How much are your diamonds for you? How much for others?

[kenny]

How much are your diamonds for you?
How much are they for others?

Sorry, there is no 50/50 choice.
PS polls allow only 10 choices, and 50/50 would have required 11 choices ... and I suspected 50/50 would be the least popular choice anyway.
(Watch me be wrong. )

Hints:
If you only clean them when you go out of the house, then they are a bit more for others.
If you've ever held your ring hand so the table of the diamond reflects a light source back towards someone's eyes, then your diamond is a bit more for others.
If you love it when someone compliments, then they are a bit more for others.
If you hate it when nobody compliments, then they are a bit more for others.

FWIW, I voted 70% for me, 30% for others, even though I wish I could have voted 100% for me.

 

[Madam Bijoux]

Me, 100%
Others, 0%

 

[stracci2000]

I went with 80/20.
I truly love my bling, cause I am a bit selfish, and when they catch the light, I am in love all over again.
But I also enjoy a nice compliment, as well.

 

[Dancing Fire]

99% for others...

 

[kenny]

99% for others...

So, whatcha waiting for?
Vote Dude, Vote!

 

[Rhea]

I'm the 60-40 vote. They are for others the same way that most of what I wear is for others. I change into PJs as soon as I get home. I don't wear make-up at home. I wear my hair up at home. I do wear diamond earrings at home, I wear them most of them time and even to go to the garage to grab something out of the car I make sure I'm wearing earrings.

When I leave the house I make sure my teeth are brushed, my hair isn't sticking up at a funny angle, the mud is cleaned off my shoes, and I usually don't wear PJs out of the house. By your definition most of what I do is for other people. I would consider it to be for me because I want to look good and feel confident. Same with my jewelery. But your definition puts it firmly in the nearly half for other people category.

 

[missy]

My first inclination is me 100% others 0% but thinking for more than a second about it I realize that is not entirely true. Before I buy any bling I usually ask my dh what he thinks of it. If he didn't like a piece I probably wouldn't buy it but that is more for the fact that he has great taste and I trust his aesthetics. So not sure if that counts as any percentage for the others vote because I don't go with his opinion for his pleasure but more as a way to ensure I am making the right decision if that makes sense...

OK 90% me 10% for my dh and no one else matters in the others category when it comes to my wearing bling.

 

[chrono]

100% for me. Nobody likes ECs where I am. No OECs or OMCs to be seen either.

 

[missy]

100% for me. Nobody likes ECs where I am. No OECs or OMCs to be seen either.

OMG are they crazy? For the record I LOVE ECs and if I ever get a second major ring it will be an EC. C'mon money tree where are you???

 

[arkieb1]

Jewellery, clothing and everything else is 100% to please me and 0% for others. I am old enough not to care what other people think any more. I would have had a different answer in my 20s.

 

[baby monster]

80-20 for me. Love looking at my rings and catching a glimpse of the studs in the mirror during the day. Occasionally I catch others admiring my jewelry and sometimes they compliment it. Same for nail polish. Absolutely love looking at my polish and bling

 

[Jambalaya]

I chose 90/10, although it's more likely 95% for me and 5% for others.

I seriously believe it's hugely weighted toward being for me only. I always shop alone for jewelry and never take anyone else's advice, or show anyone a piece before I buy it. After I buy it, I don't look for others' approval of the piece, either. I make all my own decisions about what to spend on each item, and I know that some of my circle's jaws would drop if they knew. Which I take no notice of, because these are non-jewelry people. Yesterday I was in the house alone all day and wore a blingy set. The only time it's for others is if going to a dressy party (not often) or going to a nice jewelry store.

I choose, buy, and wear what makes me feel good. Only very occasionally do I wear it to make a certain impression. Maybe once or twice a year.

 

[Dancing Fire]

99% for others...

So, whatcha waiting for?
Vote Dude, Vote!

TBH ...60% for me

 

[Laila619]

Over the years, I've learned I wear them for others, and not really for myself. The way I know this is that I would be happy with a simple, plain band all the time. But when I go out, I still feel the need to wear a diamond ring. Why I don't really know. To impress others? So people don't think my husband is cheap? Who knows.

