Home How long did you wait before you got married?

[Allison D.]

I''m going to answer in a slightly different slant.

How long did I wait to get married? I waited until I found the right man.

That didn''t happen until I was 37; by then, I knew firmly what my few non-negotiables were. Hub had married very young and subsequently divorced, and the experience left him with a very clear sense of what his non-negotiables were too.

We began as friends; 3 months into that, friendship became more. Within a month of that, we knew we wanted to marry. We lived together for a year; we were engaged at the 17-month mark and married a day shy of two years together. We will celebrate our 5th anniversary this July.

I am unequivocally in love with my husband; he was worth waiting for.

 

[honey22]

12 years and 9 days into our relationship, we got engaged (yep, I was counting

).

By the time we are married (November) we will have been together 13 years, 5 months.

As much as being a LIW for that amount of time, I WOULD NOT CHANGE A SINGLE THING! I can honestly say things are just perfect for us now, and I am so glad we waited.

 

[phoenixgirl]

We met my freshman year of college and got married 2.5 years after graduating at 24 and 26. We got married one day before our six year dating anniversary. Since we were so young when we met, six years wasn't too long to wait. We're expecting baby #1 this fall, just shy of our 5 year wedding anniversary and 11 year anniversary of becoming a couple.

DH's best friend met his wife in July. Yes, July of last year. They eloped in February. They're both early to mid 30's and were wanting to find someone and settle down (they met on eHarmony). They are such a great couple and even though their courtship was quick, it was right for them.

I think what's right for you totally depends on where you are in life when you meet.

 

[diamondringlover]

We got married 15 months after we met, we lived together for 14 of those months, we didnt waste any time

 

[Gailey]

Date: 4/23/2009 5:08:51 PM
Author: LitigatorChick
Thanks all. The weird thing is that he left me. I believe in marriage and would have stuck it out, depsite how awful things were. Thank goodness he left me, cause I have now discovered how a woman should be treated. And my BF could not be less like my ex. Absolutely incredible. It is just such a different experience.

Case in point. I met my ex at a bar - nice. My BF ended up selling me his car, and we bonded over the car, and the day he sadly delivered it to me, we ended up talking until 3 a.m.!!!! And we haven''t shut up since. So from yucky start to beautiful start. And that is just the beginning!!!!

LC, I just sort of stumbled on your thread this morning and I am so pleased that you are in such a happy place with a new man. I felt your earlier despair and have thought of you often since then. What a great thing to come out of a long cold winter! Congratulations!!

When I met Mr Gailey we were both just out of long arduous break-ups, although we moved intogether after about six weeks of our first date, we met some 6 months prior to that. I think it was about 18 months before Mr Gailey proposed and we were married within 9 months - that was 16 years and 2 days ago.

You kind of know when it''s right, especially if you''ve lived through a relationship that was wrong. I think we would have gotten married sooner had it not been for the degree of caution we felt, and that was mainly for the sake of our 3 kids.