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I actually think of this subject fairly often. I'm 25 and have coveted my mother's beautiful collection of gold and platinum jewelry since I was around 12 years old.
I remember each piece and memories of her wearing them. I'm very sentimental though just like my mother and my daughter is as well. She's almost 4 years old and started to pick up an interest in jewelry a year ago when she saw me playing with my Jewelry box. She has her own tiny collection of sterling silver rings.
I plan to have more children and hope to have more girls as well, and will write down which pieces they enjoy the most and those will be given to them when I pass.
Sadly in this life, time isn't guaranteed; we can all leave this Earth tomorrow.
I don't worry too much about my collection, I suppose I would if I never enjoyed or wore my rings out, but sentimentality runs in the family, especially with us women.
I also get a feeling of ease when I imagine my pieces being enjoyed by strangers if somewhere down the line my lineage decides to sell my collection.
Also Im not trying to hijack this thread but I have a question for you ladies, should the daughter have priority over the daughter in-law when it comes to the mother's jewelry? Let's say the daughter is very into jewelry, should she be able to keep what she wants or is it rude not to consider the daughter in-law even though she has her own mother? I've always wondered about this and what would be the right thing to do to please everyone.
It's very interesting to read everyone's replies (:
I want my girls and any future granddaughters to have most of the jewelry. Maybe a special piece for a future DIL, but the bulk and best is reserved for my girls. I know, I know... I am awful, lol!
Here she is Alex T. The light isn't cooperating today and she is really looking washed out in the picture. The stone is a really glowy hot pink tourmaline.@MelMc This is a really sad story. But I'm really REALLY glad you are rocking that baby on your Great Aunt's behalf. Good for you - she would be pleased to see it enjoying itself instead of lingering in a dark box. Can we see a picture?
Icy Jade, what a thought provoking post. Same thing as I go thrifting. I think, ah, the china, waterford and silver that hogs up my pantry and I rarely use will probably be here since neither of my children shows interest in that stuff same for old clothing, suits, shoes, tchotckes. On the other hand, when someone finds it and buys it, they're so pleased to have a beautiful widget at a good price. So, the gift of beauty and utility continues.
Mrs B, you may want to do something else with your rings before you and DH are cremated; i think the funeral contracts include their claim on recovery of things like metal valves, plates, pins and tooth fillings (yup, I have two gold ones).
Doberman I think I will try and give some of my jewelry to nieces if they want it so I can see their enjoyment.
Lisa RN I'm sending puppy dog kisses your way because my wheatie does that for me when I'm sad and it makes me feel so much better.
I hope that whoever gets mine will love them as much as I did and take good care of them and keep them clean.
Here she is Alex T. The light isn't cooperating today and she is really looking washed out in the picture. The stone is a really glowy hot pink tourmaline.
Mrs B, you may want to do something else with your rings before you and DH are cremated; i think the funeral contracts include their claim on recovery of things like metal valves, plates, pins and tooth fillings (yup, I have two gold ones).
There's no sense in putting rings through a crematorium process, so no, I didn't mean that. They would be plopped into our urns with our ashes. And then they'll sit interminably on someone's mantelpiece.
YES. For me. I’m fine with giving all my jewelry to my daughter and/or granddaughters. I’m not a person that you considers a DIL a daughter. I also don’t expect that of my MIL either.I actually think of this subject fairly often. I'm 25 and have coveted my mother's beautiful collection of gold and platinum jewelry since I was around 12 years old.
I remember each piece and memories of her wearing them. I'm very sentimental though just like my mother and my daughter is as well. She's almost 4 years old and started to pick up an interest in jewelry a year ago when she saw me playing with my Jewelry box. She has her own tiny collection of sterling silver rings.
I plan to have more children and hope to have more girls as well, and will write down which pieces they enjoy the most and those will be given to them when I pass.
Sadly in this life, time isn't guaranteed; we can all leave this Earth tomorrow.
I don't worry too much about my collection, I suppose I would if I never enjoyed or wore my rings out, but sentimentality runs in the family, especially with us women.
I also get a feeling of ease when I imagine my pieces being enjoyed by strangers if somewhere down the line my lineage decides to sell my collection.
Also Im not trying to hijack this thread but I have a question for you ladies, should the daughter have priority over the daughter in-law when it comes to the mother's jewelry? Let's say the daughter is very into jewelry, should she be able to keep what she wants or is it rude not to consider the daughter in-law even though she has her own mother? I've always wondered about this and what would be the right thing to do to please everyone.
It's very interesting to read everyone's replies (:
I actually think of this subject fairly often. I'm 25 and have coveted my mother's beautiful collection of gold and platinum jewelry since I was around 12 years old.
I remember each piece and memories of her wearing them. I'm very sentimental though just like my mother and my daughter is as well. She's almost 4 years old and started to pick up an interest in jewelry a year ago when she saw me playing with my Jewelry box. She has her own tiny collection of sterling silver rings.
I plan to have more children and hope to have more girls as well, and will write down which pieces they enjoy the most and those will be given to them when I pass.
Sadly in this life, time isn't guaranteed; we can all leave this Earth tomorrow.
I don't worry too much about my collection, I suppose I would if I never enjoyed or wore my rings out, but sentimentality runs in the family, especially with us women.
I also get a feeling of ease when I imagine my pieces being enjoyed by strangers if somewhere down the line my lineage decides to sell my collection.
Also Im not trying to hijack this thread but I have a question for you ladies, should the daughter have priority over the daughter in-law when it comes to the mother's jewelry? Let's say the daughter is very into jewelry, should she be able to keep what she wants or is it rude not to consider the daughter in-law even though she has her own mother? I've always wondered about this and what would be the right thing to do to please everyone.
It's very interesting to read everyone's replies (:
Only recently I started thinking about this, before that I was only thinking about what I want and like in the moment. But getting older and having children made me think about what I might be leaving behind, and having had no significant pieces handed down to me from my mom or grandma, it made me want nicer things I can hand down to my kids and grand kids. So now I go for things with better value, I'd rather have fewer nicer pieces than tons of inexpensive things that will not last beyond my life time.I’ve realised recently that part of my drive to buy really “good” pieces (modest by PS standards!) of jewellery instead of many smaller more “fun” and inexpensive items is because I feel like the nicer items might survive long enough, if I’m lucky, for my future great grandchildren to appreciate having somthing of value, beauty and quality and wonder about me and my life.
Daughter vs DIL question...
I think it all depends. Daughter, step daughter, ex-step daughter, DIL, etc etc etc. Same with nieces/cousins/etc who are blood relationship vs married in etc.
An example close to home:
My step father just lost his mother. He has two brothers, two sisters, a SIL, and a BIL. All retired with no kids at home and all living in the area. They seldom (like maybe monthly) visited as she was dying. Now that she is gone, they are focused on what they can sell and how much it is worth. Furniture and things that have been in the family for generations are being tagged for sale.
My mother (one of the DIL, been in the family for 25+ years) and step father both work. Between the two of them, they cared for her 24x7 (with about 4 hours of nurse on weekdays) for the last years of her life and did the same for his dad. She has a few pieces that she loves because of the memories and would enjoy using regularly. But she is "just" a DIL. The siblings have agreed (except my step father) that it is more important to sell so she can't have. (They won't even let her buy as they can "get a better price"). These are not people in need of money. They are all very well off. They just really don't care about "stuff" so want the money.
Personally, I would rather my pieces go to someone who will treasure them (and wear) rather than to people I seldom saw who just want money.