 

[Dancing Fire]

Over the years, I've learned I wear them for others, and not really for myself. The way I know this is that I would be happy with a simple, plain band all the time. But when I go out, I still feel the need to wear a diamond ring. Why I don't really know. To impress others? So people don't think my husband is cheap? Who knows.

Or he is telling the world that he have a high maintenance wife!..

 

[yssie]

I'm the 60-40 vote. They are for others the same way that most of what I wear is for others. I change into PJs as soon as I get home. I don't wear make-up at home. I wear my hair up at home. I do wear diamond earrings at home, I wear them most of them time and even to go to the garage to grab something out of the car I make sure I'm wearing earrings.

When I leave the house I make sure my teeth are brushed, my hair isn't sticking up at a funny angle, the mud is cleaned off my shoes, and I usually don't wear PJs out of the house. By your definition most of what I do is for other people. I would consider it to be for me because I want to look good and feel confident. Same with my jewelery. But your definition puts it firmly in the nearly half for other people category.

Rhea, you nailed it for me. I enjoy dressing up because I like the way I feel when other people appreciate the way I look and present myself... I care for the opinion of some "other people" more than other "other people", certainly!

I wear diamonds instead of CZs or other simulants for me, though.

 

[Laila619]

Over the years, I've learned I wear them for others, and not really for myself. The way I know this is that I would be happy with a simple, plain band all the time. But when I go out, I still feel the need to wear a diamond ring. Why I don't really know. To impress others? So people don't think my husband is cheap? Who knows.

Or he is telling the world that he have a high maintenance wife!..

Hahaha, DF, I am one of the most low-maintenance wives around! I tell him no gifts for bdays, anniversaries, or Valentine's Day.

 

[Arcadian]

I more often than not forget to wear anything on my hands even when I go out. I work at home, so kinda silly putting on anything (well, except my studs)

I've gotten compliments but they were unexpected. At a party, some chick grabbed my hand...she almost got a fist to the face if my husband had not grabbed my arm. (that was a byproduct of defensive training)

 

[the_mother_thing]

100% for me ... same reasons I color my hair (just not ready to be as gray as I really am), wear a little make up (hate seeing my dark circles in the mirror when I lack sleep), or wear Danskos (for comfort and my bad back). I don't wear jewelry for anyone else but me. We also live in a very small town at the moment (that's about to change in a month), and few people here really appreciate nice jewelry, and some probably assume my diamonds are fake, but I don't really care.

My motto in life - aside from my parents and my daughter - "your" opinion matters when you sign my paycheck, put food on my table or a roof over my head. Anything else, and it's someone else's worry what they choose to think - not mine.

All that said, if someone compliments my jewelry, I am very gracious and appreciate that they appreciate nice things.

 

[lyra]

This is an interesting question. I'd never thought about it before. I think for women, there often is that "I want to look MARRIED" feeling that you get and sometimes grow in your mind as the years go by. At first I thought, when I first got married it was probably 50-50%. That first glow giddiness. Now I'm down/up to 70-30% if I'm honest. I often look at what other women are wearing, so I must care, although I hadn't thought specifically about this issue until now.

 

[Cluless]

100% for me I don't have much, but what I do have is for my own pleasure.

 

[kenny]

To whomever voted, "0% for me, 100% for others" ...

Go ahead and ship me your diamonds.
Clearly, you won't miss them because they're not for you!

 

[cflutist]

90% for me, 10% for dear hubby.

I was hoping that DH would talk me out of the Tiffany yellow RHR ring, but instead he encouraged me to buy it. Now I don't wear it anymore because it has been replaced by my cut to order CBI diamond.

 

[jordyonbass]

0% for me, 100% for my wife (being the kinda guy I am, I have taken a slightly different approach to answering the topic).

While I have diamonds in my wedding band, I take no notice of them until someone points it out (which isn't very often) and even then I am not phased by compliments. So I think I can safely say that any time I am looking at as possible diamond or gemstone, it is 0% for me and 100% for everyone else to enjoy (mostly my wife lol). I'm just trying to do my homework enough so that everyone who isn't me can appreciate what they see as I get more of a kick when my wife is cimplimented for her stones rather than me complimented for picking them out

I'm obsessed with the rocks, the chemistry and the geology - not with the jewelry

 

[Jennifer W]

Just for me.The way I see it, I could spend a lot of time tweaking my appearance and attire, and please a proportion of onlookers as a result. Another proportion would probably dislike the effect. Who knows if the people I actually wanted to impress fall into the right category or not? It's just too exhausting. So, since whatever I do, I'll be pleasing some people and displeasing others by default, I just suit myself. I think it's safe to say that the shiny stuff is just for my own amusement.


