Diamond Confused
Shiny_Rock
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- Jan 14, 2008
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So my boyfriend and I are getting engaged very soon however after careful consideration we have decided to not get married until 2012. Here's the background info:
I start medical school in the fall and of course it's ridiculously expensive. Luckily I have some scholorships and grants so I don't have to take out too many loans. However if I get married my boyfriends income is calculated into my financial aid award so I would lose the grant money. He makes enough to make me ineligible for "free" need-based money so he would have to make up the difference. So either we wait to get married or we can do it now and financially get screwed over.
Here's the problem: I don't want to live with him until marriage and it's always been a strong belief of mine. I want to save something for marriage. We are 28 so it's silly to live apart for 4 more years especially since he's buying a house. So I told him that as long as we are engaged I'm willing to set aside my convictions and move in with him. He was very pleased that I agreed to move in.
Basically we will be engaged for 4 years. Is that ridiculous?
I start medical school in the fall and of course it's ridiculously expensive. Luckily I have some scholorships and grants so I don't have to take out too many loans. However if I get married my boyfriends income is calculated into my financial aid award so I would lose the grant money. He makes enough to make me ineligible for "free" need-based money so he would have to make up the difference. So either we wait to get married or we can do it now and financially get screwed over.
Here's the problem: I don't want to live with him until marriage and it's always been a strong belief of mine. I want to save something for marriage. We are 28 so it's silly to live apart for 4 more years especially since he's buying a house. So I told him that as long as we are engaged I'm willing to set aside my convictions and move in with him. He was very pleased that I agreed to move in.
Basically we will be engaged for 4 years. Is that ridiculous?