or if it''s because I feel like my husband didn''t really consider how I''d feel about my gift. Does that make sense? I was hoping for a gift I''d love to show off; not something I have to baby and teach myself to use, especially when I know I''ll hardly use it.
I need to know if I''m being a little witch about the situation. I know he means well by trying to give me something I showed interest in a while ago, but a kindle is hardly what I''m want right now. It would make a neat birthday or Christmas present, but I really put a lot of thought and effort into his anniversary present, and I really don''t feel he did.
Please tell me what your thoughts are. Thanks.