trillionaire
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Date: 9/8/2009 10:38:36 PM
Author:trillionaire
Is it confusing? Annoying? Do you forego a gift under the assumption that they don''t expect any? Do you just default to cash? Do you call the couple in confusion and ask them?
What is your reaction?
I was just wondering this after reading several threads on wedding gifts and etiquette...
Well, since we plan to elope and have a reception/party a bit later, I''m not sure that I feel like it is appropriate to register, since we are doing something a bit non-traditional. And, after recently moving, I can honestly say we have WAY too much stuff as it is.Date: 9/8/2009 11:14:37 PM
Author: 4ever
Are you thinking of not doing a registery yourself?
Also, just to be aquard and thread-jack a bit, for those having a really small wedding and reception with just close friends and family, are you going to have a gift registery?
Oh yes we can honey!!Date: 9/9/2009 4:18:51 AM
Author: honey22
Registering is not as popular in Oz than it appears to be in the states, and we can''t just search online for a registry I don''t believe.
It depends on the couple, I usually know my friends pretty well, so I would feel comfortable giving them cash for their honeymoon etc. Most of our friends are established with a house etc, so I feel that contributing to a fabulous honeymoon is a great present.
We were all of the above! We are older (both in our 30s) and it was a second marriage for DH, AND it was a DW!Date: 9/9/2009 10:28:34 AM
Author: zipzapgirl
If it were an older couple or a second marriage, or it was a destination wedding I travelled for, I might think that they didn''t want a gift.
We did a honeymoon registry, which I already kind of feel is just asking for cash ... but then my mom said since we weren''t registering for "stuff" she would just tell her friends attending to send us cashDate: 9/9/2009 11:29:34 AM
Author: PilsnPinkysMom
I''d think nothing of a couple not registering. I''d just give them cash... It doesn''t matter to me whether no-registry implies ''cash only.'' Who cares? (Rhetorical question- I know some people care... a LOT). So long as the couple doesn''t say, ''Oh, please give us money in lieu of presents'' it will not ruffle my feathers. Heck- even if a couple DID say ''Please give us money,'' I (personally) wouldn''t care. ::ducks from etiquette gurus::