exoticisabella
Shiny_Rock
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- Sep 21, 2009
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So, I guess this is kind of a "if you were me" type of question. I've talked to everybody I know about this and finally find the right psychologist for me and I'm just so scared that my friends and family are so sick of listening to me complain about my marriage that they won't want to hear it again. LOOOONNNNGGG story short....
-hubby and I married at 19 (me) and 23 (him)
-my mom was emotionally abusive and I grew up way too fast
-his parents think he's the next best thing since sliced bread, treat him as so and have enough money to swim around in
-he plays his computer games all the time, ignores me, and would snap at me/put me down
-me in an effort to win him over did EVERYTHING for him and finally had a mental break down leading to panic attacks
-him - stood by me for a couple months then didn't want to deal with it and told me to "get over it"
-me - 8 months later "got over it" thanks to amazing family and friends
-had a huge fight and he shaped up - for a while - but he's slipping back
-I always thought (after marriage) that he's selfish, mean and would never be able to give me the love, respect and kindness that I deserve
-he thinks that marriage is "forever" no matter what
-pyschologist said to me on Wednesday, "I think you need to consider that your husband may be downright selfish. That this is not a matter of immaturity but a matter of personality. He may never grow up."
-which brings about another point. Six months ago I was in a car accident that destroyed my car. Hysterical and not knowing what to do I called my hubby crying and not being able to breath (from being too scared). What does he say - well after a few "calm downs" he askes "so do I need to pick you up?". NOT where are you I'll be right there. Or what hospital are you going to (if any).......
Anyway, so we get to tonight.....
He's playing wii and I was hanging out on the couch. He was being nice and talking with me a bit but then when I said something to him he snapped and mocked me! I asked what the issue was because I didn't do anything. Few minutes later he asked for my help on the game (since I've played it) then snaps and mocks me again! I tell him to knock it off and ask what's the issue? He says that because I was in a bad mood this morning (hello, pms, I try to keep to myself for a couple days) that he's walking on eggshells (which btw we went a whole 8 hours with no issues between this morning and now
). Couple minutes later he askes for my help again and AGAIN
mocks me for my answer...W
T
F
! So here I am hiding in the bathtub with my laptop afraid to call anybody as they hear this way too much and really having nowhere to go as my family lives 6 hours away. I would reallly love thoughts, advice, opionions ANYTHING. I have one foot in the door and one foot out the door and so scared to go either way
btw...married for 4 years, I'm now 23 he's almost 27 and one of the biggest things keeping me here right now is money. I did get a promotion and begin that in one week
-hubby and I married at 19 (me) and 23 (him)
-my mom was emotionally abusive and I grew up way too fast
-his parents think he's the next best thing since sliced bread, treat him as so and have enough money to swim around in
-he plays his computer games all the time, ignores me, and would snap at me/put me down
-me in an effort to win him over did EVERYTHING for him and finally had a mental break down leading to panic attacks
-him - stood by me for a couple months then didn't want to deal with it and told me to "get over it"
-me - 8 months later "got over it" thanks to amazing family and friends
-had a huge fight and he shaped up - for a while - but he's slipping back
-I always thought (after marriage) that he's selfish, mean and would never be able to give me the love, respect and kindness that I deserve
-he thinks that marriage is "forever" no matter what
-pyschologist said to me on Wednesday, "I think you need to consider that your husband may be downright selfish. That this is not a matter of immaturity but a matter of personality. He may never grow up."
-which brings about another point. Six months ago I was in a car accident that destroyed my car. Hysterical and not knowing what to do I called my hubby crying and not being able to breath (from being too scared). What does he say - well after a few "calm downs" he askes "so do I need to pick you up?". NOT where are you I'll be right there. Or what hospital are you going to (if any).......
Anyway, so we get to tonight.....
He's playing wii and I was hanging out on the couch. He was being nice and talking with me a bit but then when I said something to him he snapped and mocked me! I asked what the issue was because I didn't do anything. Few minutes later he asked for my help on the game (since I've played it) then snaps and mocks me again! I tell him to knock it off and ask what's the issue? He says that because I was in a bad mood this morning (hello, pms, I try to keep to myself for a couple days) that he's walking on eggshells (which btw we went a whole 8 hours with no issues between this morning and now
btw...married for 4 years, I'm now 23 he's almost 27 and one of the biggest things keeping me here right now is money. I did get a promotion and begin that in one week