Hello PSers... I'd love some opinions and advice here....and probably some therapy too...
I just received my custom setting upgrade. My original ER was a 1.5 ct princess cut in a prong setting with tapered baguettes on each side, in platinum. (F, VS2) For our anniversary, we had a custom setting made using my original center stone. It now is bezel set in a bezel set halo with clipped corners and traps on each side. We did a CAD, I got measurements, cut out the size of the ring from a piece of paper, etc so I do think I did my homework. I picked it up yesterday and they did exactly what they said they would do and it is beautiful.
So here is what is keeping me up at night: this thing is huge...it might need it's own zip code. Yes, I went from a stone that was about 6.3mm x 6.3mm and now with the halo and bezels it's about 11mm, so I knew it was going to be bigger. I also haven't had my original ER for about 6 months while it was being made, so I went from no ring to a big ring, which is not helping. Is there a term for the opposite of DSS??? LOL..I thought I was going to be ok with the size but now that I actually see it I am really not sure that I am.
I realize this is all on me....the jeweler didnt screw up. But what now?
I realize I need to live with it for a bit. BUT if I still feel that it's just "too much" for me to wear all the time, what are my options?
I either need to make peace with it, or do something about it. If I end up changing it, here are my questions:
1. Can a jeweler re-use the platinum and melt it down to make a new setting? (So I don't take a huge bath on a setting that was already very expensive?)
2. Do jewelers buy back tiny diamonds that are used in a halo? These diamonds were specially cut for this halo so not sure if that means I am screwed? Some of the diamonds in the halo are straight cut baguettes but the corners were specially cut for this setting so I dont about about their re-use.
3. Is there any chance the jeweler could re-sell the setting some how?
If I re-do the setting, I would either forget the halo and use my center stones and the traps as a three stone ring OR maybe I would make the halo much smaller, making the total halo size 9x9 or so. I think re-making the halo is going to really cost me a fortune so I dont know if thats the best option.
The jeweler I worked with was really great. They did have to send the ring out to another company in NY because they needed a diamond cutter to cut the stone for the halo. The jeweler actually sent the setting back to the twice to correct some things (which included them having to re-make the whole thing once) and make sure it was perfect. The jeweler negotiated a great price for us but I think with all the back and forth with their NY vendor they likely arent making much on this setting.....which might not help me if I go back to them to re-do this.
Any thoughts? Opinions? Suggestions? I'd love any and all advice!
Pictures attached, with my wedding band and without.

I just received my custom setting upgrade. My original ER was a 1.5 ct princess cut in a prong setting with tapered baguettes on each side, in platinum. (F, VS2) For our anniversary, we had a custom setting made using my original center stone. It now is bezel set in a bezel set halo with clipped corners and traps on each side. We did a CAD, I got measurements, cut out the size of the ring from a piece of paper, etc so I do think I did my homework. I picked it up yesterday and they did exactly what they said they would do and it is beautiful.
So here is what is keeping me up at night: this thing is huge...it might need it's own zip code. Yes, I went from a stone that was about 6.3mm x 6.3mm and now with the halo and bezels it's about 11mm, so I knew it was going to be bigger. I also haven't had my original ER for about 6 months while it was being made, so I went from no ring to a big ring, which is not helping. Is there a term for the opposite of DSS??? LOL..I thought I was going to be ok with the size but now that I actually see it I am really not sure that I am.
I realize this is all on me....the jeweler didnt screw up. But what now?
I realize I need to live with it for a bit. BUT if I still feel that it's just "too much" for me to wear all the time, what are my options?
I either need to make peace with it, or do something about it. If I end up changing it, here are my questions:
1. Can a jeweler re-use the platinum and melt it down to make a new setting? (So I don't take a huge bath on a setting that was already very expensive?)
2. Do jewelers buy back tiny diamonds that are used in a halo? These diamonds were specially cut for this halo so not sure if that means I am screwed? Some of the diamonds in the halo are straight cut baguettes but the corners were specially cut for this setting so I dont about about their re-use.
3. Is there any chance the jeweler could re-sell the setting some how?
If I re-do the setting, I would either forget the halo and use my center stones and the traps as a three stone ring OR maybe I would make the halo much smaller, making the total halo size 9x9 or so. I think re-making the halo is going to really cost me a fortune so I dont know if thats the best option.
The jeweler I worked with was really great. They did have to send the ring out to another company in NY because they needed a diamond cutter to cut the stone for the halo. The jeweler actually sent the setting back to the twice to correct some things (which included them having to re-make the whole thing once) and make sure it was perfect. The jeweler negotiated a great price for us but I think with all the back and forth with their NY vendor they likely arent making much on this setting.....which might not help me if I go back to them to re-do this.
Any thoughts? Opinions? Suggestions? I'd love any and all advice!
Pictures attached, with my wedding band and without.

