ChinaCat
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Good points all around.
I also think it has something to do with your life being defined. When you're younger, everything is a possibility. What job you will have, who you will marry, where you will live, how many kids (if at all), etc. The more choices you make, the more defined your life is, and there's little to wonder about (of the big choices, I mean).
I only have one son and I was thrilled to have him. I didn't care if he was a boy or a girl. That being said, we plan on having #2 and I will admit that I will be sad if I don't have a daughter. I won't be sad to have another boy (I LOVE boys), but I will be sad to miss out on having a daughter. I am very close to my mom, I am a daughter and it seems alien to me to NOT experience that.
Then again, if we had a boy and a girl, I would be sad that they wouldn't have brothers or sisters. Meaning 2 boys or 2 girls. I love having a sister and think it's a unique bond. But I can't have it all!
When I had my son I remember thinking it was strange that that was one more part of my identity revealed. Like I am a mother. I am a mother of a son. Not a girl, not twins. Once we are done, there will be a wistfulness to the ending of the dreaming about what life will be like one day. Make sense?
I also think it has something to do with your life being defined. When you're younger, everything is a possibility. What job you will have, who you will marry, where you will live, how many kids (if at all), etc. The more choices you make, the more defined your life is, and there's little to wonder about (of the big choices, I mean).
I only have one son and I was thrilled to have him. I didn't care if he was a boy or a girl. That being said, we plan on having #2 and I will admit that I will be sad if I don't have a daughter. I won't be sad to have another boy (I LOVE boys), but I will be sad to miss out on having a daughter. I am very close to my mom, I am a daughter and it seems alien to me to NOT experience that.
Then again, if we had a boy and a girl, I would be sad that they wouldn't have brothers or sisters. Meaning 2 boys or 2 girls. I love having a sister and think it's a unique bond. But I can't have it all!
When I had my son I remember thinking it was strange that that was one more part of my identity revealed. Like I am a mother. I am a mother of a son. Not a girl, not twins. Once we are done, there will be a wistfulness to the ending of the dreaming about what life will be like one day. Make sense?