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Ideal_Rock
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BF and I had a big talk about kids last night. It turns out that he''s realized that he wants kids, which wasn''t completely unexpected, but still a bit of a shock.
I am on the fence. If I have kids, I figure I''ll be ready in about 10 years (early 30s). Maybe before that, who knows. But over the past few years I''ve realized I would be very happy not having kids. I like kids, they''re fun, but I also like giving them back.
But he wants them. And I''m on the fence. And (like the researcher I am) I''d love to hear opinions about what it''s like to be a mom. It is something I wanted for a long time, but after some rather discouraging news a few years ago (that, in all likelihood, I can''t have them) I ended up hopping on the no-babies train. Kids are something I can possibly see myself wanting, but I don''t really know any mothers to hear either way what it''s actually like, and whether it''s worth it.
I feel very strongly that parents should WANT to be parents, and that nobody should feel forced into (or out of) parenthood because of somebody else''s desires. I''ve got a while to figure this out, but I don''t want to keep BF from finding somebody who shares his goals if I find out I really, truly don''t want them.
So would all of you moms out there be willing to give me your opinions? Good, bad, anything. I just need to hear from moms what it''s like. (I plan on checking out the PS Mommies thread and everything, but wanted to gather opinions here, too.)
(Sorry, I know this is pretty convoluted.)
I am on the fence. If I have kids, I figure I''ll be ready in about 10 years (early 30s). Maybe before that, who knows. But over the past few years I''ve realized I would be very happy not having kids. I like kids, they''re fun, but I also like giving them back.
But he wants them. And I''m on the fence. And (like the researcher I am) I''d love to hear opinions about what it''s like to be a mom. It is something I wanted for a long time, but after some rather discouraging news a few years ago (that, in all likelihood, I can''t have them) I ended up hopping on the no-babies train. Kids are something I can possibly see myself wanting, but I don''t really know any mothers to hear either way what it''s actually like, and whether it''s worth it.
I feel very strongly that parents should WANT to be parents, and that nobody should feel forced into (or out of) parenthood because of somebody else''s desires. I''ve got a while to figure this out, but I don''t want to keep BF from finding somebody who shares his goals if I find out I really, truly don''t want them.
So would all of you moms out there be willing to give me your opinions? Good, bad, anything. I just need to hear from moms what it''s like. (I plan on checking out the PS Mommies thread and everything, but wanted to gather opinions here, too.)
(Sorry, I know this is pretty convoluted.)