ellaila
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Here's my take:
I gotta say this family with eight kids sounds more like a commune than a family! No leaving the compound, kids! All you need is right here at home.
As people have said, different strokes for different folks, but I personally find it appalling that a mother wouldn't encourage her kids to do things outside of their immediate area. I don't really understand how a child can be well-adjusted when they're not even given the option to explore things. Sure, reading is great and so is playing with other kids in the neighborhood, and my brothers and I did a lot of both of those things, but there's a lot to be said for little league, and dance lessons, and soccer games, and whatever else they may be interested in that could be a few miles away from their home. This mother is shielding her kids from the real world, if you ask me. Legally, children CAN'T drive, so the solution is to confine them to just the block they live in?! Umm, I don't think so.
I think Miranda's sentence "I don't make a large effort with them because they didn't with me..." is pretty telling. My cousin was raised similarly, and he definitely resents the limits that were put on his childhood because his mother wouldn't drive him somewhere.
I'm not saying this mother doesn't love her children and take care of them in other ways. But I personally think she's robbing them of a big part of their childhood, and they will resent her for it later in life.
Just my two cents!
ETA: I don't think kids need six million activities to do, and I agree that nowadays some parents go overboard with that. But I don't think that the solution is to "just say no" to activities!
I gotta say this family with eight kids sounds more like a commune than a family! No leaving the compound, kids! All you need is right here at home.
As people have said, different strokes for different folks, but I personally find it appalling that a mother wouldn't encourage her kids to do things outside of their immediate area. I don't really understand how a child can be well-adjusted when they're not even given the option to explore things. Sure, reading is great and so is playing with other kids in the neighborhood, and my brothers and I did a lot of both of those things, but there's a lot to be said for little league, and dance lessons, and soccer games, and whatever else they may be interested in that could be a few miles away from their home. This mother is shielding her kids from the real world, if you ask me. Legally, children CAN'T drive, so the solution is to confine them to just the block they live in?! Umm, I don't think so.
I think Miranda's sentence "I don't make a large effort with them because they didn't with me..." is pretty telling. My cousin was raised similarly, and he definitely resents the limits that were put on his childhood because his mother wouldn't drive him somewhere.
I'm not saying this mother doesn't love her children and take care of them in other ways. But I personally think she's robbing them of a big part of their childhood, and they will resent her for it later in life.
Just my two cents!
ETA: I don't think kids need six million activities to do, and I agree that nowadays some parents go overboard with that. But I don't think that the solution is to "just say no" to activities!