Do you comment when someone loses weight?

[hisdiamondgirl]

Date: 12/15/2009 4:45:23 PM
Author: fiery

Date: 12/15/2009 4:38:36 PM
Author: Bia
I wouldn't necessarily mind if someone noticed I lost weight (Im currently - well still

- trying to drop 15lbs) but I do mind when people say, 'You look tired.'

Just tell me I look like hell, because that's basically what you're saying

Had this exact conversation with someone today. He passed by and said hello followed by 'you look tired.'

I said thank you.

He said 'is bored a better term?'

I said 'I understand why you are still single.'

Good come back!

My family members have a knack for commenting on any little weight that my sister or I may gain. They don't say it politely or like they're concerned. It's more like "Wow, you're getting faaaat!"

ETA: Said in Spanish, with an emphasis on the R of GORRRRRRDA (fat!).

ETAA: To answer the original question. I usually don't comment unless I know the person pretty well. Although, if I don't really know someone well and they really do look great, I will tell them just that, that they look great (although I probably wouldn't mention any weight loss).

 

[Erin]

Date: 12/15/2009 3:49:46 PM
Author: MC
No. By doing so, it implies you noticed they before carried extra weight.

This is how I take it and guys think my mind is so twisted.

 

[Bia]

Date: 12/15/2009 4:48:19 PM
Author: hisdiamondgirl

Date: 12/15/2009 4:45:23 PM
Author: fiery

Date: 12/15/2009 4:38:36 PM
Author: Bia
I wouldn''t necessarily mind if someone noticed I lost weight (Im currently - well still

- trying to drop 15lbs) but I do mind when people say, ''You look tired.''

Just tell me I look like hell, because that''s basically what you''re saying

Had this exact conversation with someone today. He passed by and said hello followed by ''you look tired.''

I said thank you.

He said ''is bored a better term?''

I said ''I understand why you are still single.''

Good come back!

My family members have a knack for commenting on any little weight that my sister or I may gain. They don''t say it politely or like they''re concerned. It''s more like ''Wow, you''re getting faaaat!''

Yea, same here. Some families (like mine!) don''t know how to be subtle. My grandmother would do that all the time. Once she said to my cousin (who has a weight problem), ''Do you really need to eat more?'' In front of 30+ people

Jeez...

 

[Liane]

I never comment on it. I might say "you look good!" to someone, but it''s because they''re having a good hair day or are wearing something exceptionally flattering, not because I think they''ve lost weight.

I''m a size zero and always have been, so I just feel awkward mentioning anyone else''s weight. Same impulse that makes me hide my own rings when I''m complimenting someone else''s and their stone is substantially smaller. It''s too easy for that to be taken the wrong way, I think.

 

[yssie]

Date: 12/15/2009 4:57:15 PM
Author: Liane
I never comment on it. I might say ''you look good!'' to someone, but it''s because they''re having a good hair day or are wearing something exceptionally flattering, not because I think they''ve lost weight.

I''m a size zero and always have been, so I just feel awkward mentioning anyone else''s weight. Same impulse that makes me hide my own rings when I''m complimenting someone else''s and their stone is substantially smaller. It''s too easy for that to be taken the wrong way, I think.

Ditto every word. I do sometimes think I worry too much, and that they wouldn''t notice either way, though!

 

[Skippy123]

I usually say you are looking great!!! Then sometimes they say oh I lost 10 lbs, etc. If someone says "oh you lost weight," it doesn't bother me. I actually did lose 35 lbs so it makes me feel good if they notice!

 

[Skippy123]

Date: 12/15/2009 4:45:23 PM
Author: fiery

Date: 12/15/2009 4:38:36 PM
Author: Bia
I wouldn''t necessarily mind if someone noticed I lost weight (Im currently - well still

- trying to drop 15lbs) but I do mind when people say, ''You look tired.''

Just tell me I look like hell, because that''s basically what you''re saying

Had this exact conversation with someone today. He passed by and said hello followed by ''you look tired.''

I said thank you.

He said ''is bored a better term?''

I said ''I understand why you are still single.''

lol

 

[that_someone_special]

In my group of friends, I ALWAYS comment.

