Guys: do you like the ring more than she does?

[Upside Down Man]

Hey everyone,

I recently got engaged to my long term girlfriend. The thing is, I'm noticing that I'm much more in love with the ring than she is.

It's not a factor of my getting a ring or setting that she didn't like - I got her exactly what she wanted: a round brilliant solitaire set in platinum. And she loves the ring, don't get me wrong. What I mean is, since I went through all that time, effort, research and expense to get that diamond and have it set in the mounting, I'd sort of grown attached to it these past couple weeks. I just want to sit and stare at it all sparkly and whatnot and appreciate it as the final product of my hard work. I look at it like it's my little baby.

Is this common? Does this happen to a lot of guys? Does it go away?

Thanks!

UDM

 

[jrob529]

I have a feeling once I give my E-ring to my girlfriend, I''ll feel the same way. There was a lot of time and effort involved in getting it. I''ll let you know I feel after everything happens. Of course, I''m assuming she says "Yes".

 

[kcoursolle]

I''m not a man, but I thought I would post anyways.

I think it''s really sweet that you worked hard to pick out something special for her and feel an attachment to it. I think it''s natural to feel an attachment to a gift you give to someone. I always tell myself that I know I got a good gift for someone when I want to keep it for myself! Also, some women are not super into jewelry and some men are. If you are one of these men, maybe you should get a little bling for yourself in your wedding band

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[poptart]

Haha... my DH does the exact same thing. I love my ring, but he kind of "overly" loves it... considering it's mine! He stares at it aaaalll the time when I wear it, even though I've had it for over a year. I think that's normal because you guys put so much work, research, and hours into finding the perfect diamond and setting that you get attached to it. Plus, it sparkles and is shiny! It just warrants staring!!

Marisa

ETA: Just to show the craziness of the dedication he has, here's a little story. When he got my ring it got stolen and pawned the day that he was going to give it to me. Instead of just admitting defeat and filing a claim with the insurance company so he could get the money back, he called the police because he had a feeling about who did it, and then proceeded to go to every single pawn shop in the city. It took him three days, but he found the ring. So he is REALLY attached to it. He went through a lot to get it back!

 

[lizz]

I'm not a guy, but I thought I'd chime in here. Some women don't really "get" diamonds. They would be the opposite of a lot of the women here, who tend to want all the particulars of a diamond and stare at them all day. To some, a diamond is a diamond is a diamond. They don't care about the 4C's. They may not even know the exact carat weight of their stone!

The reason I come on this forum is because no one in my life understands about my obsession with diamonds--not my husband, my sister, or my friends. They don't get why I am into them. So I don't have anyone to share that love with, besides the people here. Your GF, while I am sure she loves her ring, may just not be into all the particulars like you are.

 

[Kaleigh]

I''m not a guy either. But wanted to say, I love to see guys come here, research the stones, the settings etc... Many times they really get hooked on diamonds, and come away with a true appreciation for their beauty. Some women just aren''t into diamonds and jewelry. I''m sure they love their rings and all the effort you put forth in selecting their stones. But just aren''t as into them as you are. I have friends that are like this and it cracks me up. Because I think I love their rings more than they do. But I''m a nut when it comes to diamonds, that''s why I''m here, LOL!!!

 

[diamondseeker2006]

Date: 10/25/2006 4:40:06 PM
Author: Kaleigh
I''m not a guy either. But wanted to say, I love to see guys come here, research the stones, the settings etc... Many times they really get hooked on diamonds, and come away with a true appreciation for their beauty. Some women just aren''t into diamonds and jewelry. I''m sure they love their rings and all the effort you put forth in selecting their stones. But just aren''t as into them as you are. I have friends that are like this and it cracks me up. Because I think I love their rings more than they do. But I''m a nut when it comes to diamonds, that''s why I''m here, LOL!!!

Yes, to all she said! I think you guys are great!

 

[CaptAubrey]

Date: 10/25/2006 4:01:38 PM
Author:Upside Down Man

Is this common? Does this happen to a lot of guys? Does it go away?

Yes, maybe, and no.

You''ve been assimilated--there is no escape.

 

[angeline]

Ha! I think that is so funny and cute. I only wish my dh felt that way!!! Sometimes too I think the analysis that goes on here at PS also interests some men. I know it interests me!

ps I''m not a man

a

 

[path914]

I am definitely attached to my fiancee''s ring at least as much as she is. I spent around 6 months designing the ring, picking the stones and making the ring, so when I see it I see all the work that went into it. The fact that it is very unique and has a bright red centerstone also attracts my attention more than the typical engagement ring like the hundreds that I see on a daily basis.



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Paul
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www.dercodiamonds.com

 

[Diamond*Dana]

When my hubby and I first got engaged, he would admire my ering quite a bit...after almost 10 years of marriage, he doesn''t do it anymore.

 

[ff]

I know EXACTLY what you mean!!!!

It has been a very long journey learning everything and then piece by piece picking the separate stones and setting. I''d hate to know how many in total I''ve looked at as I know it would be a very scary number even by PS standards.

As of this afternoon, I finally picked the final pieces which are the side stone sapphires!!

