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Well, as someone who did have a large, "expensive" wedding...I couldn''t disagree with you more...Date: 2/25/2009 8:35:57 AM
Author: HollyS
My wish is not to offend anyone who had a more expensive ''I do'' than myself, but no, I don''t believe in huge, expensive weddings with all the ''trends''.
1) No one has 200+ close friends.So don''t invite to show off, or to repay a social debt. You should want your nearest and dearest -- not everyone you might have known for a minute.
2) Wedding planners and vendors have started and perpetuated the ''trends'' to get you to spend ridiculous sums of money.Just say no.
3) A wedding is about the commitment, and the sacrifice, and sacrament of the vows - whether you are religious or not -- the party should be secondary. It isn''t about how much you can impress or awe your guests. If your guests feel they are part of something special and intimate, they will be much happier than if you threw them in a big room with a lot of noise, some so-so food, and never said more than two words to them.
look at it this way... the avg chinese style dinner wedding is cheaper than a American style dinner.Date: 2/25/2009 10:07:29 AM
Author: purrfectpear
Not if my son marries a Chinese woman (now that you've explained the Groom's family pays)
Otherwise, I don't really care. The grooms's side gets off pretty easy.
Date: 2/25/2009 12:22:03 PM
Author: Dancing Fire
my niece spent something like 15k just for the dinner banquet and her marriage only lasted 9 months. what a big waste of money!!
Ditto!Date: 2/25/2009 5:10:42 AM
Author: Deelight
When I do have kids one day down the track I want them to do whatever makes them happy
2nd to what NF said. My boys can do whatever they want, but my husband and I won''t shell out tens of thousands, per kid, for a one-day event.Date: 2/25/2009 10:10:56 AM
Author: neatfreak
I want my kids to do whatever will make them happy. But we won''t be footing the bill for a big insane wedding that is for sure!
Nice! That is awesome!!! lol DH and I eloped in Vegas, too, but we didn''t get $50KDate: 2/25/2009 12:43:35 PM
Author: elle_chris
My parents gave me an option. 50K, do what you want with it (I''m russian and russian weddings are expensive).
We winded up getting married in Vegas without any family or friends and it was perfect for us. Plus, I got the cash
edited to add: I''d give my kids the same choice.
Date: 2/25/2009 10:10:56 AM
Author: neatfreak
I want my kids to do whatever will make them happy. But we won''t be footing the bill for a big insane wedding that is for sure!
I''m an only child MC so was a little spoiled growing up. That gift was the last thing they''ve given me..lolDate: 2/25/2009 12:53:04 PM
Author: MC
Nice! That is awesome!!! lol DH and I eloped in Vegas, too, but we didn''t get $50K
Which hotel did you stay out for your honeymoon? We stayed at the Luxor (it was brand new at that time! now it already looks outdated - ahhh, that makes me feel old!)
Date: 2/25/2009 10:08:10 AM
Author: Italiahaircolor
Well, as someone who did have a large, ''expensive'' wedding...I couldn''t disagree with you more...Date: 2/25/2009 8:35:57 AM
Author: HollyS
My wish is not to offend anyone who had a more expensive ''I do'' than myself, but no, I don''t believe in huge, expensive weddings with all the ''trends''.
1) No one has 200+ close friends.So don''t invite to show off, or to repay a social debt. You should want your nearest and dearest -- not everyone you might have known for a minute.
2) Wedding planners and vendors have started and perpetuated the ''trends'' to get you to spend ridiculous sums of money.Just say no.
3) A wedding is about the commitment, and the sacrifice, and sacrament of the vows - whether you are religious or not -- the party should be secondary. It isn''t about how much you can impress or awe your guests. If your guests feel they are part of something special and intimate, they will be much happier than if you threw them in a big room with a lot of noise, some so-so food, and never said more than two words to them.
Weddings come in all shapes and sizes...price or cost doesn''t make one more or less valuable than another. Intimate weddings are wonderful, but that doesn''t mean a big, lavish affair is gaudy or tacky. They can both be equally amazing for different reasons.
And yes, there are trends in weddings. Similar to how there are trends in fashion, or jewelry, or interior design. People value different things based on the what they see in the world around them. Candy bars or popcorn bars were never even thought of 10 years ago...but, now as brides see that guests enjoy them, they become more common place and popular. Similar to an Engagement Party...many, many couples now have one...but as recently as 5 years ago people were stupified when they received an invite to one.
A wedding is first and foremost about the commitment of two people deeply in love, no one can dispute that. And many couples decide to celebrate that in a big way with a big party...they are excited to be married and they want to share the joy. Some couples lean more towards a private celebrations, but others want to swing for the rafters. Most people don''t have 200+ close family and friends...but when you consider the four dynamics of a wedding (bride, groom, parents of the bride, parents of groom) guest lists can grow rapidly and before you know it you can be well over 100 people plus their guests.
People will choose to celebrate their nuptuals in the way that suites them best...similar to many other things life, there is no such thing as right or wrong when it comes to planning the big day. It should simply fit you and him as a couple.
yup!!Date: 2/25/2009 1:08:05 PM
Author: HollyS
I was making the point that I would not encourage a daughter to have a huge wedding. The original question was about wanting your kid to have an expensive bash. My personal opinion was no. Actually I would rather help them establish a household or put a downpayment on a home.
You''re free to have your own personal opinion, and have the wedding you feel is appropriate.
Well, it wasn''t a stretch to imagine that you would see eye-to-eye with me!Date: 2/25/2009 1:30:59 PM
Author: Dancing Fire
yup!!Date: 2/25/2009 1:08:05 PM
Author: HollyS
I was making the point that I would not encourage a daughter to have a huge wedding. The original question was about wanting your kid to have an expensive bash. My personal opinion was no. Actually I would rather help them establish a household or put a downpayment on a home.
You''re free to have your own personal opinion, and have the wedding you feel is appropriate.