Home How long did you wait before you got married?

[LitigatorChick]

Was that too long? Too short? What do you think???

 

[reader]

Married four years to the day after we met, and engaged two years to the day. I think the timing was just perfect in our case.

 

[Maisie]

We were married 3 years after we met. I think that was the right amount of time for us.

 

[E B]

Approx. four years (from the start of dating to our wedding day), and I think it was the perfect amount of time for us. We were living together (another good decision) for three of those years.

 

[Shoopy]

We got engaged after six years. We''ll be together 7.5 years before we get married. That may seem like a long time for a lot of people but it worked out well for us.

 

[Loves Vintage]

Engage in less than a year, married at 1 year and a few months. All is well; we are still newlyweds!

 

[AmberGretchen]

We got engaged about 2 years after we started dating, and married 3.5 years in. We had met a couple of years before that, though. I think in retrospect, we could have waited longer, but I don''t have any real regrets about when we did it.

 

[Tacori E-ring]

5.5 years

At the time it felt way too long but seeing how we met when I was 20 seems just right now. Not sure what my rush was.

 

[LitigatorChick]

For my first marriage, I waited 5 years before we got married. I think that if I knew we were meant to be, we would have gotten married sooner. Instead, we kind of got married cause we had been together so long.

This is in contrast to my current boyfriend. Despite the short time together, we have an instant connection and are soul mates. So way less time seems necessary.

 

[robbie3982]

We got engaged after dating for a year and were married about a year after that.

 

[sctsbride09]

We got engaged 2 years into our relationship and eloped 6 months later

, perfect timing for us.

 

[Laila619]

Hi. We got engaged at 15 months, and were married by 20 months (so under 2 years from first date to wedding day). Couldn''t be happier!

 

[puffy]

we''ve been together for 10 years now, been married for almost 3 years. we were also engaged for almost 2 years before we got married, which was longer than what we both wanted, but different things happened, and we had to change the wedding date a few times.
seemed like it was a long time, but i was so young, i was in absolutely no rush to get married.

 

[Mandarine]

At 2.5 years we got engaged and got married a year after that...so 3.5 years.

Looking back, it was perfect timing...but at the time I felt like things were taking FOREVER!!!. I thought I was ready after a year or so, so I didn''t understand what he was waiting for

...so I wasn''t the best at "waiting", but still really have enjoyed each phase of our relationship!!! (including the waiting/torture time

)

 

[janinegirly]

i remember it well mandarine! I also got engaged at 3 yr mark, married at 4. It was one year too long in my book! but now looking back, it's was just perfect..............who am I kidding, I STILL think it was one year too long!

fyi: i was 35 when married so that might have been part of the "rush". In my mind if things didn't work out, I had wasted too much valuable time, and all the talks and assurances weren't enough. I needed the ring to feel things were solid!

 

[Italiahaircolor]

We married one year to the day we got engaged. So, 1 year and 3 months.

A lot of people had little/no faith in us...they thought we were crazy, foolish, playing house, and plenty of other things. But, we were really sure, and had amazing resolve when it came to us and our relationship.

Sometimes Mark and I still discuss our early relationship and the path we took, and I''ve wondered outloud more than once if actually being engaged forced us to work on our relationship more seriously and truly find a common ground...and I''ve also questioned for the sake of curiosity, if we had taken it slow if we still be married or even together at all. Of course, the moment the words pop into my head I know the answer....yes!

My husband fits me. We truly are a matched pair. I am incredibly blessed. And from my relationship, I have grown to really believe that a good relationship can move at whatever speed, fast or slow or medium, because when two people are equally commited and meant to be together, time --like age--- becomes just a number.

 

[Mandarine]

Date: 4/23/2009 3:20:13 PM
Author: janinegirly
i remember it well mandarine! I also got engaged at 3 yr mark, married at 4. It was one year too long in my book! but now looking back, it''s was just perfect..............who am I kidding, I STILL think it was one year too long!

fyi: i was 35 when married so that might have been part of the ''rush''. In my mind if things didn''t work out, I had wasted too much valuable time, and all the talks and assurances weren''t enough. I needed the ring to feel things were solid!

oh yes...it was definitely torture...lol. It''s funny because now DH sometimes mentions what a PIA I was and I''m like "whaaaat? me???, I handle the wait very well!"