I should add, I really do love to see beautiful stones on other people. So, if in pleasing myself, I also please other bling lovers, then that's a nice side effect.

 

[kenny]

Just for me.The way I see it, I could spend a lot of time tweaking my appearance and attire, and please a proportion of onlookers as a result. Another proportion would probably dislike the effect. Who knows if the people I actually wanted to impress fall into the right category or not? It's just too exhausting. So, since whatever I do, I'll be pleasing some people and displeasing others by default, I just suit myself.

Indeed!

Last week I attended an even in which one woman went gaga over my Octavia.
She interogated me endlessly and we ended up on Pricescope on the host's computer.

Another guy at the table couldn't stop talking about how they are all blood diamonds and how they exploit child labor, etc.

People sure vary.

 

[Jennifer W]

Just for me.The way I see it, I could spend a lot of time tweaking my appearance and attire, and please a proportion of onlookers as a result. Another proportion would probably dislike the effect. Who knows if the people I actually wanted to impress fall into the right category or not? It's just too exhausting. So, since whatever I do, I'll be pleasing some people and displeasing others by default, I just suit myself.

Indeed!

Last week I attended an even in which one woman went gaga over my Octavia.
She interogated me endlessly and we ended up on Pricescope on the host's computer.

Another guy at the table couldn't stop talking about how they are all blood diamonds and how they exploit child labor, etc.

People sure vary.

As someone on PS once said, You can't please all of the people all of the time... so you might as well please yourself. That way, somone is guaranteed to be happy.

Can't help wondering though, since you know who sourced, designed, cut and set your Octavia, quite where the exploitation comes in, or how a by-stander could have that fact to bring to you.

 

[kenny]

Just for me.The way I see it, I could spend a lot of time tweaking my appearance and attire, and please a proportion of onlookers as a result. Another proportion would probably dislike the effect. Who knows if the people I actually wanted to impress fall into the right category or not? It's just too exhausting. So, since whatever I do, I'll be pleasing some people and displeasing others by default, I just suit myself.

Indeed!

Last week I attended an even in which one woman went gaga over my Octavia.
She interogated me endlessly and we ended up on Pricescope on the host's computer.

Another guy at the table couldn't stop talking about how they are all blood diamonds and how they exploit child labor, etc.

People sure vary.

As someone on PS once said, You can't please all of the people all of the time... so you might as well please yourself. That way, somone is guaranteed to be happy.

Can't help wondering though, since you know who sourced, designed, cut and set your Octavia, quite where the exploitation comes in, or how a by-stander could have that fact to bring to you.

The guy was ignorant.
He saw the film Blood Diamond but didn't bother getting any further education.
I fixed that.

 

[OoohShiny]

Just for me.The way I see it, I could spend a lot of time tweaking my appearance and attire, and please a proportion of onlookers as a result. Another proportion would probably dislike the effect. Who knows if the people I actually wanted to impress fall into the right category or not? It's just too exhausting. So, since whatever I do, I'll be pleasing some people and displeasing others by default, I just suit myself.

Indeed!

Last week I attended an even in which one woman went gaga over my Octavia.
She interogated me endlessly and we ended up on Pricescope on the host's computer.

Another guy at the table couldn't stop talking about how they are all blood diamonds and how they exploit child labor, etc.

People sure vary.

As someone on PS once said, You can't please all of the people all of the time... so you might as well please yourself. That way, somone is guaranteed to be happy.

Can't help wondering though, since you know who sourced, designed, cut and set your Octavia, quite where the exploitation comes in, or how a by-stander could have that fact to bring to you.

haha I like this - I am going to shamelessly steal it lol

 

[marcy]

I voted 100% for me. While I will ask my husband what he thinks or other people on PS their opinion I know what I want and get things I like. I don't worry if I get compliments on my jewelry but graciously accept them if I do. If I was buying them for others I'd either have short hair or wouldn't have nice earrings.