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monkeyprincess

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Hope this is the right forum for this question. I just got engaged last week, and my fiance gave me a gorgeous engagement ring. I absolutely love how delicate it looks on my hand. It is a 1.4 ct cushion with a 2.8 mm half-eternity band (I don''t know all the technical terms, but I think it would be characterized as pave/channel).

My poor attempt at pictures here, and I''ll attach another .... https://www.pricescope.com/community/threads/had-so-much-fun-ringing-in-the-new-year.132911/

My fiance bought my e-ring and wedding band as a set, and he showed it to me for the first time last night. The wedding band is about the same - 2.8 mm half eternity. Another pretty, delicate ring, and when I put the rings on together, whoa, it is sparkly. BUT it loses the delicate look, and I feel like it takes the focus away from my diamond. I feel terrible, but I told my fiance I''m not sure I love how they look together. He wasn''t offended, and he said he really doesn''t care if I wear the wedding band or not and we can figure it out when we get married in August. He then proceeded to hide it from me :)

I guess I could wear the wedding band on my other hand or something. Does anyone just wear their e-ring alone? Or how have you dealt with similar problems? I so wanted to love it. Thanks.

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I have a few different wedding bands, I have one that I just wear with my ER as it was the best match I could find and then I have another that I wear all by itself. Maybe you could keep the one that came with your set to wear as a stand alone band and then find another one for your ring.
 
I wear mine together,but a lot of my friends wear theirs apart and it looks great!
 
I understand you, monkeyprincess. I thought for sure I''d want a diamond band as a wedding band, but when the time came and I started trying them on with my e-ring, I felt like all it did was take away from my center diamond. A plain band isn''t terrifically expensive, you could get one to stack with your diamond band to put some space between it and your center diamond, or wear separately depending on your mood. You never know, you might end up changing your mind later and really liking the diamond band more, it''s best to keep your options open!
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I would try on different bands and find one you like, that complements your e-ring. Then on your wedding day, I would have your husband put them on together,
as one ring during the ceremony. Then you could wear either and they would both have the significance as the ring he put on your finger during the ceremony.
Tastes change over the years, and one day you might look at that ring that came with your set and totally love it, appreciating it for the reason that he picked it out
and it is the match for the e-ring you love. You can have the best of both worlds IMHO. Just my 2 cents.
 
Do you have any pictures of the set?

I'm the opposite of your situation - I find that I usually wear only my wedding band, and only wear my engagement ring when I go out to dinner or somewhere else in public. When I'm around the house or at work, I don't like "the rock" getting in the way, so I just wear the band. I feel bad, like you, because my husband spent thousands of dollars on my engagement ring and it only makes its way out of the jewelry box once a week or so, but he, like your fiance, says it doesn't bother him. Just play around with different looks, and do what makes you feel comfortable!
 
Thank you everyone for your advice. I think I slightly overreacted. I am over at his house right now, and when he went outside to shovel, I went and found the ring in his bathroom drawer (of all places). Anyway, when I put it on again, it wasn''t as bad as I initially thought. I have done little more than stare at my ring this week, so it was probably just the shock of seeing something different than what I''ve gotten used to. I won''t be soldering them, but I''m sure I''ll wear them together sometimes, and maybe stack the wedding band with another ring or two other days. I have a lot of options, and I guess anything goes these days.
 
sonnyjane, I snapped two quick pics. I only had my phone with me, so they are terrible quality, but you can at least get the idea of what they look like together.

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I personally think the set looks perfect together. I wouldn''t worry.
 
Date: 1/10/2010 2:17:33 PM
Author: CharmyPoo
I personally think the set looks perfect together. I wouldn''t worry.
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This! I think it''s exactly what you said - that you got used to seeing the e-ring alone, so freaked out when you put the band on :) I think it''s a lovely set!
 
Your set looks great to me!
 
I think your wband looks wonderful alongside your ering! The band doesn''t take away from the ering at all, in fact I think the band compliments it! But, I will say that I understand your initial feelings...I received a new matching set for my 25th, and it is along the same lines as your set, you can see it in my avatar. When I first received it, I put the ering on first, and my husband had to prompt me to put the wband on as well! Initially I almost preferred the ering alone, I thought it looked so beautiful by itelf! But I also really like the extra bling the wband gives, it makes more of a statement. Occasionally, I will still wear the ering alone so I can just enjoy it by itself. I''ve also been thinking about getting a plain gold band. As you said, there are several options, and there''s no right or wrong to any of them! But don''t worry about your set at all, it is just gorgeous!
 
They look lovely together! One thing you could do is that if you wanted to showcase the e-ring, you could wear a plain band with it and the w-ring band could be a RHR band - as it''s quite lovely on its own also! So nice to have options with those beautiful rings!
 
Monkeyprincess, your rings are beautiful! Congratulations on your engagement.

I know we often think there is just one way to wear our wedding sets, but really you have plenty of options, and there is no right or wrong choice. Like another poster, I reset my diamond last summer, for my 20th anni. I love the look of a solitaire, but was tired if my yg tiffany style so went with a wg split shank. Love it. Last minute, the jeweler asked if I wanted him to make a wg band to fit against my ring. I agreed, but honesty, I didn''t love the look. Just took away from the split shank. So, I played around with it, and had fun! I eventually added small micropave bands. I have and can do: solitaire alone, solitaire with matching wg band, solitaire with one pave band, solitaire with two pave bands, ALL four together, bands on left hand and solitaire on the right.

