- Jun 8, 2008
I think this problem is multifaceted. In part due to people just not being self aware and in part due to the sense of entitlement many people seem to have. We didn't grow up with a sense of entitlement. Far from it. We were taught by my parents to be grateful for everything and hard work was necessary to get what we wanted and even then nothing was guaranteed or even deserved. Very few things were handed to us. We worked hard and appreciated all the good things and dealt with hardships and adversity as it came. There was no victim mentality. It wouldn't have been tolerated. That is just energy wasted.Long-term victims, ugh! I know we all feel like victims sometimes when bad stuff happens, but my friend split up with her husband three years ago and did really well out of the divorce - her ex bought her a stunning family house with a pool for her and the kids - and she got custody, everything. Yet three years later, she still posts all these self-pitying sayings about being broken and rising up etc. etc. which garners a lot of sympathy from some. Even though she's dated a hot bodybuilder a decade younger than her since her divorce! And I know for a fact that friends of ours were going through things like deaths and cancer when she was divorcing, and she wasn't there for them. Getting very, very tired of the whole victim mindset. She was so selfish towards those friends, and yet seems to spend most of her time on Facebook yowling for sympathy. I wasted hours and hours and hours in 2017 and 2018 giving it to her. When I think of all the productive things I could have been doing!