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As many of you may know i have had some issues with my soon to be sil... well yesterday, things got a whole lot worse
sorry for the long post, ill try and bold the important parts
Bachelorette party time. I want something simple, dinner and a bit of a bar crawl. I wanted it to be around Halloween as i always wanted to go out dressed up. Well I hadnt created the event or invited anyone yet, but it was tentatively decided for the weekend before Halloween, as any other day doesnt really work for my schedule. Also, its weird to go out dressed up any other weekend
So.... I get a text from her saying "when will your bachelorette party be?" So I told her. she says "Oh does your sister need anyone to help her plan it?" I told her to ask my sister, as i had nothing to do with the planning.
I get a text from my sister shortly after saying "I get one text from [her] and i already want to smack her i dont know how you do it..."
so i was of course curious as to what she said. Well apparently she asked if we could have it on a SUNDAY because SHE had a different party she would rather go to that day. (WHO HAS A BACHELORETTE PARTY ON A SUNDAY!!
Its a Halloween party her friend throws every year. This would be the 7th years shes done it. I assumed (silly me ) that it wasnt a big deal to maybe miss it, or some of it, for my ONE bachelorette party EVER. Plus, it really was the only day that worked for me, so i threw it that day anyways. now keep in mind an invitation hasnt even gone out for this other party, its just assumed its that day.
We send the invite out on Facie'b and as soon as i do I get a message from her saying "you know thats the same day as [friend]'s party"
I said yeah, you can go to whatever one you wanna go to of course. And her response was 'thats not fair"... WHAT ISNT FAIR? Me having MY party the day I want it?! So I asked her that essentially, but with less emphases and 'tude as i was only slightly annoyed at this point.
Well i get back "clearly you dont want me their and clearly you dont seem to want me in your wedding "
WHAT?!
Im not the one making her miss my ONE bachelorette party because she would rather go to a kegger. This party is not for her, and its one of a dozen her friend has every year! there is NO reason she couldnt come to mine other than the fact she would rather go to the other thing!
So I said basically that you know, im not making you choose her party over mine....
Well i get "ill go to the dinner before then thats it im done!"
Well essentially I told her she was being silly and that sent her over the edge i guess.. saying I was the rudest person she knows blah blah blah.....
Well of course now im
Itold my FI about it and he was too. He called her up to be like WTF Because she has put up a stink about the dresses, the shoes, and now this ... here are some of the things she said
"Im not just going to agree with everything she wants me to do for the wedding, thats not my style. Im not a 'just go with the flow' person".. YOU SHOULD BE!! I expect a bridesmaid to be supportive of what i want her to wear for a wedding and not tell me how much she hates everything im doing. I think every bride expects that.
"You know this day isnt the biggest day of my year!" - no, no its not. Its the biggest day of OUR year. So sense you clearly dont care about it, why not just go with the flow, as clearly i DO care about it!
"you are being selfish!"
HOW AM I SELFISH ?! i want MY party to be on MY schedule! Not yours because you wanna hang out at your friends that night. I am being selfish because I want my bridal party to look the part I imagine for MY wedding? You arent selfish for feeling like YOU should be able to wear whatever YOU want in someone ELSES wedding?
I want to kick her out soooooooooo bad
sorry for the long post, ill try and bold the important parts
Bachelorette party time. I want something simple, dinner and a bit of a bar crawl. I wanted it to be around Halloween as i always wanted to go out dressed up. Well I hadnt created the event or invited anyone yet, but it was tentatively decided for the weekend before Halloween, as any other day doesnt really work for my schedule. Also, its weird to go out dressed up any other weekend
So.... I get a text from her saying "when will your bachelorette party be?" So I told her. she says "Oh does your sister need anyone to help her plan it?" I told her to ask my sister, as i had nothing to do with the planning.
I get a text from my sister shortly after saying "I get one text from [her] and i already want to smack her i dont know how you do it..."
so i was of course curious as to what she said. Well apparently she asked if we could have it on a SUNDAY because SHE had a different party she would rather go to that day. (WHO HAS A BACHELORETTE PARTY ON A SUNDAY!!
Its a Halloween party her friend throws every year. This would be the 7th years shes done it. I assumed (silly me ) that it wasnt a big deal to maybe miss it, or some of it, for my ONE bachelorette party EVER. Plus, it really was the only day that worked for me, so i threw it that day anyways. now keep in mind an invitation hasnt even gone out for this other party, its just assumed its that day.
We send the invite out on Facie'b and as soon as i do I get a message from her saying "you know thats the same day as [friend]'s party"
I said yeah, you can go to whatever one you wanna go to of course. And her response was 'thats not fair"... WHAT ISNT FAIR? Me having MY party the day I want it?! So I asked her that essentially, but with less emphases and 'tude as i was only slightly annoyed at this point.
Well i get back "clearly you dont want me their and clearly you dont seem to want me in your wedding "
WHAT?!
Im not the one making her miss my ONE bachelorette party because she would rather go to a kegger. This party is not for her, and its one of a dozen her friend has every year! there is NO reason she couldnt come to mine other than the fact she would rather go to the other thing!
So I said basically that you know, im not making you choose her party over mine....
Well i get "ill go to the dinner before then thats it im done!"
Well essentially I told her she was being silly and that sent her over the edge i guess.. saying I was the rudest person she knows blah blah blah.....
Well of course now im
Itold my FI about it and he was too. He called her up to be like WTF Because she has put up a stink about the dresses, the shoes, and now this ... here are some of the things she said
"Im not just going to agree with everything she wants me to do for the wedding, thats not my style. Im not a 'just go with the flow' person".. YOU SHOULD BE!! I expect a bridesmaid to be supportive of what i want her to wear for a wedding and not tell me how much she hates everything im doing. I think every bride expects that.
"You know this day isnt the biggest day of my year!" - no, no its not. Its the biggest day of OUR year. So sense you clearly dont care about it, why not just go with the flow, as clearly i DO care about it!
"you are being selfish!"
HOW AM I SELFISH ?! i want MY party to be on MY schedule! Not yours because you wanna hang out at your friends that night. I am being selfish because I want my bridal party to look the part I imagine for MY wedding? You arent selfish for feeling like YOU should be able to wear whatever YOU want in someone ELSES wedding?
I want to kick her out soooooooooo bad