Maybe you can add a solid band to the diamond band, to wear on the "wedding ring finger" and wear your engagement ring on your right hand. That way your gorgeous ering gets it''s spotlight, and you have beautiful rings on your left hand, too.
Just a few ideas. Please don''t stress about it. Enjoy this time and playing with your sparklies!
 
Monkeyprincess ... they look PERFECT together ... you just need to get used to the look. Almost EVERYONE goes through this period of only liking the way their e-ring looks ALONE. Its part of the transition from being engaged to being married. (IMHO) I bet with time you''ll grow to love the two together BEST and your e-ring alone will look weird. Growing pains.

Sure there are people who wear them on different hands -- but usually those are elaborate settings that don''t pair with a band well. Your is obviously a "set". They DO look like they belong together. I think it would be strange to wear those rings in different hands. Or wear that e-ring as a RHR. JMHO.
 
I agree...I think they look great together. You have to get use to the non-symetrical look of having a wedding band on one side.
It just takes a while. Unless you want to wear your wedding band on you right hand.
 
I think they look great together. When you posted the picture of the two together I still noticed the diamond first. It might just take some time to get used to wearing them together.
 
I also think they look wonderful together. I definitely see the diamond first and then the settings.
 
They look fantastic together, they really do
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It does take some getting used to. The first time I put my wb on (I''m not allowed to wear it in public yet, but I wear it round the house all the time
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) I couldn''t believe how chunky everything suddenly looked - and I specifically designed my wb to be as thin and un-noticeable as possible. Now when I look at my Ering alone it looks like something''s missing.


I do think the fact that you have two bands is prominent, but it just adds to the look - they match perfectly, and they look wonderful as a set
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. Maybe wear it round the house for a few weeks, and if you don''t like it then get something else?
 
Date: 1/10/2010 4:44:55 PM
Author: decodelighted
Monkeyprincess ... they look PERFECT together ... you just need to get used to the look. Almost EVERYONE goes through this period of only liking the way their e-ring looks ALONE. Its part of the transition from being engaged to being married. (IMHO) I bet with time you''ll grow to love the two together BEST and your e-ring alone will look weird. Growing pains.

Sure there are people who wear them on different hands -- but usually those are elaborate settings that don''t pair with a band well. Your is obviously a ''set''. They DO look like they belong together. I think it would be strange to wear those rings in different hands. Or wear that e-ring as a RHR. JMHO.
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100% agree with Deco here highlighted. I didn''t noticed this at first, but after five years, I tried to wear my first e-ring alone, and it looked weird to me too...lol
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Date: 1/10/2010 4:44:55 PM
Author: decodelighted
Monkeyprincess ... they look PERFECT together ... you just need to get used to the look. Almost EVERYONE goes through this period of only liking the way their e-ring looks ALONE. Its part of the transition from being engaged to being married. (IMHO) I bet with time you''ll grow to love the two together BEST and your e-ring alone will look weird. Growing pains.
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Ditto. You just got engaged last week. Give yourself some time to enjoy your ering by itself. Right now it seems perfect. Because it is. But you may eventually crave a little more sparkle. And that''s exactly what you''ll get with the wedding band.

They look beautiful together.
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Date: 1/10/2010 4:44:55 PM
Author: decodelighted
Monkeyprincess ... they look PERFECT together ... you just need to get used to the look. Almost EVERYONE goes through this period of only liking the way their e-ring looks ALONE. Its part of the transition from being engaged to being married. (IMHO) I bet with time you''ll grow to love the two together BEST and your e-ring alone will look weird. Growing pains.

Sure there are people who wear them on different hands -- but usually those are elaborate settings that don''t pair with a band well. Your is obviously a ''set''. They DO look like they belong together. I think it would be strange to wear those rings in different hands. Or wear that e-ring as a RHR. JMHO.
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Exactly. Alone it looks great, but worn together you look married
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Thanks everyone. You made me feel a lot better. When I put it on the first time, I freaked out and was thinking how I would have to wear something I didn''t like for the rest of my life. I''m sure I will learn to love the two rings together. It is just a different look, and I wasn''t thinking that everybody probably feels that way at first. I''m so thankful for my fiance and once we''re married, I want to look married to him, so I''m sure I''ll wear the wedding band. Just one more demonstration of my neuroticism as we plan our wedding :)
 
I think the band looks perfect with your e-ring. you have a gorgeous set!!
 
Your set look great together! I''m having a similar issue, so I know how you feel. Nothing looks right with my spilt shank and I don''t want a curved band so I''ll be wearing my w-ring on my right hand. I say, do whatever works for you!
 
Personally i think that wedding band is a perfect match with your engagement ring
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I used to have a very similar set and at first I usually I wore the ering alone unless I was going somewhere with my inlaws. Then I started to get questions about when I was getting married, so I started wearing the band a little more until finally I got so used to them together that it was weird to wear the ering alone. I think your case might be similar to mine--you have to adjust to the new look. If you still don''t like it after awhile you can always get a second band and begin your own stack...
 
I think they look beautiful together as a set as well! Gorgeous in fact! It always takes me a bit to get used to something new as well. I think it is wonderful and it
time you will look at it and think it is perfect as well! No worries!!!!
 
I think that it looks great together! It create a more ''substantial'' look, I am not into thin, delicate look for diamonds:) the BIGGER, CHUNKIER, the better
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however its all up to individual taste.
 
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