allycat0303
Ideal_Rock
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I put foot down.
Needed to give you all an update. I spent the weekend debating the issue about my mom''s ''''bribe'''' thought it over, changed my mind and then finally made peace with the whole thing. I initally had decided I was going to take the money because I felt like the whole business was pretty unfair. However, on Monday night I went home, and my mom was being really unpleasent about it. Snide comments ''''oh now I have to contribute because you couldn`t pick a decent venue'''' etc., I went home in tears because I couldn`t stanf the unfairness of it. So LONNG talk with fiancé monday night again, and we we decided to refuse the money.
Last night I went to my parents to tell my mom. I wasn''t mean about it or anything, I just told her I that I thought it would be less stress for everyone, if I didn`t take her contribution. BUT I also told her I wasn''t going to pay for all her guests. I''m not intrested in a big wedding, and since I am footing the bill, I don`t want people I don`t care about to be there. If we had gone with the venue as planned, I wouldn`t have minded, but now I do. Granted she was really angry, both that I refused the money, and made her cut the guest list, but honestly, her attitude about the whole thing made me really angry. So it''s going to be family only on my side. I''ll have 30 guests total (have cut out her extra 20 friends). I was really jittery and emotional after the whole scene, but this morning I feel like superwoman.
I''m really happy out actually, and DRUMROLL....my fiancé and I decided to get our dream venue! I thought it over, and the bottom line is that we can easily afford it. I am being stingy about the whole thing, but it doesn`t really matter. I just had a mental block about the price, but it''s my wedding and my fiancé convinced me it wasn`t unreasonable.
So today, at 3:00 my fiancé is going ALONE to put the deposit down. I called my photographer last night, and he was available for the date, and changed over our deposit. So if all goes well (please cross your fingers for me) then by tonight I should have the venue booked. It''s silly but until he signs his name on the contract I am going to worry that this isn`t going to work out.
Thanks everyone for all of the support!
Needed to give you all an update. I spent the weekend debating the issue about my mom''s ''''bribe'''' thought it over, changed my mind and then finally made peace with the whole thing. I initally had decided I was going to take the money because I felt like the whole business was pretty unfair. However, on Monday night I went home, and my mom was being really unpleasent about it. Snide comments ''''oh now I have to contribute because you couldn`t pick a decent venue'''' etc., I went home in tears because I couldn`t stanf the unfairness of it. So LONNG talk with fiancé monday night again, and we we decided to refuse the money.
Last night I went to my parents to tell my mom. I wasn''t mean about it or anything, I just told her I that I thought it would be less stress for everyone, if I didn`t take her contribution. BUT I also told her I wasn''t going to pay for all her guests. I''m not intrested in a big wedding, and since I am footing the bill, I don`t want people I don`t care about to be there. If we had gone with the venue as planned, I wouldn`t have minded, but now I do. Granted she was really angry, both that I refused the money, and made her cut the guest list, but honestly, her attitude about the whole thing made me really angry. So it''s going to be family only on my side. I''ll have 30 guests total (have cut out her extra 20 friends). I was really jittery and emotional after the whole scene, but this morning I feel like superwoman.
I''m really happy out actually, and DRUMROLL....my fiancé and I decided to get our dream venue! I thought it over, and the bottom line is that we can easily afford it. I am being stingy about the whole thing, but it doesn`t really matter. I just had a mental block about the price, but it''s my wedding and my fiancé convinced me it wasn`t unreasonable.
So today, at 3:00 my fiancé is going ALONE to put the deposit down. I called my photographer last night, and he was available for the date, and changed over our deposit. So if all goes well (please cross your fingers for me) then by tonight I should have the venue booked. It''s silly but until he signs his name on the contract I am going to worry that this isn`t going to work out.
Thanks everyone for all of the support!