calibali
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Cehrabehra said:have you ever confronted this? I am curious the response. I'm pissed off FOR you!!!calibali said:All I can say is never be like my parents.
My parents started a college fund very early and put all of the money into a single account. When the oldest started college, they paid for everything as he bounced around several private universities without any apparent goals or motivation. Then the second child started college and again, they paid for everything no questions asked. Finally when I, the youngest, was set to start at a prestigious university I worked very hard to get into, I found out there was only enough left for 2 years of my education.
My oldest brother received about 3x the money I did and still hasn't graduated from college (12 years after he started). On the other hand, I got my degree in 3.5 years and only had to take out a couple thousand in student loans since I took on a part-time job and got several academic scholarships. I had always done the best in school but still got the short end of the stick, so it's hard not to be a little bitter about the whole situation. If my parents had only set gpa standards or a 4 year maximum, we could have avoided a lot of family strife (or maybe my brother would be the bitter one instead of me, ha).
Terrible and irresponsible planning.![]()
I was always an outspoken child and as soon as I found out what they had done, I made my disappointment and anger very clear. They could have supplemented the college fund, but they decided they didn't want to and I never really got an explanation for that (just that the college fund is IT and there will be nothing else). I also couldn't get any need-based aid, so I definitely worked very hard for a couple years to cover my own expenses. And as sillyberry mentioned, I had those crazy parents who paid for private school k-12 and then couldn't come through for college. In retrospect, all I see is financial mismanagement and wrong priorities on their part.
This all happened about 7 years ago, and our relationship has never been the same. I'm just thankful that I stuck with the school I wanted or my life would most certainly be very different.