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Ideal_Rock
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It seems my ex-coworkers have graduated to frenemies. On my engagement post, once commented, "Congratulations, now stop posting and go enjoy your day".
Another recent one (my ex boss) commented on a post my fiance made, saying "Surely you don't mean that!" to which he gave her both barrels, "You are wrong, I meant every word of it and if you knew me, you would know that". My hero. She did not reply.
Still, I dislike the tittering and back biting.
I am sure we have some great social navigators here with good ideas. When I worked for this person, she would frequently attack. I did not defend as she was my boss and my personality with is very non confrontational. I should have...but now that I don't work for her (promotion with supporting company) she occasionally still comes around to kick the dog.
background: this is a person who hissed in my ear that if she were diabetic, she would not be type 2 like me in a hateful tone. She makes fun of large people (I am) and says they try to use their size to intimidate people. There were about 5 years of digs and passive aggressive attacks on occasion. At other times, she was wonderful. Enough about all of that, it just gives you some background. I am sure my happy engagement posts are driving them nuts. Heh, I dont even dare to post a ring pic except to family. It would be like throwing chicken to piranhas.
How do you deal with frenemies you can't quite confront (I can't for business reasons, I still have to call on her company). Should I just cut the frenemies from my "friends" on Facebook? I worry that will just fuel the fire. Maybe I should just let her have it (but then I have to work with her in the future). I have abuse in my background and it is hard for me to stand up for myself. I can with my fiance, because he listens and I am safe to tell my feelings to him. I consider it a wonderful thing that we can fight We always respectfully talk things out.
Advice, thoughts? Thanks in advance.
Another recent one (my ex boss) commented on a post my fiance made, saying "Surely you don't mean that!" to which he gave her both barrels, "You are wrong, I meant every word of it and if you knew me, you would know that". My hero. She did not reply.
Still, I dislike the tittering and back biting.
I am sure we have some great social navigators here with good ideas. When I worked for this person, she would frequently attack. I did not defend as she was my boss and my personality with is very non confrontational. I should have...but now that I don't work for her (promotion with supporting company) she occasionally still comes around to kick the dog.
background: this is a person who hissed in my ear that if she were diabetic, she would not be type 2 like me in a hateful tone. She makes fun of large people (I am) and says they try to use their size to intimidate people. There were about 5 years of digs and passive aggressive attacks on occasion. At other times, she was wonderful. Enough about all of that, it just gives you some background. I am sure my happy engagement posts are driving them nuts. Heh, I dont even dare to post a ring pic except to family. It would be like throwing chicken to piranhas.
How do you deal with frenemies you can't quite confront (I can't for business reasons, I still have to call on her company). Should I just cut the frenemies from my "friends" on Facebook? I worry that will just fuel the fire. Maybe I should just let her have it (but then I have to work with her in the future). I have abuse in my background and it is hard for me to stand up for myself. I can with my fiance, because he listens and I am safe to tell my feelings to him. I consider it a wonderful thing that we can fight We always respectfully talk things out.
Advice, thoughts? Thanks in advance.