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I put a huge amount of pressure on myself to give my children a perfect holiday. I never hit that mark. I don’t even know what a perfect holiday IS. I’ve never had one!! So, I run myself into the ground buying all kinds of gifts, decorating the house, planning meals and not drinking half as much as I should, when all I really want to do is throw a big Christmas party and enjoy the people in my life.
I might figure this out one day, but it isn’t going to happen this year!
The holidays are a hard time of year for me. I grew up in a divorced family and felt guilty about not being in both places at one time. As we got older, our sibling relationships are not very good. I miss some of the old folks, who were the reason we gathered, and now it’s just my husband and me and our cats. I talk to a lot of people who are keeping it low key, so there’s no need to be all Norman Rockwell if that’s not my family.
I think of the holidays more as something to be survived with as little crying as possible, rather than something to celebrate. It’s a reminder of loss, in a lot of ways. Even so, we go around other people and try to spread good cheer, and then come home and are exhausted. I try to remember the theological meaning of the season is “hope and light come into the world.” That is the real meaning, not the commercialism and too much rich food and festivity that you might not be in the mood for.
Wishing everybody peace and health! Take it easy on yourselves.![]()
I just have to ask, is wishing someone a happy Thanksgiving either by phone or text not the norm anymore?
My DH heard from absolutely nobody in his family (not even his mother) but three of his friends sent a text and a bunch of employees (he is the boss). I joked that he was doing better than me, I didn't get any communication at all. My SIL said she didn't hear from anyone either. I reached out to a few people at the end of the day.
I just have to ask, is wishing someone a happy Thanksgiving either by phone or text not the norm anymore?
My DH heard from absolutely nobody in his family (not even his mother) but three of his friends sent a text and a bunch of employees (he is the boss). I joked that he was doing better than me, I didn't get any communication at all. My SIL said she didn't hear from anyone either. I reached out to a few people at the end of the day.
... I think of the holidays more as something to be survived with as little crying as possible, rather than something to celebrate.