Diamond search withdrawal syndrome "DSWS"

[OoohShiny]

Welcome to my world, just about as soon as I get something I am on the hunt again!

I think there really is something in us humans that likes a hunt and the thrill of the chase!

 

[whitewave]

It’s an obsession! The first weeks I came to PS i ended up with a notebook full of numbers. And angles and drawings and felt kind of crazy. My friends in real life became boring and I turned to PS for friends who understood that, of course, this diamond stuff was totally normal LOL
Now, sometimes to relax in the evening I pick a ceratin set of parameters of stone to search for and look at everything available before « choosing » one, or
Instead of reading myself to sleep I sometimes take my diamonds and loupe to bed.
Of course every vacation trip is preceeded by a google search for the estate jewelers in that area.
Etc. Etc.

I think I should have said addiction rather than obsession.
Diamonds are transporting.
Enjoy!
Sounds like your fiance’s stone is your gateway drug, I mean diamond.
Or, alternatively, get out while you can! It MAY not be too late! LOL

My DH and my sister found a page of my ciphering over new year's and they wanted to know if I heard voices too To them it looked like some kind of schizophrenic jibberish.

It did look pretty funny-- numbers with decimals all in pretty little rows

 

[Texas Leaguer]

Actually a lot of people just leave this forum once they’ve bought their diamond and showed it off in SMTB threads haha.

Agree, and it's a shame. At the risk of sounding sexist, I think it is a bit of a "guy thing". We tend to be mission driven, so once the goal is accomplished we are on to something else. And that is a waste of acquired knowledge. A lot of guys do a huge amount of research and learn so much that can be passed on. Women are generally better at paying it forward and community building. Which is why the answer to our political mess is to get more women into positions of leadership. But that is a subject for another forum.

What I think is powerful about this community is that you have so many different perspectives. By active participation of the whole community, a poster gets a range of advice and can determine for themselves what resonates.

The folks that decide to remain active here provide such a great resource for visitors trying to weave their way through the decision process of something both expensive and emotionally important. It's stressful! And hearing those voices of people who have been through the gauntlet, is really really helpful.

So stay connected. It doesn't have to be an everyday thing. Just pop back in and find a thread that can use your perspective. You will do much more good than you even know. For every poster here there are hundreds of lurkers who are the gaining insights they will use in their own personal quest.

 

[diamondseeker2006]

Staying connected costs you big bucks, just sayin’! I try to help other people, but that means I constantly see good deals and things I want for myself!!!

Lots of guys come back here for anniversaries so we can help you find diamond studs, pendants, tennis bracelet, etc. That’s a good plan!

 

[jadesilver]

Agree, and it's a shame. At the risk of sounding sexist, I think it is a bit of a "guy thing". We tend to be mission driven, so once the goal is accomplished we are on to something else. And that is a waste of acquired knowledge. A lot of guys do a huge amount of research and learn so much that can be passed on. Women are generally better at paying it forward and community building. Which is why the answer to our political mess is to get more women into positions of leadership. But that is a subject for another forum.

What I think is powerful about this community is that you have so many different perspectives. By active participation of the whole community, a poster gets a range of advice and can determine for themselves what resonates.

The folks that decide to remain active here provide such a great resource for visitors trying to weave their way through the decision process of something both expensive and emotionally important. It's stressful! And hearing those voices of people who have been through the gauntlet, is really really helpful.

So stay connected. It doesn't have to be an everyday thing. Just pop back in and find a thread that can use your perspective. You will do much more good than you even know. For every poster here there are hundreds of lurkers who are the gaining insights they will use in their own personal quest.

I think it’s more of a topic issue rather than a gender issue. The main reason is that many guys aren’t actually interested in diamonds in the first place. Like they aren’t obsessed with color, beautiful rings, different types of diamonds or someone wearing the most perfect stack, the way we are.

The diamond buying is more like a rather expensive task they have to do, so they get it done, thank us and leave.