One of the things I am doing, and would possibly recommend to others putting it all together, is take photos of things as you are going along. I''ve done tons of photos of the center diamond and tomorrow (when my lovely better half is at work) will take tons of photos of the side sapphires. I think these pieces are just beautiful in their own right and once put into the setting, might be hard for your other half to appreciate them for their individuality. I know she''ll love to see photos of what her diamond (and sapphires) actually look like from the different angles as well as seeing the cool heart photos that you just can''t see once the diamond is set. Plus... once you give her the ring, you can fall back on the photos if you are feeling serious withdrawl from your baby. ha ha ha

I will admit though that I never thought I would get this addicted when the search began.

 

[KimberlyH]

My husband is attached to my ring because of it''s symbolism, but he does not quite grasp my love of diamonds in general. My knowledge is so very narrow, but my admiration of all things sparkly is huge and he does feed my passion by doing things such as this: on our last vacation he made sure the diamond district was on our list of places to visit. He would be offended if I wanted to upgrade, I think, but he recently mentioned that he might understand my desire to do so in about 20 years. We selected my center stone together, so there is a lot of meaning behind it and he''s agreed to feed my love in other ways, a future including diamond studs, a pendant, etc.

 

[reader]

Mine second e-ring I totally picked, and yes, he plays with my hand in different lights. He enjoys the sparkle and how it reacts in diffferent lights...its neat to see that we both enjoy something that lives on my hand.

 

[MacClure]

upside down man (i like that name...lol).....awesome topic! right up my alley...

are your feelings common...considering all the personal time you took hunting for the perfect diamond? heck yeah!!

does this infatuation with the product of your hard work happen to alot of guys? on behalf of the few guys who actually take all the time researchin'' and huntin'' for that perfect gem for his perfect gal...heck yeah!!

does this feeling of admiration go away? well, uh, you see.....uh.....well...... lol.....

like anything ''new''....as time goes on, the intensity may wear off...but, difference here is that whenever you look at it, you''ll never forget all you put into it...

everyone''s responses here i couldn''t agree with more....here''s an analogy that may fit your situation:

you decide to buy your gal a new car....however, she wants one that''s red, has plenty of power and quick acceleration (my kinda gal, by the way) ...so, insteada you goin'' down and financin'' the first red ''sports car'' you see....(any guy can do that with little effort or thought) ....you do your research and find not only a red car, but, it''s got the rare 427ci/435hp...w/ the tri-carb setup...fuelie racing heads...and, to transfer all that power (hey, she wanted ''plenty of power'' right?) to the rear wheels, it''s even equipped with the muncie close-ratio 4spd transmission....and....a dana rear-end with posi-traction to both wheels''ll leave behind plenty o'' rubber when she punches it!!! so...........when you bring it home...you guys take it for a spin...as she requested, it''s red...and snaps her head back when she presses the pedal to the floor board...oh, she''s excited alright, you ''got her exactly what she wanted''....a red car that has plenty of power and quick acceleration. however, you''re doubly excited at your new rare purchase and as you explain to her all the features this ''baby'' has, she comments with ''this car is so fast. i just love it.'' ....''but babe'', you reply, ''it''s got a 427, muncie tranny and posi in the rear!!! oh, and, did i tell ya about the hooker headers?!!!!'' her reply...''i just love how red this car is...and, boy, it sure is fast''..........LOL....anyhow...come time to go to bed at night, you''re layin'' in bed and can''t take your mind off that car in the garage...she''s fast asleep. you get up and sneak out the garage to pop open the hood and admire ''your'' car.....

upside down man....your purchase is your reward also...you done good! you ain''t alone man, there''s two of us out there...

(*note*...it''s been over 16 years since i bought my 1968 corvette convertible. does it still give me goose bumps when i look at it like when i first purchased it? no.....but do i respect the originality of it? oh yeah...and, actually, on rare occasion when i start it up, drop the top, and ''punch'' it down the block...i do get goose bumps!)

ron....

 

[ladykemma]

i met a man who wore a >1 carat in a signet pinky ring bezel set. very manly, and it stopped me dead in my tracks. strong blue fluorescence too.

he was a pricescoper at heart-- he worked at ben bridge in the houston galleria. he didn''t know about pricescope.

 

[Cehrabehra]

Date: 10/27/2006 4:17:51 PM
Author: TierHog

(*note*...it''s been over 16 years since i bought my 1968 corvette convertible. does it still give me goose bumps when i look at it like when i first purchased it? no.....but do i respect the originality of it? oh yeah...and, actually, on rare occasion when i start it up, drop the top, and ''punch'' it down the block...i do get goose bumps!)

ron....

LOL! That sounds just like marriage!! The first few years it''s all about the goosebumps... after 15 years you still get goosebumps, just not as frequently lol!!!

 

[diamondseeker2006]

Oh Ron (tierhog), that was priceless!

 

[mtrb]

I totally get you on this one. I went though the same thing. It took me months to make a final decision and a lot of research on this site and others. Funny, I learned so much I took a position as a corporate trainer and my interview presentation was on finding a quality diamond..
My point is when you feel so passionate about something and you know you are going to do the best you can using all of this knowledge you become proud of your purchase. The ring was your project and you want her to love it as much as you did. I definetly became attached to her ring and the subject for that matter.

Do you own your own loupe yet? I do, and I have helped out several of my friends who have gotten married over the last 3 years.

 

[Lorelei]

Hey T- Hog - nice to see you back!

UDM - I think it is great you love your diamond so much, after all, it''s beauty IS the fruit of your labour, and it is nice to hear of another guy enjoying some blingage too!