A few years back, I dropped several sizes and one of my "friends" was just a snippy jerk about it. It was the first time I felt ok wearing sleeveless tops, shorter dresses... and she would basically tell me how horrible I looked. I think she was jealous, as she was my old size and was actually going up a size or two.

I never want any one of my friends to feel like THAT so I make a real effort in being supportive of weight-loss and the dreaded weight-gain. Over the past year another friend of mine lost a TON of weight and looked amazing- I was a bit jealous but kicked myself in the butt and got over it. It''s a huge deal in my opinion to lose weight and I applaud anyone with the willpower to do it!

In the same light, it makes me sad when said friends look at old pictures of themselves and talk about how ugly, fat and gross they are.

I admit, I do that as well. When can we just be happy with how we are? Stop living with, "Next week/month/year... I''ll look better" ..


Anyways.........

For me, as someone that has gone through the weight-loss thing, it felt good to hear that people saw the hard-work I did. I gained weight back and it still doesn''t bother people that people thought I looked good when I lost weight... if that makes sense.

 

[neatfreak]

I don''t directly say it but I *DO* say "You look great!" or something like that. I think people usually like to hear that they look great and normally if they have been trying to lose weight they REALLY appreciate hearing that they look good.

 

[April20]

It really depends. If I know them well and know that losing weight has been a goal, then heck yes, I''m going to comment on it. It''ll make their day.

If I don''t know them well or don''t know if it''s been something they''re working towards, I''m not going to say a word. Don''t want to open that box.

 

[iheartscience]

Date: 12/15/2009 6:54:50 PM
Author: April20
It really depends. If I know them well and know that losing weight has been a goal, then heck yes, I''m going to comment on it. It''ll make their day.

If I don''t know them well or don''t know if it''s been something they''re working towards, I''m not going to say a word. Don''t want to open that box.

Ditto!

 

[étoile]

Date: 12/15/2009 4:53:28 PM
Author: Bia

Date: 12/15/2009 4:48:19 PM
Author: hisdiamondgirl

Date: 12/15/2009 4:45:23 PM
Author: fiery

Date: 12/15/2009 4:38:36 PM
Author: Bia
I wouldn''t necessarily mind if someone noticed I lost weight (Im currently - well still

- trying to drop 15lbs) but I do mind when people say, ''You look tired.''

Just tell me I look like hell, because that''s basically what you''re saying

Had this exact conversation with someone today. He passed by and said hello followed by ''you look tired.''

I said thank you.

He said ''is bored a better term?''

I said ''I understand why you are still single.''

Good come back!

My family members have a knack for commenting on any little weight that my sister or I may gain. They don''t say it politely or like they''re concerned. It''s more like ''Wow, you''re getting faaaat!''

Yea, same here. Some families (like mine!) don''t know how to be subtle. My grandmother would do that all the time. Once she said to my cousin (who has a weight problem), ''Do you really need to eat more?'' In front of 30+ people

Jeez...

I''ve learned personally if someone is ignorant enough to make such comments then they will certainly continue their ignorance no matter how you look. Just be happy and healthy for yourself.

 

[monarch64]

Like others have mentioned, I base whether I''ll acknowledge an obvious weight loss on my dealings with that person. If I know he/she has been working toward a weight loss goal then of course I would congratulate them, especially if they tell me they''ve met their goal. If it''s someone I haven''t seen for a long time, I will just tell them they look great. However, there are situations that require sensitivity...if someone has been sick and didn''t mean to lose weight, then no way would I say anything. I find that most of the time people will give you cues as to whether it''s alright to say something or not. You just have to pay attention.

 

[junebug17]

Date: 12/15/2009 7:03:00 PM
Author: thing2of2

Date: 12/15/2009 6:54:50 PM
Author: April20
It really depends. If I know them well and know that losing weight has been a goal, then heck yes, I''m going to comment on it. It''ll make their day.

If I don''t know them well or don''t know if it''s been something they''re working towards, I''m not going to say a word. Don''t want to open that box.

Ditto!

I feel the same way!

And I also HATE when someone says I look tired. It implies I look terrible, and it serves absolutely no purpose.