I still think I owe it all to the engagement chicken! LOL

 

[Italiahaircolor]

Date: 4/23/2009 2:30:50 PM
Author: LitigatorChick
For my first marriage, I waited 5 years before we got married. I think that if I knew we were meant to be, we would have gotten married sooner. Instead, we kind of got married cause we had been together so long.

This is in contrast to my current boyfriend. Despite the short time together, we have an instant connection and are soul mates. So way less time seems necessary.

LitigatorChick...I didn''t know you got a divorce. I must admit, the boyfriend part thru me for a loop for a moment....

Congratulations on finding sincere happiness, I''m so happy for you!

 

[MichelleCarmen]

We waited eight years, but keep in mind, my DH and I met when I was a senior in high school and he had just graduated. It was a smart decision on our part because we both had the opportunity to live on our own and work and support ourselves and learn about life. We lived together on and off and even broke up for a short span to allow for dating other people.

 

[MichelleCarmen]

Date: 4/23/2009 3:27:15 PM
Author: Italiahaircolor

LitigatorChick...I didn't know you got a divorce. I must admit, the boyfriend part thru me for a loop for a moment....

Congratulations on finding sincere happiness, I'm so happy for you!

The divorce news surprised me too. LC, you last posted about your DH in November and already divorced? Best of luck to you in your new relationship. I hope all turns out good.

ETA - if you're thinking about marriage with your new guy, maybe take more time dating.

 

[DivaDiamond007]

We were together about 3 years on our wedding date. We dated for 1.5 years and spent 1.5 years being engaged. I think it was perfect timing

 

[Aloros]

We dated for 1.5 years before engagement, and will be getting married in less than three months (

!) - 3 years total.

I think we could have married sooner with no regrets, but the longer time has given us more time to plan our wedding and do other things - like buying a house - in the meanwhile.

 

[Haven]

We married a little over four years after we first started dating. He proposed to me a little over three years into our relationship.

It was perfect for us. I was really young (in my opinion) when we started dating, and I needed a few years to grow up and get my life on track. I reached a point where I was really ready to be engaged shortly before it happened, but initially I was worried he''d be in too much of a rush to get married since he''s older than I am.

 

[iwannaprettyone]

Known him for 12 years
4 years as a bf
1 year as a fiance

We married in Sept 08

WAYYYYY tooooooo long- hah, it was great to wait!

 

[Sabine]

We moved in after 2 years of dating, got engaged after dating for 3 years, and married after dating for 5 years. The engagement did seem a little long, but with our schedules that is what worked out the best for us.

 

[Anastasia]

We got engaged about 2.5 years in, and got married about 3.5 years in.

I knew DH was the one pretty soon after we started dating, but I wasn''t quite ready to get married. He had just gotten out of a long term relationship, so I was a little bit leary for the first few months.

I probably would have shortened the timeline by about 1 year, but overall I''m happy with the timing.

 

[Sha]

Engaged at the two year mark. Married a few months after!

 

[bee*]

Date: 4/23/2009 3:27:15 PM
Author: Italiahaircolor

Date: 4/23/2009 2:30:50 PM

Author: LitigatorChick

For my first marriage, I waited 5 years before we got married. I think that if I knew we were meant to be, we would have gotten married sooner. Instead, we kind of got married cause we had been together so long.


This is in contrast to my current boyfriend. Despite the short time together, we have an instant connection and are soul mates. So way less time seems necessary.

LitigatorChick...I didn''t know you got a divorce. I must admit, the boyfriend part thru me for a loop for a moment....


Congratulations on finding sincere happiness, I''m so happy for you!

I didn''t know that either!! Delighted to hear that you''ve found your soul mate!

For D and I, we got engaged after 8 years and are getting married in June, one month before we''ll be dating ten years. For us it is the perfect amount of time as we met when we were very young and have been through school, college, jobs etc so now is right for us.

 

[KimberlyH]

Engaged 1.5 years after we met/started dating, married 8 months or so later. We were long distance for a bit less than a year in the very beginning. I wouldn't change anything about our timing.

 

[LitigatorChick]

Hey. DH asked for a divorce in the middle of last year and that was finalized by November (not the divorce but all the matrimonial property, child support, etc.). I have been dating lots since DH dumped me (seems that the ex was wrong when he told me that no one would be interested in me), so this is definately not a rebound guy!!!!