To make a fair comparison, let’s say I need to make a prudent financial investment/decision, so I hop on a financial forum for advice, I get my answer, and I leave, because I find investing rather boring and confusing and I have absolutely no interest in learning the nitty-gritty about investment. Could be the same for guys and diamonds - there are cases where we just point them to the right diamond, wave at it and its corresponding Idealscope image very frantically that we think it’s the one, and the guy buys it.

There are also various male communities/forums out there that many guys choose to visit daily. So I’d say that it’s about interest levels rather than a lack of community-building.

Plus, sometimes it might not be healthy to be on a diamond forum regularly if you’re constantly tempted to buy more and bigger haha. I definitely find myself having to take breaks. And I am super grateful for the regulars who stick around and are constantly giving top-notch advice!

 

[Tourmaline]

Yes! I found and became obsessed with PS *after* we got my diamond!

 

[Vander_25]

I feel it a bit, I think mostly because I spent months learning so much info that is going unused now lol. I have been helping friends who are telling me I should write a book. Truth be told I’m still a novice but it’s fun helping other people. That’s mostly why I stop in from time to time here now. If I can give back in a way that the members helped me out with my purchase I’ll still be using that knowledge I picked up. However, after spending so much (for me) on the ring, next blingy gift for her might be a set of forever brilliant moissanite earrings for Christmas or something. The prices of those are crazy compared to diamonds, especially when you have student loans to pay off still.

 

[mrs-b]

Agree, and it's a shame. At the risk of sounding sexist, I think it is a bit of a "guy thing". We tend to be mission driven, so once the goal is accomplished we are on to something else. And that is a waste of acquired knowledge. A lot of guys do a huge amount of research and learn so much that can be passed on. Women are generally better at paying it forward and community building. Which is why the answer to our political mess is to get more women into positions of leadership. But that is a subject for another forum.

What I think is powerful about this community is that you have so many different perspectives. By active participation of the whole community, a poster gets a range of advice and can determine for themselves what resonates.

The folks that decide to remain active here provide such a great resource for visitors trying to weave their way through the decision process of something both expensive and emotionally important. It's stressful! And hearing those voices of people who have been through the gauntlet, is really really helpful.

So stay connected. It doesn't have to be an everyday thing. Just pop back in and find a thread that can use your perspective. You will do much more good than you even know. For every poster here there are hundreds of lurkers who are the gaining insights they will use in their own personal quest.

@Texas Leaguer -

I completely agree with this - which is why the men who hunt for so long would be so useful to those still looking. As in - "I'm gonna find the PERFECT diamond for *Lostanddesperate* in that PS forum if it's the last damn thing I do!!" That attitude is *exactly* what's needed by so many of the people who stick a nervous, inexperienced toe into PS.

Did you know there are 276 gendered differences discovered to date between the male and female brain - most of which have been discovered in the last 5 years but suspected to exist for centuries? Those differences could be a power used for good on Pricescope!

PS And apologies if there actually IS a member called Lostanddesperate!

 

[Texas Leaguer]

@Texas Leaguer -

I completely agree with this - which is why the men who hunt for so long would be so useful to those still looking. As in - "I'm gonna find the PERFECT diamond for *Lostanddesperate* in that PS forum if it's the last damn thing I do!!" That attitude is *exactly* what's needed by so many of the people who stick a nervous, inexperienced toe into PS.

Did you know there are 276 gendered differences discovered to date between the male and female brain - most of which have been discovered in the last 5 years but suspected to exist for centuries? Those differences could be a power used for good on Pricescope!

PS And apologies if there actually IS a member called Lostanddesperate!

@mrs-b
That's funny! And interesting.
I'm not surprised that modern science is finding differences in our brains, as it has been known for a few years that men and women are from different planets .

I do think the guys who stick around and help others offer a very worthwhile perspective. Maybe admin should start some new channels - a whiskey channel, or electronics or something. Get more guys hanging around.

More guys on the forum, more women in politics. My wish for the new year